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I am in a committed relationship with an amazing woman. We are both free spirited when it comes to sex but one thing she doesnt care for is taking nude pics. I respect this but also think it would be a turn on because she has such an amazing body.

 

Occasionally she will let me take pics and even though she agrees they are hot she makes me delete them from my phone. She will even take nude selfies when we are together (her phone) but she never sends them to me if they show "too much boob, nip or any bush".

 

Twice while out with the girls her friends told her to send me boob pics (gotta love her friends!). They took some but what she sent me was minimally revealing.

 

Here is where it gets interesting:

 

Prior to us, she has a few "girls night" pics where they all pull their shirts up. Apparently its ok to take boob pics when your out with the girls!?

 

The few hot pics we have kept (body painting, skinny dipping, cuddling) she has shown to her friends.

 

The other day, thinking I was funny, I sent her a pic of our sex toys wrapped in Xmas lights. She sent it to her girlfriends!?

 

Honestly I have never and would never show our pics to anyone. I love and respect her too much. It feels like she doesn't trust me and that hurts. Its also strange to me that she would show her buddies our pics.

 

This is a small glitch in a wonderful and growing relationship but it just seems weird to me. Thoughts on this? Sorry so long!

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Michelle ma Belle

A glitch? It's a wonderful and growing relationship so why focus on the one (and apparently) only thing she's not yet comfortable doing with you? Will her nude pics make or break your relationship? I doubt it.

 

If the nude pics are THAT important perhaps you might consider taking them without exposing her face. At least if things go belly up and you decided to become a douche and share those revealing pics, it will be her word against yours.

 

My advice? Don't rock the boat. Be grateful for what you have because many men (and women) can't say the same about their partners and relationships.

 

When it feels right it will happen. And if it doesn't, you still have all the other luscious moments to feed off of.

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I completely agree with both of you: not rushing it or rocking the boat over this one. It just that damm Hugh Hefner fantasy acting up again LOL

 

The only part that doesn't set well is not feeling trusted enough. Especially when she turns around and shares them with her girlfriends.

 

Being my optimistic self that means she likes the keepers enough to share...so there will be more :p

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show her friends, but not show the entire internet community if you split up inamicably, for this is how porn revenge comes about, i am glad no ex has my sexy photo

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I wouldn't do this either.

 

She sounds a sensible lady to me.

She feels uncomfortable about it. It would be respectful of you to accept her boundary on that.

 

Feeling 'untrusted' on this issue is pretty lame IMO. She is with you and in a flourishing RS with you.

You don't need photos of her - you have the real thing.

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Gemma, Untrusted may not be the best choice of words but it makes me feel "at odds" knowing she has taken boob pics with her GF's (who knows who they showed) and shares our few pics with her GF's yet is very concerned about what I can see.

 

Not a big issue by any means but thought I would throw it out here for some perspective.

 

Frankly I think its hot to have a few sexy pics of your BF/GF. I'm not talking hard core but something tastefully revealing. Maybe that's just a guy thing?

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I'd never, ever, ever send nude pics to anybody, no matter how much I love them. In lingerie maybe, but I wouldn't show my face :p

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DivorcedDad123

This is no biggie. She'll do it when and if she feels comfortable. My gf wont do this either, but its ok. She has a very public job, so she's taking no chances. She had a coworker take some risque pics while out her friends. One of the coworkers posted it to fb. To say that girl was livid is an understatement.

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So many women have had their private pics made public via their once trusted ex's or even current boyfriends. She is being wise, wise, wise. Also isn't sharing those pics with the gang part of the reason you want them?

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It's important for people to be honest with themselves about what they are truly comfortable with. A lot of people use nude photos of exes for vengeance and disrespect. Few people ever suspect their partner would do such a thing while everything is going well enough to be sharing nude pics in the first place, but most of us know how drastically things can change after a breakup/divorce.

 

I'm comfortable with nude pics because I'm comfortable with my nudity in general. I keep my face out of pics only because it can be a rather small world lol. But hypothetically if a vengeful or otherwise disrespectful ex put a photo of my naked body up on the internet for the whole world to see, it wouldn't bother me.

 

But it would bother some people, because some people hold either the more positive-feeling view that their naked body is sacred and only to be displayed to select people, or the more negative-feeling view that their naked body is somehow shameful. In either case, for a person with one of these views to give you nude photos would be a massive display of trust. And some people (often due to past experiences) are no longer capable of that level of trust (and there is nothing wrong with that).

 

In fact it can often turn out a bit ironic when someone has a hard time trusting you enough to do something, and then you get really pushy and manipulative about it instead of respecting their feelings.

