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Old 10th April 2019, 12:22 PM   #1
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What does my guy friend mean

I have a new guy friend that I have been talking to for a few weeks and I had to go out and left my phone at home he then sent me this after I didn't reply
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Old 10th April 2019, 1:33 PM   #2
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RUN!!!
He's crazy.
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Old 10th April 2019, 2:07 PM   #3
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It seems self explanatory to me.
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Old 10th April 2019, 3:10 PM   #4
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But what am I meant to say I dont want to hurt him
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Old 10th April 2019, 3:29 PM   #5
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Too late. He's a hurty kind of guy and that's why you should run. Clingy and way too insecure and mental. This isn't how anyone should react to not getting a text right back! I think you should tell him no to being friends or anything, or just ghost him since the damage is already done and he did it to himself.
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Old 10th April 2019, 3:48 PM   #6
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But what am I meant to say I dont want to hurt him
Are you interested in him?

tell him that you left your phone at home and he needs to not freak out and assume the worst if he doesn't hear from you right away. People have lives and sometimes it's nice to not have a phone with you.
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Old 10th April 2019, 3:53 PM   #7
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Wouldnt you feel bad doing that to someone and I did disappear for 6 hours
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Old 10th April 2019, 4:01 PM   #8
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I did disappear for 6 hours
Jesus. It's a phone, not a leash. Constant contact is waaaaaaaay overrated.

I think he acted like a complete nutjob and you'd be justified in not speaking to him again, but if you are interested in him, follow pregraph's advice. And hopefully this guy won't drive you too crazy with his neediness.
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Old 10th April 2019, 7:54 PM   #9
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It's time to re-evaluate things. You're in a relationship, and he knows it. Since he's a friend, he should at least respect that. Sending you that text when you are in a relationship is something that just shouldn't happen. If he can't understand that, it's time to move on from him. Just my two cents.
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^ Outlaw, if my squirrels take pictures, I am in big trouble, especially if they learn to deliver a blackmail note.
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Old 11th April 2019, 2:27 AM   #11
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I'm not interested in that way but I don't want to hurt my friends feelings
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Old 11th April 2019, 4:27 PM   #12
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Think hurting his feelings might be EXACTLY what you need to do.

There are, unfortunately, messed up people out there who need to be beaten off with a stick. I think you've found one, sorry to say.
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Old 11th April 2019, 4:44 PM   #13
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I'm not interested in that way but I don't want to hurt my friends feelings
Security specialist Gaven deBecker: People who can't say no attract people who won't let go.

Preraph: And people who won't let go are a problem. Say no. He knows he's off the rails. Think about it, if he's so crazy he doesn't even know what he said in this circumstance was out of bounds, then why would you want to molly coddle him? You don't have to do anything. You should just ghost him and let him keep being crazy until he gets help.

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Old 11th April 2019, 6:01 PM   #14
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I'm not interested in that way but I don't want to hurt my friends feelings
He is banking on that. What he is doing is a type of emotional blackmail to make you feel responsible for his feelings. He has crossed a line into something terribly inappropriate. You are being tested.

The best thing you can do is to tell him you cannot be friends with him anymore, then block his number. Otherwise, there is the potential for him to become obsessed with you and become even more demanding and jealous.

Trust me, you don't want to let this get out of hand. I recommend that you do some research online to see how other women have tried to be kind to a man acting this way with disastrous consequences.

For your own sake, you really need to consider putting a stop to this now and set some strong boundaries with your male friends heading forward.
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Old 12th April 2019, 10:23 PM   #15
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I don't see how this is a test. He got invested in her and more or less confessed his feelings. You should back away to not hurt his feelings worse.
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