makeithappen Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Hello all, I hosted a friend for a few days recently, but ever since she left, I feel sad. I also feel ashamed at myself for not having hosted her properly. I bought mattress, cushion etc for her, but not a duvet. So I slept with a duvet and gave her a camping duvet (very light). Since my room gets hot, I cannot sleep without the windows open. So I insisted on opening it every night. It only occurred to me afterwards why she did not want to: bc the duvet was too light and she was probably cold. I gave her the duvet on the last day when she actually told me she was cold. I also made an insensitive comment (we were cooking and she opened something with her mouth which she then wanted us to consume, but I refused bc the ingredient had touched her mouth). Lastly, she was helping me cook and kept asking me where every ingredient was... I told her and after a while, I got irritated (I hate to be asked too many questions when I'm really tired). She got upset at my irritated behaviour and I apologised once I realised what I had done. When she was leaving, I did not see any feeling of sadness at leaving. She just thanked me. I then texted her to apologise for my behaviour and she replied saying there was absolutely nothing to feel bad about and that I hosted her well. But now that she's back home, I feel like she's not as excited to speak to me. I miss the chats and calls we used to have. I just feel like she might become more distant. I'm so upset. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Sounds like you did the best you could. I wouldn't worry about that. But now you at least know this isn't anyone you'd want to live with because you'd find it irritating. Link to post Share on other sites
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