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According to my male friends, man just wants a ''kind girl''. So how do I show my kindness? Some ideas from men and women please.

 

What is consider kindness to a man? Waiting for him for hours? Cooking for him? Having sex with him? Speaking in a soft tone? Cleaning up his house? What is it anyway?

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I have absolutely no idea!! But I will throuw a few things into the pot...

 

Maybe just try and make him feel special, like getting up and getting him the can for the fridge and opening it for him?? It's the little things that count!

 

But don't be over powering or clingy!!! Send him a nice text message, but then leave it!!! DOn't over-do it!!

 

Think we need a guys opinion on this..

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Apparently you should buy him gift certificates for a strip clubs, let him have sex with your best friend, and of course purchase him porn that he likes. :lmao: :lmao:

 

Dudes like tools and tech crap (so do I) :lmao:

 

Every guy is different. You gotta find which thing an individual finds important to them and do those things for them.

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What I'd consider kindness?

 

Making love.

Casual touching.

Making love.

Smiling at him.

Sitting on his face occasionally.

Enjoying what he cooks.

Making love.

Warm hugs.

Not complaining about things outside of his control.

Letting him kiss and carress you all over.

Kissing and caressing him all over.

Making love.

NOT making him wait for hours.

PAssionate kisses.

 

Men are more physical than verbal, you can say "I love you" a thousand times and it won't mean as much as a sweet kiss.

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I think I am gouing to have to use some of that material stoopid!!

 

I like a lad who has a lass and maybe this is the way forward.. touch him loads... give him him kisses and make love to him!!

 

Are guys really more physical than verbal???? I love physical touching mind you. I don't mean in a rude way, but just being touched is nice! I love ebing touched!!! Makes me feel really cared for. Personally I couldn't be in a relationship where physical contact was kept to a minimum.

 

Anyone else got any ideas??

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It's all about the little, almost trivial, things. Smiling when he gets to your place and you open the door. Complimenting him on things, usually stuff that he does. Calling if you're going to be late or offering to pick something up from the store on the way.

 

One time I was hanging out at a casino with a (now ex) gf. She went off to go use the restroom and when she came back she had a little lotion in her hand that she carried back across the casino just in case I needed some. :D I was like :love: .

 

One thing that's not cool, and that I see a lot of girls do, is being sweet to their man in private but once they're out in a group they rip on the guy in front of other people. I don't mean berate him, but make jokes at his expense that she wouldn't do in private. It's annoying as s**t when girls do this.

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Men are more physical than verbal, you can say "I love you" a thousand times and it won't mean as much as a sweet kiss.

 

Not only men. Actions speak louder than words. You may say things but if you dont cant accordingly - they mean nothing.

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Last week we were at a gathering and my friend (who is a guy) was so happy when his girlfriend fixed him a plate of food... I was like WTF? YOU are way too easy!

 

I agree it is the little things that make life so nice, but geez, fixing a plate of food?

 

Compliment the man

Show interest in his hobbies/work - LISTEN when he speaks!

Make him dinner

Do something for him that he would normally do for himself (shave his face?)

Grab his a$$ when he walks by... :lmao: :lmao:

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I just asked a caveman friend of mine.

 

His answer:

- praise him

- give him sex

- do not whine or bitch.

 

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I've also been wondering myself lately this very same question, what do guys mean with "kindness"?

 

An extremely interesting and very educated gentleman I've had the pleasure to engage in conversation with told me (not too long ago) that he appreciated women who were "generically" kind (i.e. kind to people in general, not only to people they are very close with), which got me thinking.

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I just asked a caveman friend of mine.

 

His answer:

- praise him

- give him sex

- do not whine or bitch.

 

You've really got to stop asking alphamale for advice. :p:laugh::laugh::lmao:

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My bf says I spoil him, being kind to him, but to me it's just what I'd do for anyone I cared about.

 

Things like:

Looking after them when they are sick

Giving him massages or rubbing his feet etc esp. when he's had a hard day

cooking for him.

Picking things up for him at the store.

Taping a show i think he'd like or a movie i know he wants to see if he's out.

Supporting him and letting him ramble on about stuff he loves even if I'm not massively interested.

Caring about his friends/family and asking how they are etc.

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I just asked a caveman friend of mine.

 

His answer:

- praise him

- give him sex

- do not whine or bitch.

 

-------------------------

 

I've also been wondering myself lately this very same question, what do guys mean with "kindness"?

 

An extremely interesting and very educated gentleman I've had the pleasure to engage in conversation with told me (not too long ago) that he appreciated women who were "generically" kind (i.e. kind to people in general, not only to people they are very close with), which got me thinking.

 

I look for this, too. How does he treat waiters/waitresses, taxi drivers, etc.; would he mow the lawn or shovel the walk for the little old lady who lives next door...?

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flexible christian

Treat him like he is the guy you want the most.

One thing i would not recomend to do is mush up on him alot.

Give each other some room.

On the other hand small things such as

"you are sweet, you are very cute, i love this about you, we should hangout some time etc.."

that type of stuff we man like to hear from females.

To us is a physical transulation that you are been kind.

Most important of all by your self at all times.

Those are my heads up to any girl welling to be kind to a guy.

Leave sex for a later time.

It all depends on what type of guy he is.

There is different set of guys as for girls.

Get to know him better and show him you care.

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It's all about the little things to show how much you really do like the guy. Most guys want their women to be princesses kinda like women want their men to be their knights in shining armor...of course this is all fantasy, but at times it is great for a girl to treat a guy like he is the only person that matters in their life.

 

For me, kindness really can't be described, but it can't be faked either...if you really like someone, it should come naturally. I find the most women I consider 'kind' are the ones that actually listen to what you have to say and genuinely ask you questions about your life. It may seem like nothing, but you'd be surprised how many girls I've gone out with that would never ask me any questions about my life.

 

It can also be things of monitary value...doesn't ever have to be at all expensive. I remember one day in college I had the worst day ever, and my gf at the time brought me my favorite ice cream. She knew it was my favorite bc we had been talking about our favorite ice cream a few nights earlier. That really blew me away, something as simple as that.

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I have got up at 4.30 in the morning and taken my SO at the time sandwiches, cookes and Orange Juice for him at work as there is no canteen there.

 

When he was on nights once, he had a really bad cough and being a man, (sorry if i'm stereotyping you all now), had no medication with him, so I got there at 11pm with cough mixture and various other things, including a computer mag. Bearing in mind he worked about 30 miles away from me and was foggy.

 

When it was his birthday, I decorated my car inside, so when he got in it, it was filled with balloons and decorations and a personalised home-made birthday card.

 

I know from how other g/f's in his life had given him low esteem so I always told him how attractive and horny I found him, not that it was a lie but its nice to be told, how I loved his company. He said I always made him feel good about himself.

 

He said that its these kind of things that makes me a kind & special person. Probably being able to give very good head as well came into it, well so he said. :laugh:

 

But being a bit more serious, I found a good credo, treat other people how you would like to be treated.

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