irc333 Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 THis is something I'm noticing lately. Recently, I was at a house party mingling with some friends and acquaintances. I saw these two women on the floor, one was on her stomach, and the other was giving her a back massage. I was sitting near them, and jokingly said, "Hey, can I be next" (well, kinda joking) She kinda smiled and said, "Maybe" But, I never did get one, never held her to it after she got done. But this is something Ih ave noticed with women, even out dancing, they seem to enjoy dancing with each other as opposed to having men dance with them. It's strange. And I'm not talking about where people dancing solo without physical contact, but I'm referring to physical contact, like swing dancing or something between 2 women. It's such a strange thing to see. Why do women do this? You'll never see men do this, because they'll consider it a gay activity between 2 straight men. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 Dude stop asking questions, you are going to ruin it for the rest of us. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 (edited) When I go to a club with my girlfriends and we dance together, it's because I don't want to dance with any guys. Very often, they get grabby and start groping me. Since I have a boyfriend, this is not something I want at all. However, I still want to spend girl time with my friends, so I just dance with them and avoid the problem entirely. So, in short, I think for some of us it may be a safety thing. Also, sexuality for women isn't quite as clear cut as gay or straight. Many of us have bisexual tendencies and might enjoy things like dancing or physically touching another girl. This doesn't necessarily mean we would actually engage in a relationship or sex with one. Lastly, some women just do it for attention because they know men like to watch. Edit: Women giving each other massages isn't uncommon at all. For many, physical contact is part of the bonding. Just like doing each other's nails or hugging to cheer each other up. Arabella Edited August 8, 2011 by Arabella Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 Women are not so precious as men generally about maintaining physical boundaries with their same sex friends. We adjust each others' clothing, touch each other on the arm, hug, dance together, etc. It is not sexual in nature at all. At least, not for us Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted August 8, 2011 Author Share Posted August 8, 2011 Well, the object was to get that woman to give me (a man) a massage. LOL. I was trying to set things straight (j/k) Some other woman kinda kidded around saying, "Okay, you gals get a room!". Dude stop asking questions, you are going to ruin it for the rest of us. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 We adjust each others' clothing, touch each other on the arm, hug, dance together, etc. It is not sexual in nature at all. At least, not for us yep, it's tied into our nurturing instinct, so I think women are comfortable with touch from one another. Not as in "invade my space" but more like a familial thing. If you think about it, boys avoid touch at a certain age, and don't let anyone close unless there's some kind of sexual intimacy involved – at least most of them are like that. I dated a guy that didn't want anyone in his space but really enjoyed when I rubbed his back or massaged his head/hair/neck. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedGuy28 Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 A lot of women do this for more attention from guys. Even if they don't do anything with any guy, they like the feeling of "all eyes on me" and people talking about them. Link to post Share on other sites
mo mo Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 When I go to a club with my girlfriends and we dance together, it's because I don't want to dance with any guys. Very often, they get grabby and start groping me. Since I have a boyfriend, this is not something I want at all. However, I still want to spend girl time with my friends, so I just dance with them and avoid the problem entirely. So, in short, I think for some of us it may be a safety thing. lies come on Link to post Share on other sites
xoxoDaniellexoxo Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 I agree with what a lot of people are saying, for girls it isn't werid to hug each other and fix each others clothes and hair. The only time guys ever real touch one another is during sports or like a hug, for us it is a lot more natural for us to express our emotions and sometimes that equals a hug or touch. I dance with girls for the safety thing too!! Guys get gropy my friends are all straight so they never try to grab you and get you to leave with them. As for the massage thing I got one from my friend once and ive rubbed her shoulders too. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 I agree with what a lot of people are saying, for girls it isn't werid to hug each other and fix each others clothes and hair. The only time guys ever real touch one another is during sports or like a hug, for us it is a lot more natural for us to express our emotions and sometimes that equals a hug or touch. I dance with girls for the safety thing too!! Guys get gropy my friends are all straight so they never try to grab you and get you to leave with them. As for the massage thing I got one from my friend once and ive rubbed her shoulders too. Have you ever let man give you a massage? Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Chick Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Because they look like the cool, hip happening chicks at parties. If you're a straight woman and don't make out with other women at parties, you are a prude. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 If you're a straight woman and don't make out with other women at parties, you are a prude. Says who?? Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Because they look like the cool, hip happening chicks at parties. If you're a straight woman and don't make out with other women at parties, you are a prude. I think women are just a little more bicurious not to mention like you said it makes you the happening chick at the party. If you’re a guy and you make out with your other guy friend at a party they’ll just laugh at best and think you must be gay. It will not attract the right kind of attention from the opposite sex the same way two girls making out can in some situations. There are tons of double standards for men and women. Women are just more beautiful. I mean is there a male equivalent to flashing? No! Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Chick Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Says who?? The attention-whoring women at parties who make out with each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Chick Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 I think women are just a little more bicurious not to mention like you said it makes you the happening chick at the party. If you’re a guy and you make out with your other guy friend at a party they’ll just laugh at best and think you must be gay. It will not attract the right kind of attention from the opposite sex the same way two girls making out can in some situations. There are tons of double standards for men and women. Women are just more beautiful. I mean is there a male equivalent to flashing? No! Well, women are more beautiful to straight men. Most women are attracted to men, so we think they are more beautiful. