Celeste.Carol Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 I have had the strangest experiences on OLD and have had my reservations about it. I could not understand some behavior, but thinking about it, I have been propositioned many time and it was for prostitution!!!! The one guy, right away, food and sex before any ongoing conversation, you spoil me and I will spoil you= prostitution. Many profiles, I wondered if the one pic of some handsome man was real, and in the name is something like pamper, then the guy says something that now that I look back was code for an exchange of sex for pampering. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Celeste.Carol Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 (edited) I am dressed, do not think I look like a prostitute, but maybe there is a ring of them on the site. Maybe the sex worker's profiles do not look like an escorts profile, but I would think there would some clues! Edited October 9, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Some guys look at any dating situation or relationship as a form of prostitution. It comes from most women's insistence that a man must pay for dates. A man must buy Valentine's Day presents, birthday presents, Christmas presents ... on and on. Must pay for this and that up to marrying him, divorcing him and taking half of everything he has worked for. As long as there is this dynamic where a man must pay to spend time with a woman (and get sex at some point), some folks will view those interactions as indirect prostitution at best. He probably didn't see you as a prostitute per se. Just a woman. Looking for a date. Many are cutting out the BS and getting to the essence of the exchange - he buy you a meal, you put out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Celeste.Carol Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 Some guys look at any dating situation or relationship as a form of prostitution. It comes from most women's insistence that a man must pay for dates. A man must buy Valentine's Day presents, birthday presents, Christmas presents ... on and on. Must pay for this and that up to marrying him, divorcing him and taking half of everything he has worked for. As long as there is this dynamic where a man must pay to spend time with a woman (and get sex at some point), some folks will view those interactions as indirect prostitution at best. He probably didn't see you as a prostitute per se. Just a woman. Looking for a date. Many are cutting out the BS and getting to the essence of the exchange - he buy you a meal, you put out. Problem is I can afford my own meal and my own stuff. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Celeste.Carol Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 Plus looking back these were warmers to get to an negotiation over exchange of money. I did not see any of this BS promised on their commercialized ads. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Some guys look at any dating situation or relationship as a form of prostitution. It comes from most women's insistence that a man must pay for dates. A man must buy Valentine's Day presents, birthday presents, Christmas presents ... on and on. Must pay for this and that up to marrying him, divorcing him and taking half of everything he has worked for. As long as there is this dynamic where a man must pay to spend time with a woman (and get sex at some point), some folks will view those interactions as indirect prostitution at best. He probably didn't see you as a prostitute per se. Just a woman. Looking for a date. Many are cutting out the BS and getting to the essence of the exchange - he buy you a meal, you put out. Some men may though not all men do. For me to pay for the dates shows a woman that I value her and am serious about wanting to have a relationship with her. This action is about a man showing that he is willing and gladly wants to provide for the woman in his life. Yes I want sex. Though I am willing to take my time getting there because I am looking at the long term picture first. Actions speak louder then words. Paying for the dates is all action. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Some men may though not all men do. For me to pay for the dates shows a woman that I value her and am serious about wanting to have a relationship with her. This action is about a man showing that he is willing and gladly wants to provide for the woman in his life. Yes I want sex. Though I am willing to take my time getting there because I am looking at the long term picture first. Actions speak louder then words. Paying for the dates is all action. You take her out on a nice date costing $200 or more you going yo be disappointed if you font get some??? Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Problem is I can afford my own meal and my own stuff. Good. That's the best way to change the perception. Pay your own way. If women are to truly be equal to men, then that must happen on a broader scale. Unfortunately, you face an uphill battle. Even after many years of feminism and fighting for equal rights, many women are revulsed by the idea of paying their own way. Thus, money will still be exchanged for sex indirectly through dinners, gifts ... alimony. And some men will still view those exchanges as essentially prostitution. Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Well as someone who has battled with dating, eventually you just become inclined to throw money at it and hope the results are better. