LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Romantic > Dating

How can you tell if a girl likes you? (Humour me)


Dating Dating, courting, or going steady? Things not working out the way you had hoped? Stand up on your soap box and let us know what's going on!

Like Tree111Likes
 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 6th March 2018, 10:26 PM   #61
Established Member
 
coledvids's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2017
Posts: 109
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jj66 View Post
You can use the word date if you want to. I never use the phrase hang out. I also do not generally use the word date. I just assume it's understood from context. One time a woman asked me afterward if this was a date. I answered by kissing her. Enough said.
In all honesty, I think she knows what's going on. We both ditch our friends to go and get a coffee. She sits in front of me in the cafe and plays with a bit of paper and laughs at every single thing I say. It's really obvious that this isn't just two friends hanging out.

The 'date' or 'hang out' debate sometimes I think is very relevant. Sometimes you do have to clarify, that's true.

I also overheard someone else asking her for a coffee today... and I overheard her hesitating and saying she was 'busy'. I asked once and she said yes. I'm not sure I need to really clarify what I'm trying to do.
coledvids is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 6th March 2018, 10:38 PM   #62
Member
 
Popsicle's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Posts: 8,663
You have sense colevids. I think you'll do well.
Popsicle is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 6th March 2018, 10:42 PM   #63
Established Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2014
Posts: 1,308
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jj66 View Post
You can use the word date if you want to. I never use the phrase hang out. I also do not generally use the word date. I just assume it's understood from context. One time a woman asked me afterward if this was a date. I answered by kissing her. Enough said.
Yes, and this shows the woman doesn't always know it's a date. She had to ask.

Men might say, "oh she SHOULD know". But the reality is she doesn't always know. See, for women, just friends is always a possibility.
Maggie4 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 6th March 2018, 10:46 PM   #64
Established Member
 
Jj66's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: East of Eden
Posts: 1,121
Quote:
Originally Posted by Maggie4 View Post
Yes, and this shows the woman doesn't always know it's a date. She had to ask.

Men might say, "oh she SHOULD know". But the reality is she doesn't always know. See, for women, just friends is always a possibility.
Happens for men too. A guy friend of mine met a woman for a hike. He thought it was a group thing because he had only seen her in a group setting and she was a group leader. He was surprised when it was just the two of them on the hike. He had to ask her if it was a date. It was and it turned out fine. They are getting married in June
__________________
"It's never too late to be what you might have been."
George Eliot
Jj66 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 6th March 2018, 10:47 PM   #65
Established Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2014
Posts: 1,308
Quote:
Originally Posted by coledvids View Post
In all honesty, I think she knows what's going on. We both ditch our friends to go and get a coffee. She sits in front of me in the cafe and plays with a bit of paper and laughs at every single thing I say. It's really obvious that this isn't just two friends hanging out.

The 'date' or 'hang out' debate sometimes I think is very relevant. Sometimes you do have to clarify, that's true.

I also overheard someone else asking her for a coffee today... and I overheard her hesitating and saying she was 'busy'. I asked once and she said yes. I'm not sure I need to really clarify what I'm trying to do.
From your description, you can tell that she wants to date you, but you can't tell if she knows YoU want to date HER. The more she's into you, the more she needs you to clarify.
Maggie4 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 6th March 2018, 10:48 PM   #66
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2016
Posts: 2,585
Quote:
Originally Posted by coledvids View Post
It's mad. I was on a six-month self-improvement quest, and I've only made it to three months.

Mad how cliches are just accurate, sometimes.
From what I remember you had a pretty shi--ty breakup. I'm so glad to see that you are at a point where you are excited about a new girl. Awesome!

You've also seemed to maintain your good guy badge. I never really had one until I met my ex - I handed it back in after her lol.

And yes, cliches don't come from nowhere - it's because they are mostly true. With this particular one, I think it has more to do with the lack of desperation to find a RL which in turn makes you more attractive. Funny how that works.

Now get in there!!!
SevenCity is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 6th March 2018, 11:06 PM   #67
Established Member
 
d0nnivain's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Northeastern USA
Posts: 28,006
coledvids

If the reason you cross paths isn't something you are economically dependent on to eat & pay the rent, there are work arounds for any "awkward."

That's not to say things will be awkward.

From what you have written things sound promising. Your pace sounds OK too. Keep interacting with her. Do break the touch barrier. For your next outing whether or not the Q includes the word "date", do figure out if at least a good night kiss is a possibility. That more than anything will tell you if this has potential.
d0nnivain is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 6th March 2018, 11:33 PM   #68
Established Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2017
Posts: 293
Quote:
Originally Posted by Maggie4 View Post
Yes, and this shows the woman doesn't always know it's a date. She had to ask.

Men might say, "oh she SHOULD know". But the reality is she doesn't always know. See, for women, just friends is always a possibility.
This is why I like online dating. You know it's a date right from the onset.
newyorker11356 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 7th March 2018, 1:10 AM   #69
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2013
Posts: 1,804
Quote:
Originally Posted by Popsicle View Post
What's wrong with using the word date? Please educate me.
Well, Pops, it may just be a personal thing with me. The short version is that it seems canned and rigid to me.

Maybe this is why.

