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Old 27th August 2017, 7:05 PM   #76
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haha good good. one pic guys always scare me. it's like they are hiding something!!
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Old 27th August 2017, 7:06 PM   #77
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One picture and jumping straight to date to me is a guy very desperate to get a GF or ONS and leading using some dating rules that men read

But again, that's just based on my (limited) experience. Maybe chat a bit with him before the date - you'd get the best sense is he legit or not doing that (like you did with the other guy).

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Is there something I should be on the look out for?

I'm not sure why my description of him seems suspicious
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Old 27th August 2017, 7:10 PM   #78
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Nothing wrong with jumping straight to date IMO I prefer those guys vs too much waiting. Get see what he's like in person. One of mine turned out (95% sure) to be gay! Never would have picked up on it in writing lolz
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Old 27th August 2017, 7:11 PM   #79
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One picture and jumping straight to date to me is a guy very desperate to get a GF or ONS and leading using some dating rules that men read

But again, that's just based on my (limited) experience. Maybe chat a bit with him before the date - you'd get the best sense is he legit or not doing that (like you did with the other guy).
He has 2 more pics I didnt see

When he messages on OLD, he sends long messages but it takes him a few hours to message back. I like that because I dont want us to have so much communication to where we build things up too much before the date

I just messaged him my number. The date is on Tuesday and I dont have good service here

What I get from our convo so far is legit. He likes building/fixing things. He has a cat Bonus points! He's interested in what I'm about and wants to know about me.

Also a bonus that he lives right near me. I moved into my new house 3 weeks ago. Its in the country, its a small town and I dont know my way around yet so it'll be nice to date someone who does
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Old 27th August 2017, 7:16 PM   #80
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Nothing wrong with jumping straight to date IMO I prefer those guys vs too much waiting. Get see what he's like in person. One of mine turned out (95% sure) to be gay! Never would have picked up on it in writing lolz
Totally agree!

I've chatted with guys for days/weeks before meeting up. That excessive communication creates an illusion about who that person really is so when you meet...they're either not what you thought it would be...or they're a straight up let down

Best to just dive in assuming you click thus far

He did offer to pick me up but which I thought was a sweet offer...but this isnt my first time around the block
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Old 27th August 2017, 7:24 PM   #81
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Also a bonus that he lives right near me. I moved into my new house 3 weeks ago. Its in the country, its a small town and I dont know my way around yet so it'll be nice to date someone who does
Oh you got a new house! That's great, I remember the multiple pet constraints
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Old 27th August 2017, 7:29 PM   #82
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Oh you got a new house! That's great, I remember the multiple pet constraints
I'm renting a house for now but I LOVE it!!!

It's like a dream here!

My 4 cats and bunny in tow

This guy has a cat = Brownie points
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Old 27th August 2017, 7:37 PM   #83
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This guy has a cat = Brownie points
Guys with cats are for the win - head runners on patience.
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Old 28th August 2017, 1:24 PM   #84
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Tuesday guy sends long messages but only about 2 of them a day

I gave him my number last night and I havent heard from him

I dont like excessive communication before the date but maybe more than 2 messages a day. The date is tomorrow and I'm starting to wish we had more of a rapport than we do

Am I being too finicky?
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Old 28th August 2017, 3:46 PM   #85
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Am I Being Dumb???

He hasnt messaged/texted me at all today (Tuesday guy)

I'm kind of getting turned off

I'm not too enthused about the date now....I dont really want to go
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Old 28th August 2017, 3:52 PM   #86
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He hasnt messaged/texted me at all today (Tuesday guy)

I'm kind of getting turned off

I'm not too enthused about the date now....I dont really want to go
Just go It is a first date - if you don't like him no follow up needed.

Having said that - my gut says this guy is fishy, but who know - maybe your date will prove me wrong
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Old 28th August 2017, 4:00 PM   #87
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He hasnt messaged/texted me at all today (Tuesday guy)

I'm kind of getting turned off

I'm not too enthused about the date now....I dont really want to go
here we go again.....


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Old 28th August 2017, 4:01 PM   #88
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you mean like you gave him your number last night and he still hasn't text? thats weird. I would get turned off too
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Old 28th August 2017, 4:03 PM   #89
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you mean like you gave him your number last night and he still hasn't text? thats weird. I would get turned off too
Yup! I'm getting turned off for sure
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here we go again.....


TFY
Elaborate pls TFY

I'd like to hear a guy's perspective on this
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