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I'm sure this has been posted before, but ladies, any suggestions when it comes to gym pickup? I just moved to a different city, don't have any friends here yet, I want to stay away from the bars especially since summer is around the corner and I'm trying to get back in shape so I've been spending an hour or two in there a day, and it would be nice to meet someone with the same goals as myself. I've seen one or two eyeing me up at the gym (although it might be in my head lol)....I've heard there is a bad stigma associated with pick up at the gym.

 

Any tips, suggestions, or is it just a bad idea altogether especially since I'm not some huge meathead they might go for.

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I'm sure this has been posted before, but ladies, any suggestions when it comes to gym pickup? .

 

- Sure, make sure they can't bench press more than you can :laugh:

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fitnessfan365

As a personal trainer, I've worked in many gyms. So I've seen a ton of guys try to pick up women and it never goes well. It's almost an unwritten law that gym pick up is in bad taste. Tons of women in gyms wear headphones now. It isn't just to listen to music, but also to prevent men from talking to them.

 

However, one of my favorite forms of irony is this. You have fit women going online because they don't want to be approached at the gym. However, on their profiles they complain about fat guys writing them and stress they only want men who are in shape. Maybe if they'd be receptive to being approached at the gym, they'd actually meet men that are active and into fitness.

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OP, do not approach while she is working out. But when you notice her walking in, catch her eye and smile. Do this for awhile. Let the tension build.

 

Then, after a few days of this, as she is leaving, you leave at the same time (make it seem like a coincidence) and introduce yourself. Tell her you are getting a bite to eat, and ask casually if she'd like to join you.

 

If she can't ask her for her number. :)

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I think a good time personally for me would be before she starts working out. When I am in my zone I dont like to be bothered. I have my headphones in and it's "me time". If she is seriously into working out, then she will find it really annoying if approached in the middle of her workout. While leaving, maybe but some girls like to rush to the locker room to "fix themselves".

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OP, do not approach while she is working out. But when you notice her walking in, catch her eye and smile. Do this for awhile. Let the tension build.

 

Then, after a few days of this, as she is leaving, you leave at the same time (make it seem like a coincidence) and introduce yourself. Tell her you are getting a bite to eat, and ask casually if she'd like to join you.

 

If she can't ask her for her number. :)

 

Yeah, this would be perfect!

Goodluck finding your swolemate :D I am dating one right now!!

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OP, do not approach while she is working out. But when you notice her walking in, catch her eye and smile. Do this for awhile. Let the tension build.

 

Then, after a few days of this, as she is leaving, you leave at the same time (make it seem like a coincidence) and introduce yourself. Tell her you are getting a bite to eat, and ask casually if she'd like to join you.

 

If she can't ask her for her number. :)

 

This is actually GREAT advice. But I've personally seen members come in at all different times. So not everyone has a set time they workout at every day. That's why it would suck if you try to lay ground work on day one, and then you never see her again after that.

 

That's why the only adjustment I'd make would be to try and get multiple signs of interest on the day you see her, and then plan your exit to get her number. That way you can plan a future date, and not have to rely on possibly bumping into her again.

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I think approaching women in a gym is a but creepy. As a girl, you want to feel like you can just do your thing, get all sweaty, without being aware that guys are checking you out.

 

How about trying something active that has more of a natural social angle. A martial art, a mixed sport team, even crossfit? Conversation will come more naturally and you can get to know a girl over a couple of weeks.

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I think approaching women in a gym is a but creepy. As a girl, you want to feel like you can just do your thing, get all sweaty, without being aware that guys are checking you out.

 

How about trying something active that has more of a natural social angle. A martial art, a mixed sport team, even crossfit? Conversation will come more naturally and you can get to know a girl over a couple of weeks.

 

At the same time though, aren't you working out to keep your body fit to attract male attention? Also, chances are that if you're taking pride in your body and your health, that you want a guy that has that same lifestyle. So it only makes sense that you'd meet that type of guy in a gym.

 

Granted, you don't want a socially awkward guy or a perverted creeper hitting on you. However, if you can meet a confident, attractive, and sociable guy at the gym that loves fitness like you, you're off to a good start.

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As a personal trainer, I've worked in many gyms. So I've seen a ton of guys try to pick up women and it never goes well. It's almost an unwritten law that gym pick up is in bad taste. Tons of women in gyms wear headphones now. It isn't just to listen to music, but also to prevent men from talking to them.

 

However, one of my favorite forms of irony is this. You have fit women going online because they don't want to be approached at the gym. However, on their profiles they complain about fat guys writing them and stress they only want men who are in shape. Maybe if they'd be receptive to being approached at the gym, they'd actually meet men that are active and into fitness.

 

Plus even if you do pick them up and things don't work out, going to the gym just becomes awkward. I've done this a few times and its made me swear off talking to gym girls.

 

OP, probably the best places are the stretching mats or sauna if you have either of those. Usually the workout is over if they are in either area, and they are feeling good with all the post workout hormones floating around in their heads. Just don't be creepy in the sauna, cause that can get weird really fast!

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At the same time though, aren't you working out to keep your body fit to attract male attention? Also, chances are that if you're taking pride in your body and your health, that you want a guy that has that same lifestyle. So it only makes sense that you'd meet that type of guy in a gym.

 

Granted, you don't want a socially awkward guy or a perverted creeper hitting on you. However, if you can meet a confident, attractive, and sociable guy at the gym that loves fitness like you, you're off to a good start.