We were sixteen years old. He told me a joke once as I stood with my back against the wall in the music hall where he swept floors and cleaned windows while I played the piano for voice students to practice. The joke was suspenceful, the person telling it slowly and methodically, moving ever closer and closer, then suddenly at the punch line jumping into you and kissing you right in the mouth! Which he did. I was stunned and he was embarrassed that he'd done it. It was awwwkkkwarrrd, to say the least....

Another time we had been discussing something and he abruptly popped out with, "Let's have a date over it!" In my mind I was like, "huh?" and felt panicked at the same time, hearing the words "we" and "date" coming from him in the same sentence. So, the thought of a guy asking for a date reminds me of him and seems awkward and goofy to me, as he was awkward and goofy and I believe is the only guy who's ever used the word date when asking me out.

Also, I like a guy to ask me to do something in a natural way, not to label it as if it needs to be defined. Same as I like a guy to kiss me when it feels right, rather than to ask. I like smooth flowing ways of relating...or energized ways, rather than ways that seem stiff and clinical, such as labeling and defining, etc., in a relationship.

Last edited by LivingWaterPlease; 7th March 2018 at 1:31 AM..
LivingWaterPlease is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 7th March 2018, 7:53 AM   #70
Established Member
 
act00's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: Arizona
Posts: 1,515
This young lady seems into you, and I think the next step is to ask out in an evening, dinner, a drink, something less daytime and "friends." Of course extend some affection, touching. Hand holding. If she's receptive to hand holding, the kiss will follow.

Someone asked me out, one-on-one. I thought date, but then he suggested something at like 2 o'clock on a Sunday...er, not date? That's more friendly, right? There was no touching, which is gentlemanly, and no kiss, so I honestly wasn't sure, but thought he was interested. You talk yourself out of it...why me, and he can't be interested in "that way" sort of thinking. Anyway, I say ask her out for something on the weekend, in the evening, something that if starting out as drinks can advance to dinner, or just ask her out for dinner...during a more "date" time, and agreed with the suggestions not to just ask to "hang out," but ask her out...take her out...I'd like to take you to that movie we were talking about. We can get something to eat before/after. Go for some subtle touching. Go in for the kiss.

As for maneuvering around your friends? Well, I think the cat is already out of the bag, but how to manage this can be discussed. She sounds like she wants to talk to her friends about it, so this might not be something that can be contained until you see each other awhile and decide to spill, but it's probably an option I would migrate towards. You don't need to get a group of people at this project getting involved in a budding relationship. Too much room for gossip and "sharing notes." If you spill to your pal, something gives you reservation, he could tell Jane who tells Mary who tells your girl...better to sequester at first. You'll figure it out.

Good luck. She seems interested and this is the "get to know you" phase, so have fun with it.
act00 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 7th March 2018, 11:51 AM   #71
Established Member
 
BarbedFenceRider's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2017
Location: Southwest
Posts: 498
BTW....Is your avatar a pic of you?

If it is....I'm gonna hang my hat on the bet she is in hook, line, and sinker....
BarbedFenceRider is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 7th March 2018, 3:14 PM   #72
Established Member
 
coledvids's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2017
Posts: 109
Lol, I didn't expect this thread to take off like this.

Anyway, I messaged her today a couple of times; not sure if she's busy or what but she doesn't seem that into it - lol. Has only replied once so far and yeah... I won't message again if I don't hear from her.


I do struggle with reading signs tbh - what if I've just misread the whole thing? How do I get her attention tomorrow without looking weird? So many questions. I'm nervous about seeing her too - lol.
coledvids is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 7th March 2018, 3:27 PM   #73
Established Member
 
alphamale's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Detroit, MI :lmao:
Posts: 33,403
Quote:
Originally Posted by coledvids View Post
Lol, I didn't expect this thread to take off like this.
you never know which thread is going to "take off". it's all pretty random
__________________
Indeed
alphamale is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 7th March 2018, 6:29 PM   #74
Established Member
 
coledvids's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2017
Posts: 109
Quote:
Originally Posted by alphamale View Post
you never know which thread is going to "take off". it's all pretty random
Indeed it is
coledvids is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 7th March 2018, 6:50 PM   #75
Established Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2017
Posts: 57
Hey man! Thanks for sharing here! Simple question:why do you ask her on a date and tell her straight up that it is a date? Whatever answer she gives you will be a good indicator of whether she likes you or not! if she does not, you can still have a civilized and decent relationship at this place. Just be honest and avoid confusion and you'll know right away!Keep moving forward!

Last edited by Aiuta le mani; 7th March 2018 at 7:00 PM..
Aiuta le mani is offline   Reply With Quote
 

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
a girl likes me that my friend likes and i'm still struggling with a break up calgary Friendship 1 25th February 2013 12:33 PM
Confusion - I like girl; I think girl likes me; girl on outs with previous boyfriend. masaki1085 In Search Of... 3 18th October 2007 5:44 AM
One of my friend likes this girl that likes me ... What do I do ? Mieq Friendship 0 20th February 2006 10:26 AM
the guy i like likes me and another girl who told me that she likes him ~sammy~000 General Relationship Discussion 4 25th January 2006 12:38 AM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 6:50 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2018 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.