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I HAVE A CLOSE FRIEND WHO JUST TOLD ME HE WAS GAY!!

 

OK, I DATED THIS GUY A FEW YTEARS AGO, TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT, I AHVE KNOWN HIM FOR 5 YEARS NOW, AND WE HAVE REMAINED CLOSE FRIENDS AFTER WE BROKE UP. OVER OUR EXPERIENCES TOGHTER, I HAVE BEGUN TO DEVELOP A DEEP CARING FOR HIM, AND RECENTLY, HE FINALLY TOLD ME HE HAD FEELINGS FOR ME, AND HE WANTED TO START DATING AGAIN. A FEW DAYS AFTER THAT, I WAS LOOKING FOR A PEN IN HIS ROOM, AND FOUND A VIBRATOR!! THIS ISNT THE 1ST TIME IVE FOUND OUT THAT HE HAS HAD DILDOS. 0VER THE PAST FEW YEARS, THERE HAVE BEEN SIGNS THAT HE HAS BEEN GAY, WE HAVE CAUGHT HIM IN GAY CHAT ROOMS, AND FOUND DILDOS, HELL MAKE WEIRD TRIPS IN THE MIDDLE OPF THE NIGHT AND BE GONE ALL NIGHT, BUT OVERALL, HE ALWASY DENIES THE ACCUSTIONS, AND WE ALWAYS END UP BRUSHING IT OFF. WELL, WHEN I FOUND THE VIBRATOR, SINCE IT WAS JUST ME AND HIM, HE FINALLY ADMITTED THAT HE HAS HAD HOMOSEXUAL TENADACIES FOR THE PAST 10 YRS. (hes 23 NOW)HE BASICALLY SPILLED THE BEANS, AND TOLD ME EVERYTHING, WELL FROM WHAT I KNOW. HE HAS EVEN ADMITTED THAT HE IS ATTRACTED TO OLDER MEN , (over 50), AND HAS HAD HOMOSEXULA SEX W/ OLDER MEN. HE TELLS ME THAT HE DOESNT WANT TO BE GAY, OR HAVE THESE THOUGHTS, HE WANTS TO MARRY A GIRL, HAVE A FAMILY, BUT THESE THOUGHTS HAVE BEEN DRIVING HIM NUTS. HE IS ALSO BI POLAR, AND HAS ADHD ( ATTENTION DEFICIT HYPERACTIVITY DISORDER). HE IS A VERY SWEET PERSON, BUT IT HAS BURDENED ME KNOWING THAT ALL THIS INFORMATION CAME TO ME, AND HE RECENTLY TOLD ME HE HAS FEELINGS FOR ME. HE ADMITS HE IS VERY CONFUSED. I GUESS ALL I CAN DO IS BE THERE FOR HIM. DATING IS OUT OF THE QUESTION RIGHT NOW, WE EVEN DISCUSSED THIS, IT IS JUST VERY CONFUSING,AND HARD TO HANDLE. EVEN TODAY WHEN I SAW HIM, HE TOLD ME THAT HE WAS SO HAPPY THAT HE REALISED HES STRAIGHT! im LIKE HUH!!! HOW CAN YOU STOP THESE REOCCURING THOUGHTS ALL OF THE SUDDEN WHEN YOU HAVE HAD THEM FOR 10 YRS!!!???

 

THANK YOU FOR READING..HOPE YOU CAN GIVE YOUR OPINIUON AND ADVICE!

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Hurt2xtreme

Tough one. I would say that u should just stick with him through this hard times. Be right there for him and let him know that he can talk with u and confide in you. Tell him exactly how u feel. If u really belive that he is gay then let him know. Mabay he just very confused. All I can really think of is that hes just tryin to "find himself"

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PlentyLV007

I can honestly relate to your friend. I was confused at a time and I even thought I could be a lesbian. I'm not. I went through the whole experience and realized that I wasn't. So at least he got to realize that he's not gay. You should be there for him. In the long run you both will be happy together.

Good Luck! :bunny:

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shy&lonlygrl22

FOR THOSE WHO REPLIED...

 

THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ ABOUT MY DILEMMA, WE ARE GOING TO A MOVIE TOMORROW, I WILL BE THERE FOR HIM, I WILL KEEP YOU GUYS POSTED.

 

:)

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