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Old 27th March 2019, 3:11 PM   #31
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"it’s breaking my heart to see him feeling miserable like this" ... "it hurts"



this is the language of love, specially the first one! um...
It does hurt indeed. But life is unfair anyways so like it or not I guess I have to accept that he doesn't stay in my life anymore as I am being advised here. He was the first one who asked me if I am still willing to be his friend but in reality he's the one who's backing off. When I broke up with my boyfriend it wasn't as painful as this because there was at least a discussion and a proper goodbye.
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Old 27th March 2019, 3:31 PM   #32
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I agree with Elaine that he is probably pulling back from you because he knows you want to take this "special friend" stuff into a relationship with him. When he had his gf he felt safe because he knew your association wouldn't escalate. Now that she is gone he probably feels that you want to take it further and he doesn't want that because he wants his love back.

I don't understand why you would make all of these special plans with someone else's bf instead of freeing your time to meet your own man. This is a complete waste of your time and emotions. He is in love with someone already.
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Old 27th March 2019, 3:33 PM   #33
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When I broke up with my boyfriend it wasn't as painful as this because there was at least a discussion and a proper goodbye.
That is because he was your bf and owed you that. This guy's heart belongs to another woman.
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Old 27th March 2019, 4:10 PM   #34
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I agree with Elaine that he is probably pulling back from you because he knows you want to take this "special friend" stuff into a relationship with him. When he had his gf he felt safe because he knew your association wouldn't escalate. Now that she is gone he probably feels that you want to take it further and he doesn't want that because he wants his love back.

I don't understand why you would make all of these special plans with someone else's bf instead of freeing your time to meet your own man. This is a complete waste of your time and emotions. He is in love with someone already.
I guess everything that’s written here is something I need to hear. I couldn’t judge the situation from the third person’s perspective and even though it hurts I will try to go NC with him and move on.. in my own pace. Glad to find this page.

Well he was the one who initiated all the plans he wants to commit in this city as he was thrilled for his new life here. I honestly always had fun with him so never thought of disregarding his ideas and plans.
His gf or now ex is in another continent now for an exchange programm and they haven’t seen each other for almost a year. I was thinking that if they truly loved each other, they would have made time to see each other all this time. So that’s why I wonder why he’s that impacted by the breakup when he saw this breakup coming. But I guess in the end who am I to define what relationships to them are and obviously I didn’t point that out to him.
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