betamanlet Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 How common are social rejects like me? Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny M Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 quite common Link to post Share on other sites
Author betamanlet Posted October 27, 2009 Author Share Posted October 27, 2009 quite common I'm not a big fan of schadenfreude, but it's nice to know I'm not the only one out there. I usually feel like such a freak, especially when I all the women I know have more dates than they know what to do with, and I go years without one.. ugh.. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 I'm not a big fan of schadenfreude, but it's nice to know I'm not the only one out there. I usually feel like such a freak, especially when I all the women I know have more dates than they know what to do with, and I go years without one.. ugh.. Stop sitting around walling in self pity and go get some dates. Link to post Share on other sites
Author betamanlet Posted October 27, 2009 Author Share Posted October 27, 2009 Stop sitting around walling in self pity and go get some dates. I"m rather socially "special". That's like telling a quadrapelgic to get out of the wheelchair and walk on his own. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 I"m rather socially "special". That's like telling a quadrapelgic to get out of the wheelchair and walk on his own. Then fix it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author betamanlet Posted October 27, 2009 Author Share Posted October 27, 2009 Then fix it. Yes,I'd like to see someone else than me be able to fix their personality... It's like telling the ballonboy family to stop attentionwhoring, or for Christopher Reeve while alive to get up and walk. Link to post Share on other sites
BCCA Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 I"m rather socially "special". That's like telling a quadrapelgic to get out of the wheelchair and walk on his own. Like my dad used to tell me, you can make excuses, or you can make it happen. Unless you have a dissability that is beyond your control, you can work on yourself, and you always should. Link to post Share on other sites
Author betamanlet Posted October 27, 2009 Author Share Posted October 27, 2009 Like my dad used to tell me, you can make excuses, or you can make it happen. Unless you have a dissability that is beyond your control, you can work on yourself, and you always should. Well, I'd think that having zero social skills is a personality disorder, and would you say this to someone with a personality disorder, knowing they cannot be treated in most cases? Think about politicians, they are all pathological narcissists. It's like you telling them to "stop, think about others, and not what you want". They are incapable of doing that. Becuase they think the world revolves around them. Link to post Share on other sites
BCCA Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 Well, I'd think that having zero social skills is a personality disorder, and would you say this to someone with a personality disorder, knowing they cannot be treated in most cases? Think about politicians, they are all pathological narcissists. It's like you telling them to "stop, think about others, and not what you want". They are incapable of doing that. Becuase they think the world revolves around them. Youre just making excuses. Being socially challenged can be fixed, you just dont want to. You can try and do things to get help, change your ways, and one day be just fine. Or, you can compare what you go through to that of someone who cant use their arms or legs (which Im sure you know is pretty terrible), and sit on your hands. And enough with the metaphor's, you CAN change things if you want to. But if you would rather refer to yourself as a 'reject' and go dateless forever, thats your choice as well. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 So whats stopping you from working on your non-social status besides excuses? Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny M Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 Yes,I'd like to see someone else than me be able to fix their personality... It happens all the time. People who change their personalities through self-improvement are just as common as losers who chose to live their lives wallowing in self-pity. You being socially "special" is not your main problem; it's the fact that you are too lazy to do something about it. Instead of trying to change your life, you chose to come to forums like this one and write sad sh*t about being a "social quadriplegic" (what a ridiculous analogy). You just need to get over yourself and realize that your social awkwardness is not some kind of a tragic affliction but rather a fairly minor issue compared to the life challenges that many other people have to face. In other words, stop being such a whiny little b*tch and get your sh*t together. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted October 28, 2009 Share Posted October 28, 2009 So you're saying that the only reason you haven't had a date in years is because you have a personality disorder? Were you diagnosed with one or are you self-diagnosing? Link to post Share on other sites
OpenGL Posted October 28, 2009 Share Posted October 28, 2009 How bad do you want a date? How willing are you to date below your standards? 1 week + lowered standards + craigslist = guaranteed date. Link to post Share on other sites
littlewhiterose Posted October 28, 2009 Share Posted October 28, 2009 You know, the funny thing is once you overcome this, you'll kick yourself asking "What took me so long!"... take small steps, you'll get there... Link to post Share on other sites
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