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Old 11th August 2017, 1:12 PM   #106
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Why don't you just ask him "Hey, let's meet at xxx time on xxx day at xxx location. It is doens't work for you, can you propose an alternative time?"

And that's it. If he responds positively, you meet. If not, or doesn't respond - you move on.

Seems like you enjoy drama or feel powerless (putting it all on him to set dates).
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Old 11th August 2017, 1:15 PM   #107
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Why don't you just ask him "Hey, let's meet at xxx time on xxx day at xxx location. It is doens't work for you, can you propose an alternative time?"

And that's it. If he responds positively, you meet. If not, or doesn't respond - you move on.

Seems like you enjoy drama or feel powerless (putting it all on him to set dates).
She has done that already. She offered to see him this week at his convenience and he declined he said he was busy all week and did not offer an alternative. It would be too much for her to invite him again.
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Old 11th August 2017, 1:25 PM   #108
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Why don't you just ask him "Hey, let's meet at xxx time on xxx day at xxx location. It is doens't work for you, can you propose an alternative time?"

And that's it. If he responds positively, you meet. If not, or doesn't respond - you move on.

Seems like you enjoy drama or feel powerless (putting it all on him to set dates).
I kind of want her to do this...(yes, again) straight-forward just as you wrote it..especially the "can you propose an alt time?" I think she already knows how he will respond though
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Old 11th August 2017, 1:32 PM   #109
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I kind of want her to do this...(yes, again) straight-forward just as you wrote it..especially the "can you propose an alt time?" I think she already knows how he will respond though

That would be trying to corner him into a date. When you're down to doing that might as well give up of your own will.
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Old 11th August 2017, 3:02 PM   #110
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That would be trying to corner him into a date. When you're down to doing that might as well give up of your own will.
Not to corner him - if I invite a friend out that's exactly what I'd say. Why it should be different for a date?
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Old 11th August 2017, 3:19 PM   #111
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Not to corner him - if I invite a friend out that's exactly what I'd say. Why it should be different for a date?
In this story here it would be.

She asked him if they could go out this week, her treat and he declined without offering an alternative date.

Then she would invite him AGAIN a couple of days later but ask for a definite date?

Girls...when we're down to doing this it's because it's not meant to be.

He's a grown man with a full brain. He doesn't need her to spell it out step by step for him.
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Old 11th August 2017, 3:25 PM   #112
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But she wasn't specific - if someone doesn't give me date+time+location that's not an invite. She's playing coy and this behavior is playing against her.

Even if it is not meant to be, she'll get closure if she receives no response.

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In this story here it would be.

She asked him if they could go out this week, her treat and he declined without offering an alternative date.

Then she would invite him AGAIN a couple of days later but ask for a definite date?

Girls...when we're down to doing this it's because it's not meant to be.

He's a grown man with a full brain. He doesn't need her to spell it out step by step for him.
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Old 12th August 2017, 6:57 PM   #113
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Just feeling like I need to vent. I feel like if I hadn't turned him down in the way that I did, then tonight I would be there cuddling with him and spending time with him, but because I suddenly seemed so adverse to us cuddling up and sleepovers that he feels he can't ask me over for that. It wasn't that I didn't want to see him, sleepover, and be with him in that way. I think I just wanted it to be more thoughtful and less like a booty call. I guess after me being away on vacation all week, I thought he would have wanted to see me for more of a date setting so we could have caught up and talked, and then sleepover.

I'm just feeling guilty right now and need to get it out. I do think he is truly busy with work. I hope he does come around. I just feel bad because we had regular sleepovers and dates, and now nothing. He told me this week is no good. But I am shocked that he didn't even want a sleepover all week. Just makes no sense to me. Even if you were busy, wouldn't you like to fall asleep next to the girl you like, even if thats all the time you had? Maybe he just wants some time alone after long days to pass out and re-coop. I will never know. And he's been liking stuff on social media all day, from work, but not texting me, and I don't get it.

I tried. Last time we texted he messaged me Wednesday, we went back and forth. He stopped responding. I messaged him Thursday, and he never responded. But went on social media. Haven't heard from him all day. Its Saturday.

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Old 12th August 2017, 7:47 PM   #114
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But I am shocked that he didn't even want a sleepover all week. Just makes no sense to me. Even if you were busy, wouldn't you like to fall asleep next to the girl you like, even if thats all the time you had?
Sweetie, this cuddling gets old pretty fast with men, especially 24 years old men. It's better to not sleep next to each other if you don't intent on having sex.

A guy that likes you will not give up on you because you clarified things with him. If that's all it took for him to be turned off and not want to see you again than he was not THAT interested to start with. You did fix things right away by inviting out on a date so the incident on text is a thing from the past.

You are not gf-bf, he said he was busy, wait it out.
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Old 13th August 2017, 10:18 AM   #115
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I talked to him today. I sent a message this morning "good Morning"

he responded with "hey!"

I said "How is everything going?"

He said "Oh its going. Final day of mayhem"

I did not respond. My mother urged me not to, saying it didn't warrant a response. But I think it does. I feel conflicted.
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Old 13th August 2017, 10:35 AM   #116
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I like the part where he asked how your day was going
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Old 13th August 2017, 10:43 AM   #117
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I thought the same thing. That is why my mother suggested I don't respond.

I'm bummed for sure. It reminds me of talking to my ex. And he's an ex for a reason. Its just sadly not what I am looking for. I like him. Yes. But I don't want to feel like I am not important. I am currently talking to man through texting whom I met online. He messages me every day, asks all about me. In detail too, down to what I ate for dinner and how I cooked it. Its nice to feel like someone cares.

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Old 13th August 2017, 10:49 AM   #118
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You should just stop responding for eternity. And Delete his number so you're not tempted to. Focus on this other guy. He sounds way better
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Old 13th August 2017, 10:52 AM   #119
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I didn't read the whole thread but OP, why are you so hung up on a guy you met a month ago who isn't giving you attention? The dude looks like he is playing games and if he's butthurt and sulking over one sleight, that's some maturity right there. What a winner. Have some self respect. Like Beyonce said, "To the left, to the left".
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Old 13th August 2017, 10:54 AM   #120
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I talked to him today. I sent a message this morning "good Morning"

he responded with "hey!"

I said "How is everything going?"

He said "Oh its going. Final day of mayhem"

I did not respond. My mother urged me not to, saying it didn't warrant a response. But I think it does. I feel conflicted.
Your mom is right. There's nothing to respond to. Notice he didn't ask you anything?

He's not interested anymore, girl.
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