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 The attention-whoring women at parties who make out with each other. That has a very negative connotation. When I see to chicks making out, I see it as a beautiful thing. I convinced 2 of my female friends to kiss each other. Both were in relationships so it wasn't like they were trying to get attention from me. Them making out is burned into my brain in vivid, crystal clear hd vision. It was very sexual, sensual and hot. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Chick Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 So they were cheating on their boyfriends in front of you? They both sound like classacts and yes, they were doing it for your benefit. You are still remembering it and posting about it on a dating message board. you still get hot thinking about it. Women know that lots of guys get excited over lesbian porn, want threesomes, etc. so they are going to do what they can to get mens' attention. At least some of them are. Even if they are not interested in the guy/s, they do this because they love being the ones to get the attention at parties and such. So...yes, they are attention whores! They certainly got it from you! You asked them to do it, so yes, they were doing it for your attention! Duh! Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 I convinced 2 of my female friends to kiss each other. Both were in relationships so it wasn't like they were trying to get attention from me. Kind of a d*ck move considering you knew they were in relationships. That demonstrates a lack of respect for their boyfriends and relationships from both you and them. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Kind of a d*ck move considering you knew they were in relationships. That demonstrates a lack of respect for their boyfriends and relationships from both you and them. They were making out with each other not me, they didn't touch me. I know 1s boyfriend and he is cool with it and never met the other one's so I don't really know. They were 2 consenting adult females expressing themselves, I don't see how that is "d*ck" move by me. like I said it was hot and enjoyed it. Link to post Share on other sites
CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 THis is something I'm noticing lately. Recently, I was at a house party mingling with some friends and acquaintances. I saw these two women on the floor, one was on her stomach, and the other was giving her a back massage. I was sitting near them, and jokingly said, "Hey, can I be next" (well, kinda joking) She kinda smiled and said, "Maybe" But, I never did get one, never held her to it after she got done. But this is something Ih ave noticed with women, even out dancing, they seem to enjoy dancing with each other as opposed to having men dance with them. It's strange. And I'm not talking about where people dancing solo without physical contact, but I'm referring to physical contact, like swing dancing or something between 2 women. It's such a strange thing to see. Why do women do this? You'll never see men do this, because they'll consider it a gay activity between 2 straight men. When I go out with my female friends especially if its a nightclub, we will dance with one another or even hold hands. I have a bf and have no interest in them sexually but its just what we do. I don't have an exact reason. But I have found its successful keeping creepy men from bothering me or trying to dance or touch me. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 So they were cheating on their boyfriends in front of you? They both sound like classacts and yes, they were doing it for your benefit. You are still remembering it and posting about it on a dating message board. you still get hot thinking about it. Women know that lots of guys get excited over lesbian porn, want threesomes, etc. so they are going to do what they can to get mens' attention. At least some of them are. Even if they are not interested in the guy/s, they do this because they love being the ones to get the attention at parties and such. So...yes, they are attention whores! They certainly got it from you! You asked them to do it, so yes, they were doing it for your attention! Duh! How do you know they were cheating? Maybe their boyfriends were cool with it? I know if my GF wanted to make out with a friend of hers I wouldn't consider it cheating. I was the only guy there at the time and neither of them are interested in me so they have no reason to get attention from me. Couldn't it be that they just wanted to see what it would like to to kiss each other? The funny thing is 1 of those 2 girls on her birthday tried to make out with my current GF. I really wanted to see it but my GF isn't bi and didn't want to do it. However, that friend kept on persisting and trying to make out with my GF, I had to step in and physically separate those 2. I love seeing girls make out but, I love my GF more. Link to post Share on other sites
CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 How do you know they were cheating? Maybe their boyfriends were cool with it? I know if my GF wanted to make out with a friend of hers I wouldn't consider it cheating. I was the only guy there at the time and neither of them are interested in me so they have no reason to get attention from me. Couldn't it be that they just wanted to see what it would like to to kiss each other? The funny thing is 1 of those 2 girls on her birthday tried to make out with my current GF. I really wanted to see it but my GF isn't bi and didn't want to do it. However, that friend kept on persisting and trying to make out with my GF, I had to step in and physically separate those 2. I love seeing girls make out but, I love my GF more. I think kissing is cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 I think kissing is cheating. You can't say that unless you know the dynamics of those 2 girls' relationships. Your are drawing conclusions based on assumptions. Link to post Share on other sites
CatNtheHat Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 You can't say that unless you know the dynamics of those 2 girls' relationships. Your are drawing conclusions based on assumptions. Unless its an open relationship they have, in my opinion, kissing is cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted August 9, 2011 Share Posted August 9, 2011 Unless its an open relationship they have, in my opinion, kissing is cheating. I am not sure what the exact definition of a "open" relationship is but, I don't believe I have one with my GF. I wouldn't consider it cheating if my GF made out with her friend. In fact like I said in my post I wanted my GF to make out with this girl but, since my GF was vehemently against it, I stepped in and stopped it. Link to post Share on other sites
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