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I'm heading out the movies this weekend in a group, how should I act?


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So this weekend, I'm heading to the theatre with a group. I am pretty introverted most of the time, so when I'm there, I just don't want to feel invisible around this group, like I want to make my presence known or something. These people are kinda new to me, so I'm wondering, how should I act to not feel practically invisible?

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so you're introverted now but want to become extroverted in two days? I don't know how you would do that.

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Introverts can socialise, it's just more draining and they need more downtime to recover. It makes me wonder if the issue is more about shyness or something going on with your social skills.

 

Can you do small talk if required? If so, see if there's anyone else in the group who looks a bit like they are on the peripheral and go talk with them. "Hi, I'm NightRogue"

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Nothing. Just act like you normally do. If people are interested in you, they will take the initiative to call you out and put you in the spotlight.

 

On the other hand, anything that you do out of the ordinary to get attention intentionally will just make things awkward and make you look bad.

 

Things you can do to facilitate your social experience include...

-giving thoughtful answers instead of just short or vague ones because you want people to pass you quickly.

-joining in with your own thoughts and opinions when a topic you know about comes up.

-learning something about the performance/movie you are going to see so you can talk about it afterwards.

-not sitting in the corner by yourself where it is hard for people to see you--instead, try sitting near the middle if you can.

 

Good luck.

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Nothing. Just act like you normally do. If people are interested in you, they will take the initiative to call you out and put you in the spotlight.

 

On the other hand, anything that you do out of the ordinary to get attention intentionally will just make things awkward and make you look bad.

 

Things you can do to facilitate your social experience include...

-giving thoughtful answers instead of just short or vague ones because you want people to pass you quickly.

-joining in with your own thoughts and opinions when a topic you know about comes up.

-learning something about the performance/movie you are going to see so you can talk about it afterwards.

-not sitting in the corner by yourself where it is hard for people to see you--instead, try sitting near the middle if you can.

 

Good luck.

 

Really good advice. Unless acting like you normally do involves waiting for people to come and talk to you....or being really quiet.

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Really good advice. Unless acting like you normally do involves waiting for people to come and talk to you....or being really quiet.

 

That is why you sit as close to the middle of the group as you can. Then you are practically in everyone's face, so when they inevitably talk to you, you can follow up with thoughtful answers because you did your research ahead of time and paid attention to the show. Then, people will remember you because you were that one guy that knew a lot of stuff. :laugh:

 

Unless it is a really big group then, ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

Oh, also wear a t-shirt with some funny quote or interesting pic on it. Almost guaranteed to generate some conversations most of the time.

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Oh, also wear a t-shirt with some funny quote or interesting pic on it. Almost guaranteed to generate some conversations most of the time.

 

how about a t-shirt that says I'M SHY, PLEASE TALK TO ME

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When someone else is talking, really listen. Questions, things you're curious about if not too personal, may occur to you to ask them so when they're finished ask and listen again. Allow yourself to enjoy and savor what each person says!

 

Smile!

 

A smile is one of the best ways to communicate! Keep pleasant thoughts in your mind as much as possible.

 

Think as you sit quietly if you like, "Ahhh, here I am with these amazing people!" Look for beauty in each person. In your mind seek out the good about the person. When you listen to them find the most attractive thing about their face. This you keep to yourself mostly, unless you want to genuinely compliment someone.

 

If someone asks you a question and puts you on the spot, just smile and say, "Hmmm, give me a minute to think about that," if you aren't ready to answer!

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When someone else is talking, really listen. Questions, things you're curious about if not too personal, may occur to you to ask them so when they're finished ask and listen again. Allow yourself to enjoy and savor what each person says!

 

Smile!

 

A smile is one of the best ways to communicate! Keep pleasant thoughts in your mind as much as possible.

 

That's it, in a nutshell! Just focus on them. Smile when you say hi to them, like you're glad to see them and you look forward to having a good time. Relax! Set your auto-pilot to a mellow groove. Be kind. Listen and empathize: "I hear you. I totally get that." You don't have to try so hard to put yourself out there or seek attention or talk so much. Just be nice to everybody, smile, and relax.

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The Queen invited guests to a dinner party. Two gentlemen she chatted with, one "made me believe he was the most interesting person in the world" and the other "made me believe that I was the most interesting person in the world."

 

Guess which one she invited to the next dinner party?

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If you are introverted this will be tough but I promise it can be done. Try to act as normally as possible. Smile at everyone. Say hello. Just hello, hi or whatever greeting but speak. Remember everybody is shy & the person who can manage to speak is the brave one so be brave. Offer to share your popcorn or candy. Try to sit toward the middle not on an end. When the movie is over, ask somebody a Q about it

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The Queen invited guests to a dinner party. Two gentlemen she chatted with, one "made me believe he was the most interesting person in the world" and the other "made me believe that I was the most interesting person in the world."

 

Guess which one she invited to the next dinner party?

 

Love this :).

 

Also, it's key to realize you do not have to socialize with every single person in the group. Pick one or two to get to know better and you'll have succeeded in coming out of your shell :).

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