smudge21 Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 A good friend has recently got in touch after a bit of a break. She eventually tells me she's just started escorting work (yes, the full on escorting work). Tells me I'm the only one who knows as she considers me a good friend who will be there for her and honest with her, which I will be. Now, I'm very open minded. I've even known other girls that have done this type of thing. I'm in the viewpoint that if it's legal, clean, safe and you know what you're getting into and can keep your head, then why not. It's your life, live it how you want. So with that in mind, I'm not barking at her saying she shouldn't do it, and never would. However, this girl has so much potential - she is very smart, very sure of herself, very beautiful. The only thing that holds her back is her own insecurities. She seems to bounce around, never sure of what she wants to do. She's done modelling, acting, singing, etc etc. Never seems to get settled and self doubts so much that she often walks away from opportunites. I feel escorting is another thing to try for her (she does have a high sex drive too), but unlike the rest, it can lead in bad directions if you're not careful. That said, I have known other girls do escorting for a few years and then drop it and go on to leave very productive lives having made a lot of money and set themselves up well. I guess what I'm asking is a way to talk to her, without judging or only sounding like I want her to quit. If you try to force someone to do something, they often go the other way. I will be there for her always, no two ways about it, but I would prefer her to do something else with her life. I need a sort of middle ground, someway to point out the negatives but without sounding like I'm just being negative. I don't know, I'm kinda' confused about all this and really could do with some advice. Last thing I want is to push her away and lose that connection we have. Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Are you looking for the exact words because honestly, your post sounds very even-handed and caring. Like you would be able to tell her much of what you've written here and it be okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smudge21 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 Well thanks for the post, I guess you're right, I think I do know what to say, but was just after some other ideas and thoughts. Last thing I want to do is say the wrong thing... Link to post Share on other sites
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