wanthim4eva Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 can a male and female be really really close friends .. close to the point where they text and ring each other all the time. email each other while they are at work all day every day. call each other baby, huggybear, snugglebuns, etc etc say "i love you loads". even have cuddles n stuff and are with each other every moment they can be but it just be purely a really close friendship??? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 If they or married, or the guy is gay, yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 call each other baby, huggybear, snugglebuns, etc etc say "i love you loads". even have cuddles n stuff and are with each other every moment they can be these are the ones that are a little weird to me. i couldnt imagine calling my closest guy friend "baby, or huggybear." have u guys EVER hooked up or have u always been platonic? that kind of closeness is a little strange and may lead to something if ur not careful. are u both single? do u have feelings for each other AT ALL? i guess i'm just curious as to why u are worrying about this if all u are is friends. Link to post Share on other sites
whistles Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 IMO yes they can. To love support and care for someone is what friendship is all about. Gender doesn't come in to it. In some instances people may have ulterior motives (I'll be their friend and see if I can bed 'em later down the line) but although this happens I reckon its in the minority. If someone offers you kindness and affection, and this makes you happy I say accept it for a good thing in a cynical world W x Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanthim4eva Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 its not me... i am not like that at all with my male friends Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Yeah only if the guy is gay, the girl is gay, or maybe theyre both gay. Oh yeah and if they have mental retardation that might be it too but those people seem all sexed up all the time so maybe not Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 No. Unless, as previous posters have said, the two people in question are gay. Link to post Share on other sites
Road Rage Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Yes, I think it is possible. Husbands and wives do it all the time:lmao: No, seriously. I am beginning to figure out that the spectrum of human diversity is extremely broad. There is that minority of people that just don`t fit the mold. Consider left handed people. Consistently the great majority of people are right handed. But you can also count on a fairly consistent number of lefties too. Writng with a left hand seems really odd to a right handed person. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Ummm...this is a little too close for comfort. Odds say...nope. Link to post Share on other sites
silentcharon Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 I'll have to join the naysayers... I don't believe it's possible. Not after what I've seen. Are your feelings towards him purely platonic? Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 say "i love you loads". That sounds like a lot. How many loads? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 That sounds like a lot. How many loads? It's alot. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 can a male and female be really really close friends .. close to the point where they text and ring each other all the time. email each other while they are at work all day every day. call each other baby, huggybear, snugglebuns, etc etc say "i love you loads". even have cuddles n stuff and are with each other every moment they can be but it just be purely a really close friendship???I don't think so, but many women would have a different idea. They have this ability to form really close friendships without ever crossing into a feeling of attraction. Total emotional intimacy will be established and yet the idea of any kind of physical expression of intimacy with that person makes them ill. They're a total mystery to me Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 Oh yeah and if they have mental retardation that might be it too but those people seem all sexed up all the time so maybe noti agree, those mentally handicapped people are f*cking perverted Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 I don't think so, but many women would have a different idea. They have this ability to form really close friendships without ever crossing into a feeling of attraction. Total emotional intimacy will be established and yet the idea of any kind of physical expression of intimacy with that person makes them ill. They're a total mystery to me They want the Un-boyfriend Boyfriend. The guy that will do things for them have every aspect of a relationship, including more emotional intimacy than they would have with a guy they would sleep with, with a guy they have neither attraction to nor will ever sleep with. The poor guy is attracted usually but hangs out being the "best friend" thinking she'll suddenly wake up and realize how great he is and finally become his girlfriend including the long anticipated sex. It never happens. She loses respect for him (she knows he wants her and likes the attention) because he continues to put up with it. Mystery solved!! Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 Mystery solved!! I doesn't count when a woman says that. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 I doesn't count when a woman says that. *Indignant* And why not? lol Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 i agree, those mentally handicapped people are f*cking perverted :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: I can't breath... Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 RE: Can a M and F be really really close but there be nothing sexual going on. No. No. and No. You know it is not pure. Where are the boundaries. This type of activity complicates the basic foundation of your so called friendship. Good luck with trying to hide this underlying lie. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanthim4eva Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 its not me who is going through this.. as i said... i never ever act like this with any male friends and it would feel very very odd behaving in this way with them. i think its a bit weird if u ask me. its my ex im enquiring about.. i was always suspicious about this girl he is close 2 coz they spent so much time together. he spent more time with her then he did me and they had alot mroe contact then me and him did. i know he ran to her whenever me n him had a row. i did bring her up quite alot quizing him about her and a couple of weeks back he told me that she had said that she wanted me to meet her so that my mind can be put at rest and we can get on with the relationship without me worrying any more. i think the only thing that makes them so close is the fact they both lov smoking weed and getting mashed. once yuo take away the weed then there is nothing there. jsut b4 we split on valentines day he was trying to give up.. he hadnt smoked it for 4 days and she text him asking him to go out n smoke but when he said no... she didnt even text him back, so it shows that they r only as close as they are while there is weed to be smoked. 2 be honest .. it makes me sick how close they are and he wonders why i often felt parro about it and questiond him. he should have been having all that contact with me .. but he just said he liked having less contact with me coz it makes him miss me loads and it was better when we eventually saw each other Link to post Share on other sites
missdeathwish Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 I'm going to say yes. However, it generally doesn't happen unless one or both has some kind of feeling for the other. They're fun, except for the person who wants to hook up for real. Link to post Share on other sites
Grrlish Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 Ummm...this is a little too close for comfort. Odds say...nope. I would have to agree. I have a close male friend that I speak to on the phone - sometimes more regularly than others. We have numerous pet names for each other and we flirt a little on the phone. We sign our emails "Love, [insert name here]". He lives 4 hours away so we don't see each other very often. Even when we did live closer, we only saw each other now and again due to our busy lives. We also dated for over 8 years and have now known each other for 20 years. But the truth is, he would sleep with me in a second, and in moments of 'weakness', I have slept with him (3 times over the last 10 years or so). Do I think that men and women can be 'just friends? Yes. Do I think it sounds like your ex and this girl can be 'just friends? No. But why don't you meet her and make up your own mind. .. but he just said he liked having less contact with me coz it makes him miss me loads and it was better when we eventually saw each other This, I don't like at all. Lastly, do you really want to date a pothead? Maybe it's just me - I don't ingest anything except alcohol anymore. I'm not interested in dating someone that even smokes pot on occasion. Just penny and a half. Link to post Share on other sites
Moai Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 I echo all the responses that say no, unless one or both of them are gay. Or the woman is disfigured. Otherwise the guy is always going to want sex. Especially if they are that intimate. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted February 19, 2007 Share Posted February 19, 2007 I say if the woman is disfigured she'll want sex disfigured women get very horny when shown attention from the oposite sex Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 19, 2007 Share Posted February 19, 2007 I echo all the responses that say no, unless one or both of them are gay. Or the woman is disfigured. Otherwise the guy is always going to want sex. Especially if they are that intimate. Oh Moai -- depth is what -- an eight of an inch below the surface? So Shallow!!!!! :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
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