 

Join a gym with juice bar where members hang out before and after their work out!

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Join a gym with juice bar where members hang out before and after their work out!

 

Or if your gym doesn't have a juice bar, and you can't find one that does, start hanging out at one anyway, health conscious people can always be found there.

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At the same time though, aren't you working out to keep your body fit to attract male attention? Also, chances are that if you're taking pride in your body and your health, that you want a guy that has that same lifestyle. So it only makes sense that you'd meet that type of guy in a gym.

 

Granted, you don't want a socially awkward guy or a perverted creeper hitting on you. However, if you can meet a confident, attractive, and sociable guy at the gym that loves fitness like you, you're off to a good start.

 

Actually I don't work out to attract male attention. I work out because "I" want to stay fit and healthy for myself...

 

If the end result of that nets positive attention from men..that's a bonus, but I don't work out for that reason.

 

I know I'm weird, you don't have to say it.... :)

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Join a gym with juice bar where members hang out before and after their work out!

 

Haha.. That's awesome. The idea of a guy walking up to a woman and saying "Can I buy you a protein shake" is hilarious. Who needs a bar, when you chat over smoothies? :D

 

This reminds me of a story. Back when I was in a gym, I was working with a client upstairs. This woman stopped at the top of the stairs, and just started staring at me. Hands down one of the hottest women I've ever seen in my life. We held eye contact and we smiled for like 30 secs. She even started biting her lip (love when women do that. It actually felt like we were eye ball screwing each other..LOL Then as she went down the stairs, she continued to stare me down the whole time.

 

However, it's not like I can tell my client "Hold on, I need to go get that girl's number". So ten mins later when the session was over I went down stairs and looked for her every where. Nowhere to be seen. I also never saw her in the gym again after that. I still think about it from time to time, as one of the women that got away. It's silly because I don't even know what she was like as a person. But that type of immediate intense shared attraction is RARE.

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Join a gym with juice bar where members hang out before and after their work out!

 

- If they serve margarita's, I'm there :laugh:

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Well, hell, you don't ask her if you can buy her a smoothie lol, just hang out and start casually chatting silly.

 

Smoothies are fattening anyway..I usually order shots of the wheatgrass juice!

 

Do shots together! :D:p

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I approach women at the gym when I notice them noticing me. Even then, I never just go up to them like I was in a bar/club and had to get her number now. However, once the ball starts rolling, I don't delay either because "letting the tension build" can also get...boring and kill it. It's not the bar scene, but it's also not highschool. Take too long and she moves on.

 

I find that women will usually initiate with me. They'll do things that will make it easy for me to start a conversation or continue it or they just look at me a certain way. Some women are pretty good at it, some women are pretty awkward.

 

It's been things as small and random as me picking up what ever they dropped near me and handing it back to them (or even just opening the door for them) and them thanking me profusely. Or they bump or brush against me walking by and stop to apolagize to me. Small random things that some people here will say means nothing. But it's your chance to start talking with her and not just say, 'no problem :)!' and walk away.

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Haha.. That's awesome. The idea of a guy walking up to a woman and saying "Can I buy you a protein shake" is hilarious. Who needs a bar, when you chat over smoothies? :D

 

This reminds me of a story. Back when I was in a gym, I was working with a client upstairs. This woman stopped at the top of the stairs, and just started staring at me. Hands down one of the hottest women I've ever seen in my life. We held eye contact and we smiled for like 30 secs. She even started biting her lip (love when women do that. It actually felt like we were eye ball screwing each other..LOL Then as she went down the stairs, she continued to stare me down the whole time.

 

However, it's not like I can tell my client "Hold on, I need to go get that girl's number". So ten mins later when the session was over I went down stairs and looked for her every where. Nowhere to be seen. I also never saw her in the gym again after that. I still think about it from time to time, as one of the women that got away. It's silly because I don't even know what she was like as a person. But that type of immediate intense shared attraction is RARE.

 

Lol, what's up with all these women you meet " biting their lips"? You speak about it quite often, it's hilarious!

 

I have never bitten my lip in my life! No matter how turned on, or sexually aroused I am. Nor have any of my friends; I asked them. Nor have any women my bf has been with.

 

I haven't even seen women "biting their lips" in porn! Which my bf and I watch quite often.

 

Anyway, my question was rhetorical .... I just think it's hilarious that you have met so many women that do this upon meeting you...:bunny::bunny:

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Hard to say whether it's worth a shot or not...

 

 

I rarely witness men approaching women at the gym. And even so, it's never an approach in the sense that they are asking for a date or for their number, but moreso just chatting with them in a friendly way. There are a handful of women that I regularly see there, that I notice men eyeing up or purposely getting near them on a regular basis, but I've never witnessed one of them actually being asked out.

 

 

For the most part, at least at my gym, people leave each other alone other than pleasantries and politeness. It's sort of a get in and get out kind of place.

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Hard to say whether it's worth a shot or not...

 

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- you can say that again.

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Female trainer here and agree with FitnessFan....bad idea to approach a woman with her headset on. Some females (such as myself) are serious about their workouts, and they don't like to be disrupted. I've had it happen a lot and I do my best to avoid men I suspect might be trying to approach.

 

 

What someone else wrote, about smiling if you see them before they start, I think that's a much better idea.

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