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Old 14th March 2019, 3:55 AM   #16
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Because we are curious human beings, doesn't mean we are interested though.
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Old 14th March 2019, 7:49 AM   #17
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She's realizing how stupid she is because the grass wasn't greener, it was brown and dried up.
Basically. Good luck to her and all the other joe schmo’s on there
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Old 14th March 2019, 9:52 AM   #18
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Meh...I've done what she did 1000 times when I was online dating.

A picture would go by and I'd click on it, thinking he looked decent and then when I'd get to the profile, I'd discover it was a profile I'd seen before and the guy looks like Lurch from the Adams Family - his thumbnail picture was deceiving.

Or, I'd see a picture of a guy I hadn't seen before and click on it, only to discover it was a profile I'd seen several times, but he'd updated or changed his main profile pic again making me think it was someone new. So I'd clicked on it, thus viewing his profile again.

It happens all the time, but it doesn't indicate a definite interest. It sure didn't on my part most of the time when I was doing OLD.
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Old 14th March 2019, 10:10 AM   #19
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One possible scenario.

One thing I was doing on match back when I was dating (6 years ago). Every monday evening, I was running a search for men with the characteristics I wanted (distance, education etc.) and then all candidates will show up in some kind of list.

I would click on the first profile and then click the next button until the last profile, thus viewing ALL of them.

Problem is that many on the list were the same men (or most on the list) every week , with fewer new ones. So I guess all of those guys, including guys I've been on dates with and I did't want to continue or they didn't want to continue thought I viewed their profile every week and I must be obsessed with them.

In fact, not only I wasn't interested, I was not even reading any of the profiles, just clicking next, so I can show up when they see who looked at their profile and thus increase my visibility. Plus, they thought I was interested in them, which prompted some to message me. Only after they messaged me, I really looked at their profile and decided if I should answer.

That's exactly what happened with my husband. He said he messaged me because I showed interest first. I didn't. I clicked next and he thought I looked at his profile.
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Old 14th March 2019, 7:55 PM   #20
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This isn't a random profile. They went on multiple dates then she ghosted.
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Old 14th March 2019, 9:18 PM   #21
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This isn't a random profile. They went on multiple dates then she ghosted.
Someone actually read my post in detail! Bravo!!

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Whats up man. I remember you from the original thread about this girl.

Two cents on her viewing my profile?
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Old 14th March 2019, 9:58 PM   #22
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I think the fact she viewed your profile is a lot less meaningful than the amount you care about it. It's probably nothing, if it were something she would contact you herself. Were I you, I would forget about it and go about my daily life.
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Old 15th March 2019, 4:44 AM   #23
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Curiosity. Nothing more.

Plenty of times I see OLD profiles of girls I've been on a date with before. Often I'll have a look at their profile to see if they've changed it, added pictures, see if it reflects what they were like when we met, or whatever else. It doesn't mean I lay awake at night thinking about whether I should've seen them again.
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Old 15th March 2019, 5:54 AM   #24
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Someone actually read my post in detail! Bravo!!

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Whats up man. I remember you from the original thread about this girl.

Two cents on her viewing my profile?
I read your post in detail. I can also spend two weeks intimately involved in a book and not recall having read it till I re-read the blurb.
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Old 15th March 2019, 8:05 AM   #25
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So did she click on it once, or has she been stalking you? It's hard to tell, the way you describe it.

Either way, maybe think of blocking her yourself, so you don't get dragged back into it? It seems to be affecting you quite a bit, for something so inconsequential.

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Old 15th March 2019, 8:09 AM   #26
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Curiosity killed the cat...

As others have stated, most likely out of curiosity, I myself have done this. Not having ghosted someone necessarily.

Either that or she did it by accident. Again I have also done this, noticed a particular person...then holy cats I've clicked on them.

I wouldn't think about it too much.
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Old 15th March 2019, 1:05 PM   #27
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All I can say is, be happy that anyone is looking at your profile.
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Old 16th March 2019, 5:03 AM   #28
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Someone actually read my post in detail! Bravo!!

Bonus Points for @thefinalword

Whats up man. I remember you from the original thread about this girl.

Two cents on her viewing my profile?


It's not a random accident. I don't buy that for a second. I get online and I don't randomly look at girls profiles that I don't like. Just look at it as being hilarious that she's viewing your profile. The best revenge is to live well. She knows she made a mistake. If she can't own it, humble herself and write you, then that probably explains why she's online looking for dates. I would make her do 100% effort, and even then I'd probably just ghost her. She may be trying to get your hopes up, hoping you'll make the first move. But don't do that. She has to admit her mistake in disrespecting you and ask for forgiveness, or there is no way I would reach out or anything of the sort.

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Old 16th March 2019, 7:07 AM   #29
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We don't know why she did what she did regarding the profile view, but it is a bit of a reach to think she regrets ghosting him.

On reading the old thread I think the issue stemmed from

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Then it happened. Things for some reason seem to slowly go downhill. The next day (Sunday) I texted her asking how the kid was. She says thanks for asking and he's doing better with meds. We send a couple texts back and forth and
the convo fizzles out.
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The convo fizzled out as either there was no real connection - nothing left to say.
OR
She realised she was not interested.
OR
Her kid being ill made her reset her priorities.
OR
She did feel the OP was all about sex and she didn't want that.
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Something else or a mix of reasons.

Suffice to say, the momentum died and she felt the best idea was to shut it all down.
It happens.
Move on.
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