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Old 16th September 2018, 12:27 AM   #1
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one of the guys im dating only contacts me once a week

I want to build a relationship and get to know him more so how do I get more dates/ contact? Should I, as a woman, text him myself or will I look desperate? I texted him myself a few times.
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Old 16th September 2018, 12:33 AM   #2
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ONE of the guys you are dating? Are you seeing a few / multidating?
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Old 16th September 2018, 12:38 AM   #3
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ONE of the guys you are dating? Are you seeing a few / multidating?
Only two at the moment. Details in previous threads
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Old 16th September 2018, 4:50 AM   #4
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I want to build a relationship and get to know him more so how do I get more dates/ contact? Should I, as a woman, text him myself or will I look desperate? I texted him myself a few times.
Let’s pretend that two people are dating and both are so afraid to look “desperate” that no one initiate contact - what would happen? Absolutely nothing.

Here is an idea: You could invite him to do something..?
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Let’s pretend that two people are dating and both are so afraid to look “desperate” that no one initiate contact - what would happen? Absolutely nothing.

Here is an idea: You could invite him to do something..?
Ok so I need to post more details since I messed up on our last date and kind of turned him off but I dont have time right now. I just asked him out on another date and he sort of rejected me because he said he was busy and i said i'd like to see him again and no response :/ I have a lot of good things going for me and have a great heart, good looks, good personality etc... but I always scare guys away and it sucks. Idk how to deal with being rejected.
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Old 16th September 2018, 1:14 PM   #6
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Well lets see....the one guy you called him out on swiping right on a dating app that turned out to be your friend. Obviously he's going to carefully back off from you. Why? he got busted that he is still actively looking. That should tell you it's not going to happen with him...he's out.



Like I tell everyone else, when they start making excuses like "oh ya I go this thing to go to, I'm not sure, I'll let you know, blah blah blah...he's done, and you better just drop him.


Why you are getting rejected? Because to them, they don't feel a connection, or the attraction isn't strong enough, don't like your personality, etc etc. It's the same reason why you are not interested in a guy.



You may look good on paper, but you are not right for everyone. This is why everyone dates, to see and feel if that person is right for them. You just have to keep looking that is all. Oh and you are not scaring them away, they are just not really that into you, or they don't like your laugh or have other prospects, or whatever.
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Sounds like he's not interested anymore and there's no point pushing it. You can't make someone like you. Next.
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Sounds like he's not interested anymore and there's no point pushing it. You can't make someone like you. Next.
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Old 17th September 2018, 12:34 AM   #9
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Well lets see....the one guy you called him out on swiping right on a dating app that turned out to be your friend. Obviously he's going to carefully back off from you. Why? he got busted that he is still actively looking. That should tell you it's not going to happen with him...he's out.



Like I tell everyone else, when they start making excuses like "oh ya I go this thing to go to, I'm not sure, I'll let you know, blah blah blah...he's done, and you better just drop him.


Why you are getting rejected? Because to them, they don't feel a connection, or the attraction isn't strong enough, don't like your personality, etc etc. It's the same reason why you are not interested in a guy.



You may look good on paper, but you are not right for everyone. This is why everyone dates, to see and feel if that person is right for them. You just have to keep looking that is all. Oh and you are not scaring them away, they are just not really that into you, or they don't like your laugh or have other prospects, or whatever.
He just texted me today and chatted with me, let me know how his weekend was, asked about mine and that was it. Does that mean hes interested?
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Old 17th September 2018, 4:30 AM   #10
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Well what would you expect if he's "one" of the guys your dating.
What you expect him to take you seriously or for anything more than a fling ?
l wouldn't be contacting you at all , if you turned up on my door step l might spend some time with you if l had nothing else goin on that day but that'd be as far as l'd bother.
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He just texted me today and chatted with me, let me know how his weekend was, asked about mine and that was it. Does that mean hes interested?
He's still interested. If he wasn't he wouldn't have texted you. The level of interest is questionable.
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Old 17th September 2018, 6:19 AM   #12
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He just texted me today and chatted with me, let me know how his weekend was, asked about mine and that was it. Does that mean hes interested?
Has he asked to see you?
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Old 17th September 2018, 6:56 AM   #13
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He just texted me today and chatted with me, let me know how his weekend was, asked about mine and that was it. Does that mean hes interested?
If he hasn’t made it crystal clear he wants to see you again by actually asking you out, then no he isn’t interested.
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If he hasn’t made it crystal clear he wants to see you again by actually asking you out, then no he isn’t interested.
To generalised of a statement. He is likely somewhat interested otherwise he wouldn’t have contacted at all.
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To generalised of a statement. He is likely somewhat interested otherwise he wouldn’t have contacted at all.
It’s too low. Otherwise he’d actually want to SEE her.
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