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I recently heard a interesting story.

 

Some guy was riding his bike home from work when he was suddenly attacked and robbed. He lost his bike and money. He ran home crying and blubbering to his girlfriend. His girlfriend was disappointed in him for crying and not properly defending himself. This is from the woman herself mind you.

 

What is your opinion on this kind of situation and men who cry?

 

btw just to be fair i met plenty of women who is very accepting and who would actually prefer men who cry vs those who dont. If anyone try to make it go to that direction.

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I recently heard a interesting story.

 

Some guy was riding his bike home from work when he was suddenly attacked and robbed. He lost his bike and money. He ran home crying and blubbering to his girlfriend. His girlfriend was disappointed in him for crying and not properly defending himself. This is from the woman herself mind you.

 

What is your opinion on this kind of situation and men who cry?

 

btw just to be fair i met plenty of women who is very accepting and who would actually prefer men who cry vs those who dont. If anyone try to make it go to that direction.

 

I suppose the girlfriend would have preferred he try to defend himself and get stabbed or shot over some money. I can understand him being shaken up but I dont imagine id cry over it.

 

I cry during sad movies and certain issues involving the kids or my SO. Oh I also got teary eyed during some of the 9/11 ceremonies during football. It takes a real man to cry during football :p

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His girlfriend sounds like an insensitive b!@#$. The guy was most likely robbed at gun point, so he most likely did not know how to defend himself, and if he tried, he could have been killed. It is understandable that he was terrified and responded in that way. My last two boyfriends cried, and I always thought it made them seem more open. Men have pain too. They are allowed to cry.

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I think it's healthy for men to cry. Why not? They're human, too. And crying in front of a loved one (or better yet in his/her arms) is one of the most initmate things you can do - I'd argue more intimate than sex - as it requires one to be so vulnerable.

 

Men, unfortuantely, have been socialised not to cry and that's very sad and a burden to men, IMO.

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This woman is cruel, cold and insensitive.

 

Crying is human. I like and appreciate men who are able to show the full range of emotions. If someone attacked and robbed me, I'd be crying, too.

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I think it's healthy for men to cry. Why not? They're human, too. And crying in front of a loved one (or better yet in his/her arms) is one of the most initmate things you can do - I'd argue more intimate than sex - as it requires one to be so vulnerable.

 

Men, unfortuantely, have been socialised not to cry and that's very sad and a burden to men, IMO.

 

This woman is cruel, cold and insensitive.

 

Crying is human. I like and appreciate men who are able to show the full range of emotions. If someone attacked and robbed me, I'd be crying, too.

I agree completely.

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What is your opinion on this kind of situation...

 

Being robbed, especially if you're physically attacked and assaulted/overpowered...it's a traumatic experience. I remember being robbed at age 14 and I ended up in tears later. You felt broken, weak, and no matter how much you tell yourself in the past that you're strong...you see it taken away.

 

I think this guy is lucky. Not just that he's alive, but he can see now what a shallow b***h his girlfriend is, and why he should never marry her.

 

I always get a kick out of the women who want physically strong guys who never show "weak emotion". Then these same women cry and complain about how her man won't be sensitive or caring/nurturing...or worse how he'll take on any physical fight that comes on, rather than "be civilized" and "walk away".

 

 

...and men who cry?

 

I think it depends on the context. Going through a traumatic experience, or losing a loved one...those IMHO are moments you need to cry and let it out of you. If the guy is more like John Boehner and cries all the time, then I'd say he needs to get some help.

 

The guy in the story IMHO had every right to let it out. Would his GF like it more if he came home, screamed at her, and perhaps slapped her? Or "defended himself" and now she's identifying his body at the morgue?

 

Venting is how human beings deal with emotional buildup. Crying is as much venting as yelling or throwing something.

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I can't se myself crying about that. But there are reasons to cry other than joy and heartbreak. I was once walking in Central Park in NYC and a guy was speeding up behind me on my left on his 10 speed bike. In front on my right was a guy on a BMX bike who turned and didn't see the speeder because I created a block of his sight (a pick). The crash was horrendous and the speeder was not wearng a helmet and cracked his head on the ground and went into unconscious convulsions. I don't have a clue why but I felt like crying--my eyes watered. I didn't cry and sent the idiot who caused the accident for help since he had a bike but seeing trauma is upsetting and I can understand how soldiers must have to deal with seeing things like that. You can't ontrol anything and feel powerless even though you're strong and can help. I don't think I'd cry if I got robbed like the OP story but I know that men cry when they have lost in battle where they have been hurt. Boxers and cage fighters will bawl out loud when they lose and can feel that they gave it all and were beaten anyway. It's just how it is and there shouldn't be any shame.

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Being robbed and crying is a natural response. It's a showing of fear.

 

I think it's completely natural to cry. Surely, you don't want to do it too much, but a little crying every now and then is healthy.

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I have been robbed before and strangely enough though I didn't like it it didn't phase me too much. It wasn't personal. I had something they wanted and they took it. It's wrong but it could have been anybody.

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Its these reasons why I carry.

 

He did the right thing though, you comply with the thief. You can buy another wallet, cancel credit cards etc.

 

Crying to his GF...I wouldn't of cried, I'd be infuriated, but wouldn't of cried.

 

But the fact is he did, and his GF was a b*tch for reacting the way she did. Screw her.

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Its these reasons why I carry.

 

He did the right thing though, you comply with the thief. You can buy another wallet, cancel credit cards etc.

