tarponkid Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 I'm a 24 yr old, very attractive guy who's had a girlfriend for almost 3 years. Before her, however, I watched a lot of porn, and think I may have had an addiction, particularly cybersex. Although I felt absolutely content and in love with my girlfriend both emotionally and physically, I pursued cybersex anyway, and let it get out of control. Finally, about two months, I had a limited sexual encounter that I immediately regretted. Because of the shame and guilt, I told her about everything, we're recovering, and I know its because we both love each other very much and if its possible, she at least somewhat understood the situation and the nature of the thing. Still, I've had a ridiculous amount of guilt anxiety, and ive lately been dredging up everything questionable I've done when we were together and telling it to her because I think i'm a bad person, and I need to anxiety to go away for both of us. Lately, it's spread to some of the stuff I did before we were even together. When, and what is enough? What can I do to try and put this behind me, end the grief, and get on with my life, because sometimes I feel like she's doing it better than I am... Link to post Share on other sites
Padthai Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 You REALLY messed up and are lucky she is staying with you. I think, unless she tells you to stop, tell her everything you feel like. She probably wants to know seeing as how you lied to her so long about the cyber sex. You should feel guilty. Also, what does your being attractive have anything to do with this? What a weird thing to say. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 27, 2008 Share Posted December 27, 2008 You need to go talk to a therapist because it's become an addiction that's interferring in your life. Things will get better once you seek some counselling, not sure if you can do this on your own. I'm not putting you down, so don't think that..It's OK to ask for help, especially since it seems you have a gf who is willing to work with you through this difficult time. Link to post Share on other sites
moonshadow Posted December 27, 2008 Share Posted December 27, 2008 Also, what does your being attractive have anything to do with this? What a weird thing to say. I agree. What does that have to do with anything here? Link to post Share on other sites
Growingup Posted December 27, 2008 Share Posted December 27, 2008 If I am getting this right you prefer cybersex over the real thing? why? Link to post Share on other sites
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