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Old 3rd January 2018, 8:46 AM   #136
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OP: I'm sorry you're going through this. That being said, I agree completely with Marc878 and some of the other people who posted here. This woman, for one reason or another, is simply is not attracted to you.

She already gave you the friends spiel and said "I need to work on myself".. blah blah blah. It's another way of saying "It's not you, it's me"

This woman simply is not attracted to you. And honestly, she probably isn't the best choice for you since she is using this recent trauma to conceal her true feelings.

Don't contact this woman. Do your best to move on and find someone new.
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Old 13th January 2018, 9:06 PM   #137
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I reached out to her on Thursday just saying howís everything with your self and your grandmother? She answered quite fast saying she passed away last week and her funeral was that the Thursday (2days ago) I contacted her. I told her Iím her Iím sorry to hear that and I told her Iím here for you and if you want to talk or anything we can. She replied saying Thank you, and yeah maybe.
I responded back saying call me anytime, I know you have been going through a lot, it would be nice to hear from you.
All she sent to that is ď : ) ď
And I never responded to the happy face not quite sure what it meant. But opened the doors again to communication and now I havenít heard from her since itís been 2 days now. What do you think here?
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Old 13th January 2018, 9:40 PM   #138
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Itís over. Move on. You gave it some time, texted her, and her response was Luke warm at best. If she really wanted to talk she wouldíve took you up on your offer.

You might think you opened the doors to communication but she quite clearly closed them by sending that ďĒ in her last message.
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Old 13th January 2018, 10:36 PM   #139
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She'll be blocking you soon I suspect.

Stop projecting your feelings onto her. She first have any.

She being nice for now but that'll stop with the more pestering you do.

Quit acting like a lovesick puppy
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Old 13th January 2018, 10:37 PM   #140
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Desperate, clingy, needy, thinks too much of his love and abilities, and treats a woman like a queen!

What woman or girl wants such guy?

Mr. Nice Guy

Mr. Perfect!

Mr. Clingy

Mr. Needy!

Mr.never giving up on love!

Mr. Can't live a day without her, but here you are!

Alive and well!

Stop it!

Treat a girl how she wants to be treated, not a princess, not a queen but a human being! Don't put on her too much love, care, she is not your pet!
Don't put her on a pedestal! She is not a statue.

This is a lesson for you!

Don't ever do that again with a girl!

They all dump Mr. nice guy in the end!

Don't give your all in a relationship, then what is left of you if things went thought? Nothing!



But she found another guy just so you know

and when she was drunk on the 25th, she probably kissed another,

so she realized, she doesn't want to be a cheater!

She ended it!

If she is college, that means you both so young, just focus on your life, success, family and friends!

Move on!

then when you are ready, find another!

and don't ever be this clingy and needy and nice ever again!

Be a normal guy with faults and flaws who does nice things occasionally!

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Old 13th January 2018, 11:41 PM   #141
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Man you guys got nothing good say but just knock me down. Even though I donít know but I donít think she has done anything what are you talking balky the 25th? What? Just stop talking you absolutely donít know what my situation is and all you say is itís over. Easy for you to say and you telling me this crap give me a break. What a joke
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Old 14th January 2018, 3:16 AM   #142
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Sorry Hockey but the smiley face ended the conversation.

If you are so convinced this opened up communication then wait for her to contact you but a good indicator that she won't is that she didn't feel any need to speak to you at the time her grandma died.

Don't hold your breath waiting for her to get in touch.
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Old 14th January 2018, 3:36 AM   #143
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I reached out to her on Thursday just saying howís everything with your self and your grandmother? She answered quite fast saying she passed away last week and her funeral was that the Thursday (2days ago) I contacted her. I told her Iím her Iím sorry to hear that and I told her Iím here for you and if you want to talk or anything we can. She replied saying Thank you, and yeah maybe.
I responded back saying call me anytime, I know you have been going through a lot, it would be nice to hear from you.
All she sent to that is ď : ) ď
And I never responded to the happy face not quite sure what it meant. But opened the doors again to communication and now I havenít heard from her since itís been 2 days now. What do you think here?
She didn't call you to tell you her grandmother had passed away. That's very telling on where her mind is at these days. Sorry to say this and I'm sad for your sake, but her actions are actually is showing you that she isn't interested in keeping in touch or spending time with you anymore. If there was any hope she would've reached out on a friend level. She hasn't done that and right now she's still wanting space. So, give it to her. Focus on yourself, your friends and keep busy. Stop contacting her. If she is interested in pursuing or picking up where things were left before her grandmother got sick and passed away she will contact you and want to see and speak to you. In the meantime don't wait for her! Live your life and detach from her. Her signals for the past while say she isn't wanting you in her life. Sorry I'm sure reading that hurts, but I'm going by all that you'd said about her and that's the feeling I get from it all.
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Old 14th January 2018, 5:24 AM   #144
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Man you guys got nothing good say but just knock me down. Even though I donít know but I donít think she has done anything what are you talking balky the 25th? What? Just stop talking you absolutely donít know what my situation is and all you say is itís over. Easy for you to say and you telling me this crap give me a break. What a joke
That's because you continue to live in extreme denial. We are not knocking you down but rather trying to stop you from making a total fool out of yourself. How will you feel when you find out she is dating someone else? You'll kick yourself for clinging on to false hope when we all tried to warn you.

Proceed if you want, but you are not going to get the results you want with her.

She is not interested in you.
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Old 14th January 2018, 6:13 PM   #145
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I am sorry you are going through this. That message from your gf must have wrecked you psychologically speaking.

The things you need to consider is that she is done with you (and I am truly sorry that it turned out this way)

Those words that she has written will mess your mind up pretty bad maybe even cause you to consider ending your own life. But let me tell you that almost ALL the girls use somewhat similiar lines to what she sent to you. You are taking those words extremely seriously. Due to this, you will not be able to eat, you will not be able to sleep, it will affect your job/school work and pretty much its going to destroy you mentally. You will not be the same with people and you will start to push people away.

But in order to win in this situation you need to be able to see beyond what your mind is allowing you to see. That message she sent you is laughable. It is completely useless and it should NOT have any power over you. It is easy to say all these things but difficult to set into practice. But I know the outcomes of these situations and it could be terrible for you if you do not slowly cut yourself away from this girl.

You can say to her something like " I do agree with you that we should be friends. And I am sorry with all that you are going through this time. I also had some of the best days of my life with you. Wish you all the best in your life"

Now be a man, and start to pursue something with some other girl. If you could get this girl, you can get another. Do not try to see what she is doing or who she is going out with. Please continue to eat/sleep and live your life properly. This girl has made up her mind. Do not ruin your mental health and life on the decision of this girl who you spent some good days with. The reality of life is quite different to what we perceive it to be when we are growing up. This isn't Cinderella or beauty and the beast or some other disney love story. So please do not sit down in some corner and cry like a prince who has lost his princess. Men do all those things because our minds are too connected to all those fairy tales and less with reality.
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