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Should I still try and seek a friendship with these people?


NightRogue

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So last year when I was a first year student, there was people in a club I met who tried to befriend me and I got somewhat acquinated with them. However, I was suffering from anxiety and OCD and as a result, wasn't that social as I could have been and ther was one time they tried to include me in a gathering they had and it ended awkwardly but I did have some decent interactions with them at times. This year, I don't see them much due to being in different departments but they are friends of a good friend of mine and I've decided to try and branch out and be more social. I thought one guy in this group was interested in something I like and started a convo online, but he said, "I don't have anything interesting to say on this topic" after a bit and it ended there. I had a sort of long convo with anothe guy about shared interest. I tried to start another with this guy but no response, which was like two weeks ago. Anyway, there are two others who do actively engage with me and seem interested but they aren't receptive to my FB messages, which I guess could be due to the site. So I was wondering, should I try and be friends with them, like ask the latter two for whatsapp as they are mutual friends to a good friend of mine or should I leave and branch out?

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I would just recommend instead of just starting the conversation about a particular thing, keep it short and just invite them to something there will be lots of other people at, like happy hour or ask if they've considered going to a gig, or have a party and invite everyone you know and ask them all to bring people.

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I would just recommend instead of just starting the conversation about a particular thing, keep it short and just invite them to something there will be lots of other people at, like happy hour or ask if they've considered going to a gig, or have a party and invite everyone you know and ask them all to bring people.

 

Not a party person or a drinker. Pretty introverted as hell.

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Not a party person or a drinker. Pretty introverted as hell.

 

So if you can connect with them, how do you envisage spending time with them? Social events, live music etc are the mainstay of college socialising.

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I had plenty of introverted friends and I never saw a correlation between being introverted and whether partied and drank. Are you sure what you have is introversion? Introverts I've known were fine on their own and might enjoy solitary pleasures, but that wasn't all they enjoyed.

 

Anyway all that aside, just always remember that to keep friends, there has to be something fun and entertaining about you.

 

So be sure you put in some effort even if it doesn't come naturally to you to be fun to be around.

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I do enjoy gatherings like meetups, dinners and movie's.

 

Are these the things which the group you're trying to engage with enjoy? Or do they prefer parties and drinking?

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