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Old 31st December 2018, 2:46 PM   #1
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Ok heís not a fake friend but then he is?

Hey!

Happy new year to everone!

My friend Alex said he’s coming to my party but before it started he said this: ęI don’t feel good so I’m not sure if I’m comingĽ

Now that the party is already on I do miss having a good friend around. He’s not a fake friend but I think he’s just not a good one. Also It might be true that he don’t feel good. Hard to tell though

Do you agree?
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Old 31st December 2018, 2:57 PM   #2
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He might just be ill, he shouldn't be labeled fake just for saying he is ill.
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Old 1st January 2019, 12:03 PM   #3
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Do we agree with what? You haven't told us anything other than your friend said he didn't feel well and opted not to go to your party. Do you really expect us to know what is going on with your friendship based on that tiny bit of info?

As an aside I woke up sick yesterday and decided to just stay home too. I hope nobody thinks I'm a fake just because I want to take care of myself.
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Old 1st January 2019, 8:40 PM   #4
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I did not answer when my friend called and he is mad

Hey!

I know this is late, but I was hosting a party at new year and it went out of control.

Lilly lied to me when she said that 2 guys and 2 girl are coming. She took a whole group of more than 15 people. They were giving threats to people and stealing things like a purse from a girl, my perfume and chocolate bars, and even some of my t-shirt. I did almost had a fight with them

So my good friend Alex was not sure if he wanted to come before the party started. He said that he don't feel good but will give me a call if he feels better.

So he tried calling me like 6 times and I didn't answer. He also sent me a text where it says "You son of a B****" I eventually took up and he asked what the address is. I said you have been to my place before you know where I live I can't talk right now.

When he got to the party he was mad. He said come let's talk outside.

I said "Sorry I didn't gave you the address, I was too busy fixing up the drama"

then he replied "You could atleast say it. That doesn't take much of your time"

I said sorry like 2 times and he didn't reply back with it's okay or something. So he clearly doesn't forget that. I think too much about that because I was being a bad friend and I don't want him to leave me.
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Old 1st January 2019, 8:46 PM   #5
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Your friend is being ridiculous. You were the host of a party. He should have confirmed the address before not got all whiney when you didn't respond right away. You had hosting responsibilities.

The guests stealing does say something about your taste in friends though.
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Old 1st January 2019, 9:10 PM   #6
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Your friend is being ridiculous. You were the host of a party. He should have confirmed the address before not got all whiney when you didn't respond right away. You had hosting responsibilities.

The guests stealing does say something about your taste in friends though.
Well I hope he can forgive me because both me and him got a point that's how I see it. I just thought it was weird asking for the address when he has been to my place before. My fault is to not saying it.

Yeah but one thing you don't know is that I posted my party on social media, so I was aware that people that I don't know were coming. But I was not expecting 30+ people. It got so overcrowded that some people even "chilled" in the hallway. I had control at first, but then I got distracted. I wanted to know everybody and I did actually have a good time until Lilly ruined it. I hope karma get's her cause she's not a good person

But as of most parties when there is a lot of people who don't know each other something is bound to happened. That is unlikely to avoid unless you have a long conversation like I had with lilly's guy friend. I almost got a fight with them. They eventually took off when the party was over.

I don't really think much about it now because I already knew what went wrong. I need to have more control next time like having a good friend to stand by the door to not let uninvited people in. Or that I don't invite people like Lilly or I don't post it on social media

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Old 1st January 2019, 10:01 PM   #7
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You were the host of a party.
Besides all that drama I got 12 girls on snapchat

Now they see me as the fun guy that ęhosts partiesĽ hahha

Do you think I have a chance to hang out with them besides just partying?
Or maybe they reject me and only say yes to come to my party?
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Old 29th January 2019, 2:33 PM   #8
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I canít see the difference.. if that was a joke or if it was ment towards me

Hey!

My friend said ęAre you Mr.Bean?Ľ which he compared me to him. At first I took it as a joke and I said itís good because Iím funny. Then he clapped heís hand and said yes. But at the same time I did not like it and I was quiet for a long time after. It was my way of telling him that this joke was not okay

But on a second tought this might be a stick towards me because itís heís way to say Iím weird in a lowkey way. Me knowing myself Iím not funny and I canít see the differnce if heís joking or not.

What do you readers think?
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Old 29th January 2019, 3:29 PM   #9
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What happened that prompted him to make that comment?
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Old 29th January 2019, 3:39 PM   #10
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What happened that prompted him to make that comment?
Well it could be that he was making fun of my appearance or how I look? I could not think of any other reasons. It seems weird that all of a sudden he just said that.

I took it as a joke because I'm good friends with him and I didn't think he had intention to say something like that. It's too late know but If he does that again I'm just going to say stop it or else I will not be your friend anymore.

If he asks why then I use this as an example.
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Old 29th January 2019, 3:42 PM   #11
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So, he just said it out of the blue? Well, you know, sometimes our friends can be our mirrors to how the world sees us. He was most likely trying to tell you something constructive in a way that didnít hurt you. I wouldnít be touchy if I were you.
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Old 29th January 2019, 3:49 PM   #12
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Where were you when he said this? What were you doing? What were you talking about? What do you look like and what were you wearing? We need more info.....
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Old 29th January 2019, 3:54 PM   #13
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Where were you when he said this? What were you doing? What were you talking about? What do you look like and what were you wearing? We need more info.....
We were on our way to the grocery store and we just went to different shops to look at the sales. We were talking about our time in high school.
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Old 29th January 2019, 3:57 PM   #14
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So, he just said it out of the blue? Well, you know, sometimes our friends can be our mirrors to how the world sees us. He was most likely trying to tell you something constructive in a way that didnít hurt you. I wouldnít be touchy if I were you.
Yes he just said that out of the blue
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Old 29th January 2019, 3:58 PM   #15
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talgaz, i think you ought to ask him! and then let him know it made you uncomfortable.

i also think you are making something grow larger out of nothing meant in a harmful or malicious way and over thinking things way too much.

and i also question whether your esteem is or was a bit low or was low on that day.

i dont think it is too late for you to talk to the freind!!!!!! because i feel you need to learn to communicate a little more honestly at the time with folks and that way you wont be left feeling uncomfortable.

there are many worse things that people face verbally or physically in life (you only have to look in the papers to figure that one out,) so if you are someone who is easilly hurt or unsure what others say, then you need to sort things out more if you are feeling insecure with it all and then hopefully you will be able to get things like this into a proper persepctive!

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