Date Confirmation

[egalew]

When should a guy confirm your upcoming date?

 

Had date last Wednesday. He asked me out for the following Wednesday. Sent me a one line e-mail since, saying something like: "Hope all is well."

 

At what point do I assume the date is not on? By what point should he confirm our plans? Tomorrow 12:00? Or today?

 

Thanks

[carhill]

IMO, a 'date' is handled like any short-term social engagement. If the date was specific and agreed to, as well as being short-term, like 'next Wednesday', then IMO it should proceed unless one of the parties is unable to accommodate the specifics of the date. That party is responsible for contact. Otherwise, if I ask you to dinner 'next Wednesday' and, upon agreement, say 'I'll pick you up at 7', you can expect me at 7 unless something comes up, whereupon I'll call you.

 

If the tone and behavior of your dating partner impels you to be unsure/lack confidence in their intentions, verify or abandon.

 

While frustrating in the moment, my remembrances of the few past 'no shows' were ultimately gifts; people I didn't waste my valuable care and time on. Since I enjoyed where I was going to take them anyway, I went alone and enjoyed myself. Never know what will happen next.

 

Follow your own style, whatever it is....that's my advice.

[clia]

If the specifics have been discussed (what you are doing, time, and logistics), then no confirmation is necessary. For example, "Let's have dinner on Wednesday at 7 p.m. I'll pick you up." or "Let's have drinks on Wednesday at 8 p.m. I'll meet you there." You should just go with the plan that is made and assume it is going forward.

 

If, however, it was left vague -- i.e. "Let's get together on Wednesday" with no time, plan, or logistics mentioned, I would personally expect to nail down the details by Tuesday evening. If I hadn't heard anything from him by Tuesday night regarding the details, I would assume he is not planning on going forward with the date and consider myself free to make other plans.