 

Crying to his GF...I wouldn't of cried, I'd be infuriated, but wouldn't of cried.

 

But the fact is he did, and his GF was a b*tch for reacting the way she did. Screw her.

 

Well said.

 

It is the girlfriend's fault for not understanding basic human emotion. Screw her.

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What is your opinion on this kind of situation and men who cry?

I empathize with them. They had an emotional response to a traumatic situation and expressed it. Does it define them? NO. It's one aspect of their global personality. If the man cried at every thorn in his foot and minor uncomfortable experience, then this might be a <significant> part of their global personality worth examining for health.

 

As someone who wasn't socialized to stuff down his emotions and did often get bullied because of it, I learned two things, firstly how to control that emotional response, and, secondly, how to hurt or kill threats. There's no crying here anymore, only steely-eyed resolve. In that situation, and I've been in them (I recall using my bike pump as a billy club in one instance), I look for a weakness and take them out if possible. Let their loved ones cry over their deeds of violence and sociopathic battery on society.

 

The last time I cried was when I thought I might lose my best friend to cancer, but I never let him see that. That was about two months ago.

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Lol?

 

:laugh:

 

If my current boyfriend came to me crying in that situation, I would likely feel terrible and try to comfort him. But it would be uncharacteristic of him... and it would likely indicate that other issues were going on with him... ones I would want to relieve, not make worse.

 

Although, to be honest... if it was a typical reaction, I would probably be turned off. But I could say the same for females --- crying can be very healthy but if it's too frequent then I just find it off-putting. I don't want to be a whiny emotional mess that can't cope with much and I don't want my boyfriend to be one either... everyone has periods of breaking down though and being unusually sensitive, and during those periods... I don't think rubbing the pain in is going to make them go away quicker...

 

that's when you try to calm the person and figure out ways to support and help them...

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My ex made fun of me for crying over a friend's murder so that shows what they think of men crying.

 

IIRC, your ex was also shooting at your windows, when you moved on.

 

That is to say, she is a true gem of a person.

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IIRC, your ex was also shooting at your windows, when you moved on.

 

That is to say, she is a true gem of a person.

 

How did I ever let her go?

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I'm too Prozacked out to cry or I would have been on a jag for five days now. I'm in love with someone who decided I was just a an excess of oxitocin in her system. :D:D:D

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It was weird hearing her belittle her boyfriend but then again i kinda didn't care. I myself don't cry.. well thats a lie. i cried yesterday. out of laughter.

 

Does that count?

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Cold hearted b*tch alright. I could imagine if that had happened to me when I was with my second girlfriend, she would have been much the same. Just as well I'm not a crybaby.

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I recently heard a interesting story.

 

Some guy was riding his bike home from work when he was suddenly attacked and robbed. He lost his bike and money. He ran home crying and blubbering to his girlfriend. His girlfriend was disappointed in him for crying and not properly defending himself. This is from the woman herself mind you.

 

What is your opinion on this kind of situation and men who cry?

 

btw just to be fair i met plenty of women who is very accepting and who would actually prefer men who cry vs those who dont. If anyone try to make it go to that direction.

 

Personally, I completely empathize with the guy who found it appropriate to cry after having been the victim of a robbery. Crime is, by its nature, a violation; it is (regardless of what form it takes) a forceful removal of the victim's assumption of safety, well being, and self-image, particularly in the case of a male victim. It's absolutely reasonable that a man might temporarily break down at so swift a shattering of the things mentioned.

 

Having said that, I've been reading the blog of one of the few men who actually understands the principles of game minus the misogyny, and he recently wrote a piece concerning a man crying in front of his spouse. His advice was simply not to do it. Even though the woman may intellectually understand the source of her significant other's pain and his right to express it in tears, her visceral/emotional reaction will be a psychological lowering of her mate's status. This precipitates a tremendous upheaval in the balance of respect in the relationship and most often leads to further turmoil down the line due to the woman's subconscious devaluing.

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Having said that, I've been reading the blog of one of the few men who actually understands the principles of game minus the misogyny, and he recently wrote a piece concerning a man crying in front of his spouse. His advice was simply not to do it. Even though the woman may intellectually understand the source of her significant other's pain and his right to express it in tears, her visceral/emotional reaction will be a psychological lowering of her mate's status. This precipitates a tremendous upheaval in the balance of respect in the relationship and most often leads to further turmoil down the line due to the woman's subconscious devaluing.

 

Hmm... I don't know... I think it's admirable to show a vulnerability, and it can convey self-acceptance and be extremely attractive. My boyfriend has cried in front of me... and the "intellectual" understanding I had of it only seemed to induce a respect for him out of me.

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I recently heard a interesting story.

 

Some guy was riding his bike home from work when he was suddenly attacked and robbed. He lost his bike and money. He ran home crying and blubbering to his girlfriend. His girlfriend was disappointed in him for crying and not properly defending himself. This is from the woman herself mind you.

 

What is your opinion on this kind of situation and men who cry?

 

btw just to be fair i met plenty of women who is very accepting and who would actually prefer men who cry vs those who dont. If anyone try to make it go to that direction.

 

First of all, L-O-L! Whadda loser! He had all that time to wipe his tears and calm down but still ran to his girlfriend crying like a lil bitch? Pathetic.

 

Secondly, there's nothing wrong with men crying, it's just the manner he did it in wasn't very man-like. He ran to his girlfriend like she was his mom or something. Not cool. She should've smacked the crap out of him.

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