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 (edited) I am dressed, do not think I look like a prostitute, but maybe there is a ring of them on the site. Maybe the sex worker's profiles do not look like an escorts profile, but I would think there would some clues! My dear, in this day and age, chances are, you are dealing with someone who is using OLD as a front for other activities. The OLD sites really don't care who is doing that as long as revenue is being generated for the site. IME, 50% of the profile are fake/scammers. On any picture you look at online, if you've got the plug in for google images, find it and add it to your browser so you can right click and see if that picture has been stolen from someone's facebook account (and this goes for LinkedIn, too--check those photos). The same goes for their profile. Copy and paste parts of their profile into google and search it. You will be stunned by how many similar pages google spits back at you. Finding someone who is who they say that are on there is getting to be rather rare nowadays. You're female, you're breathing and they liked your pictures. That's what it boiled down to. Just block them and keep it moving. You can't control what people will take away from what they see. I seriously doubt any guy would pass approval right now Edited October 9, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Author Celeste.Carol Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 This was not about a man passing approval, but about men not wanting a date, but trying to decipher whether you are an escort. Big difference between wining n dining and buying an escort. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Some guys look at any dating situation or relationship as a form of prostitution. It comes from most women's insistence that a man must pay for dates. A man must buy Valentine's Day presents, birthday presents, Christmas presents ... on and on. Must pay for this and that up to marrying him, divorcing him and taking half of everything he has worked for. As long as there is this dynamic where a man must pay to spend time with a woman (and get sex at some point), some folks will view those interactions as indirect prostitution at best. He probably didn't see you as a prostitute per se. Just a woman. Looking for a date. Many are cutting out the BS and getting to the essence of the exchange - he buy you a meal, you put out. Excellent post that sums it up to a tee. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 This was not about a man passing approval, but about men not wanting a date, but trying to decipher whether you are an escort. Big difference between wining n dining and buying an escort. Doesn't matter. You're not in the head space for wining and dining as long as your attitude is "meh" when someone asks you out. Link to post Share on other sites
chapter44 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Even more reason to take a break from OLD. Given what I've read in your last posts I think your previous volatile relationship has caused you to have some lingering trust issues. I'm a firm believer that "like attracts like". In a few months once you've healed from the past guy and have a different perspective your results will be much different. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 You take her out on a nice date costing $200 or more you going yo be disappointed if you font get some??? The short term goal for you is to get laid that night. My goal is to have a long term relationship if I was single. So there will be no disappointment. I was never about trying to impress when on dates. The goal was to have fun and get a second date. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Some guys look at any dating situation or relationship as a form of prostitution. It comes from most women's insistence that a man must pay for dates. A man must buy Valentine's Day presents, birthday presents, Christmas presents ... on and on. Must pay for this and that up to marrying him, divorcing him and taking half of everything he has worked for. As long as there is this dynamic where a man must pay to spend time with a woman (and get sex at some point), some folks will view those interactions as indirect prostitution at best. He probably didn't see you as a prostitute per se. Just a woman. Looking for a date. Many are cutting out the BS and getting to the essence of the exchange - he buy you a meal, you put out. The funniest comedy is about the truth. This parody of those old Diamond commercials says it all. They call it the oldest profession because in caveman days it was like... Ugh bring fish to Rurgh. Rurgh open up for Ugh? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 I always have to laugh when I see profiles claiming to know how to take care of a woman... The long descriptions of the romantic times you could be doing together... Says nothing about their values or what they are really looking for....Fish, meet bait. So there you go. Stop responding to the it's too good to be true baloney. If you were reeled in by the 'pampering' comment, I mean, what did you expect? Something for nothing? Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 (edited) For me to pay for the dates shows a woman that I value her and am serious about wanting to have a relationship with her. This action is about a man showing that he is willing and gladly wants to provide for the woman in his life. That hasn't been my experience at all. Actions speak louder then words. that I agree with. Paying for a date is one of the easiest and laziest thing a guy can do if you ask me. It doesn't indicate anything other than he has money. Big deal. OP, if you want to sort out the fast talkers, only respond to men who have similar, demonstrate able interests. Edited October 9, 2015 by RedRobin Link to post Share on other sites
Stage5Clinger Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 (edited) I am dressed, do not think I look like a prostitute, but maybe there is a ring of them on the site. Maybe the sex worker's profiles do not look like an escorts profile, but I would think there would some clues! Read something somewhere (maybe on here) where a guy was offering random girls on Facebook money for sex and was succeeding. There is something to be said about that. Edited October 9, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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