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When friends invite themselves on your dates


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My boyfriend is a people pleaser and his friends are not only used to it, but expect it. A lot of his friends expect to be a first priority, for him to change his plans to meet them, or they try to invite themselves to our plans. I'm not sure how to take the latter, if I am being overly sensitive or just annoys me since they are not my friends. The people pleasing does annoy me.

 

I live about an hour away (I moved for a job) so we only see each other a couple of days a week. We no longer hang out with his friends now and just enjoy the few days we see each other since we don't see each other as much these days.

 

Last weekend we planned our weekend to go out of town to see a concert and had hotel reservations for a nearby casino. It was NOT cheap. When he told one of his friends that he could not hang out because of this, they told us they would go too and would see us there...and planned to gamble with us all night. We had already planned what we were going to do and alone of course. I told him I really wasn't happy about it. We basically just avoided them and they showed up to the concert texting his phone and asking where we were.

 

Did we do the right thing? In the past we have accomodated his friends a lot, but then we end up never spending any time alone because his friends do this so much. Does anyone else think what they did is a little rude or inconsiderate? On one hand I felt bad but on the other we didn't owe them anything...these were our plans.

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