 

For me personally I'd love if it an SO, serious or otherwise, sent me some naughty pics of himself. But if he doesn't feel comfortable with that, YET is willing to let me see him naked in person, I take that as an especially intimate act and appreciate it accordingly, since he doesn't want just anyone to see him naked. Maybe consider this angle in regards to your lady? She doesn't feel comfortable with most people seeing her naked, and thus no nude pics, but she does feel comfortable with you seeing her. While I am not at all bashful about the human body, which some people might see as 'cool' (or whatever), it is simultaneously true that it is therefore not as "special" when I do feel okay with someone seeing my hooters. Make sense?

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She seems happy with pics that she shares with her girlfriends but she obviously isn't happy with pics that are not related to fun with her friends. I think any woman needs to be extremely careful who they allow to photograph them naked and what is done with such pics. I wouldn't agree to any being taken at all. There are enough guys who have tried to humiliate or embarass their exes with naked pictures (or film) they took of them in happier times to surely warn any woman what could happen.

 

If a guy wanted to take pictures, I would find that off-putting anyway. Why? What would he want them for? None of his possible reasons seem good or worth the risk. What your girl is doing is retaining control. SHE decides what pictures are taken and forwarded not anyone else. Seems wise to me.

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Maybe it's me showing my age (67) but given the choice to see my girlfriend naked, next to me or see her naked in a picture, I'll take being there with her in a heart beat. Honestly if you keep eating the same candy day after day, sooner or later your going to change to something different so why don't you just enjoy seeing her when your together and leave a bit to your imagination.

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I'd never, ever, ever send nude pics to anybody, no matter how much I love them. In lingerie maybe, but I wouldn't show my face :p

 

This is what a proper lady will subscribe to.....it will bother me if my gf / partner is all into naked pictures and showing her friends, I mean what is she a teenager sexting? No man in his right mind will want the mother of his kids to be doing this.

 

It should be for your eyes only.

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A lot of women are saying hell no to nude pics but let me tell you, you want to get your guys attention and rock his world - send him a sexy pic (nude, semi nude, lingerie, face or no face - what ever your comfort level is) while he is at work or out with the guys. I guarantee he will be home ASAP and will be ready to tear your clothes off.

 

Maybe your guy is all over you now and you dont need to resort to this type of behavior? Tuck this idea away for when you hit a dry patch.

 

I dated several women that would randomly send me nude pics and it was such a turn on. The best was when I was out on a date and my then GF went to the ladies room. I had 3 sexy pics in my in box by the time she got back. I had to walk uot of that bar with a raging boner.

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Women definitely, but men also, who exchange nude pics are being stupid. Once it exists it can be forwarded or put online. A breach of privacy, ranging through to embarrassment, and on through to costing you jobs or reputation. Just... don't do it? You can see each other naked in like, 9 hours from when you last saw each other naked. And do more than just see. Never understood, it, never will.

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A lot of women are saying hell no to nude pics but let me tell you, you want to get your guys attention and rock his world - send him a sexy pic (nude, semi nude, lingerie, face or no face - what ever your comfort level is) while he is at work or out with the guys. I guarantee he will be home ASAP and will be ready to tear your clothes off.

 

Maybe your guy is all over you now and you dont need to resort to this type of behavior? Tuck this idea away for when you hit a dry patch.

 

I dated several women that would randomly send me nude pics and it was such a turn on. The best was when I was out on a date and my then GF went to the ladies room. I had 3 sexy pics in my in box by the time she got back. I had to walk uot of that bar with a raging boner.

 

A woman can do the same with text only.. Believe me. But she has to know how to write properly. :p

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I am in a committed relationship with an amazing woman. We are both free spirited when it comes to sex but one thing she doesnt care for is taking nude pics.

 

Of course she doesn't. Why the hell would you even consider that?

 

You are treating her like an object. Someone to be used for your carnal desires.

 

People don't like being used. Especially girls. It's an insult to her.

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The other day, thinking I was funny, I sent her a pic of our sex toys wrapped in Xmas lights. She sent it to her girlfriends!?

 

Honestly I have never and would never show our pics to anyone. I love and respect her too much. It feels like she doesn't trust me and that hurts. Its also strange to me that she would show her buddies our pics.

 

This is a small glitch in a wonderful and growing relationship but it just seems weird to me. Thoughts on this?

 

 

 

NO, a small glitch would be when one of the lights didn't work, causing the whole string not to illuminate.

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True...but these people don't even pause for a sec to think of the aftermath.

 

Even a family court Judge was in on it

 

Judge Lori Douglas's offer to retire early accepted by judicial panel - Manitoba - CBC News

 

Women definitely, but men also, who exchange nude pics are being stupid. Once it exists it can be forwarded or put online. A breach of privacy, ranging through to embarrassment, and on through to costing you jobs or reputation. Just... don't do it? You can see each other naked in like, 9 hours from when you last saw each other naked. And do more than just see. Never understood, it, never will.
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