Sapphira Posted July 24, 2004 Share Posted July 24, 2004 I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. I'm nearing 30 and am anxious to settle down and start a family. My boyfriend is almost 40 and has 2 children from a previous relationship. My problem is that I really don't know what his intentions are. We have talked about starting our own family, getting married, buying a home for the past 2 years but his actions seem to portray otherwise. Although he has a great salary, he still lives from paycheck to paycheck - spending his money on frivolous things when he should be saving up for a life together. I'm beginning to think that I'm being taken advantage of. That he's with me out of convenience rather than thinking long-term. What should I do? Should I give him an ultimatum? Thanks everyone for listening Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 24, 2004 Share Posted July 24, 2004 I have never seen an ultimatum work. I view ultimatums as silly. When someone makes an ultimatum, the relationship is very often already doomed. Perhaps speaking to him about your concerns would help. I would view you as ridiculously foolish if you decided to place an ultimatum on the table, without even fully discussing this situation with your boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
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