pottymark Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 been seeing this girl. we aren't "together" but we hang out and talk alot and go on dates she has feelings for me and i do for her but she said she wants to take things slow i got a little frustrated last night, because we are going to the movies friday and i said "its a date" and she said "ha sure" then i said "i'm pretty sure you got some strong feelings for me" and then later said "am i wasting my time?" she said "no?" i dont know where i stand with her what did she mean by the "no?" Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 How old are you 2? She had a boyfriend before? She sounds immature and playing hard to get. The thing is these games will often have you lose someone you were genuinely interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pottymark Posted June 24, 2014 Author Share Posted June 24, 2014 How old are you 2? She had a boyfriend before? She sounds immature and playing hard to get. The thing is these games will often have you lose someone you were genuinely interested in. im 25 shes 21 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 im 25 shes 21 Really? You are willing to deal with these silly immature games at 25? Find yourself a nice girl that actually wants to date you. Once you stop giving her attention she will woman up or go back to her barbies. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pottymark Posted June 24, 2014 Author Share Posted June 24, 2014 Really? You are willing to deal with these silly immature games at 25? Find yourself a nice girl that actually wants to date you. Once you stop giving her attention she will woman up or go back to her barbies. we get along well and have fun Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 we get along well and have fun I get that, but you want to date her and she doesn't want to. Link to post Share on other sites
alexwood Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Keep hanging out but don't get to attached Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 What's wrong with slow? I'm not sure why she objected to the word date to describe your movie going but she point blank told you that you are not wasting your time. Why can't you take that at face value? What's making you doubt her words? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pottymark Posted June 24, 2014 Author Share Posted June 24, 2014 What's wrong with slow? I'm not sure why she objected to the word date to describe your movie going but she point blank told you that you are not wasting your time. Why can't you take that at face value? What's making you doubt her words? Maybe shes using me Why use the question mark? Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Maybe shes using me Why use the question mark? This is why you don't have these types of conversations over text. If you want to talk about progression, do it face to face the next time you see her. Link to post Share on other sites
ain5053 Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 been seeing this girl. we aren't "together" but we hang out and talk alot and go on dates she has feelings for me and i do for her but she said she wants to take things slow i got a little frustrated last night, because we are going to the movies friday and i said "its a date" and she said "ha sure" then i said "i'm pretty sure you got some strong feelings for me" and then later said "am i wasting my time?" she said "no?" i dont know where i stand with her what did she mean by the "no?" She meant "no, you are not wasting your time".. Don't read too much into it. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Maybe shes using me Why use the question mark? I thought the question mark was your Q to LS. I didn't realize that she used the question mark & you quoted it to us. I'm going to agree that the medium (text) may have skewed the message. I can't text -- big thumbs -- so extra characters show up all the time. Talk to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 "am i wasting my time?" she said "no?" She did not put too much efforts into explaining herself did she? That 'no?' was a defensive reply. It meant nothing. She got confronted on her behavior and gave you a defensive answer. Like being caught with her hand in the cookie jar with a cookie in her hand but react with: no I am not eating cookies. Link to post Share on other sites
ain5053 Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 She did not put too much efforts into explaining herself did she? That 'no?' was a defensive reply. It meant nothing. She got confronted on her behavior and gave you a defensive answer. Like being caught with her hand in the cookie jar with a cookie in her hand but react with: no I am not eating cookies. I'm not sure.... It sounds like a confident response to me.. Straight forward answer to a straight forward question. Link to post Share on other sites
waiting4u Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 She meant "no, you are not wasting your time".. Don't read too much into it. I agree with this. I mean, who's going to respond to "you have really strong feelings for me, don't you?" with "Yeah, i totally do! Let's get married! tralala!" Just take it easy, don't overanalyze. difficult, I know. That said, not sure what "taking it slow" means - unless it means "I don't want to sleep with you on third date" Link to post Share on other sites
Assasda Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Not to worry, this girl will never call OP again. Cause he's super needy, in search of validation. Link to post Share on other sites
alexwood Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 no means..you arent wasting your time...lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
johnsonracer Posted June 25, 2014 Share Posted June 25, 2014 nah...keep doing what you are doing Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 25, 2014 Share Posted June 25, 2014 Ok I am going to stretch this thing. Answering 'no' means: no I am not wasting your time. Answering 'no ?' means: I know exactly what I have done for you to think I am wasting your time but I will pretend I don't so I can avoid this topic. It's juvenile and playing games. Link to post Share on other sites
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Share Posted June 25, 2014 She was annoyed, hence the question mark. She said she wanted to take thing a slow, and that's what you guys are doing. She isn't worrying about putting a title on it like you are. Take it slow and stop worrying so much. Link to post Share on other sites
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