monkey00 Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 My college friend 20, i'm 19 I recently just began to to know her better because we see each other twice a week in class and talk a lot. Just last week, i realized that i was developing feelings for her. Since then i've hung out w/her friends and her at a pub, her friends are around 23-25 age group. Since i began liking her ive been thinking about her a lot and havent had much sleep or appetite for food. I'm pretty sure she considers me just a friend so far. I'm not going to tell her anything about my feelings because I want to develop our bond and trust to become even closer. The only time we talk on the phone is when we decide to hang out w/her friends at night, cuz she works or goes to school most of the day. Or if it's school related stuff. I never or rarely call her, even if i want to have a conversation w/her cause it might seem like i'm too clingy and she might suspect me having feelings. She gets off work pretty late and I want to hang out, just the two of us outside of school. But I don't think that can happen because she's pretty occupied w/work and class projects. I compliment her a lot since i got to know her. and usually I let her do most of the talking because I want to know more about her and show her than i'm interested. I usuallly bring up something about me only if its related to what she was talking about. Many times I've been there for help when she needed help for school. I don't bug her at all or ask anything of her because i like to be a nice person. We have lots of things in common and man opposites in common. Just finally today, i realized that I didn't think about her a lot like normal. But I think I have this gut feeling of depression, I'm pretty certain it is. In this situation, i'm not asking anything from her or demanding much from a friend. Just now from this depression i feel like i'm on the giving end but not receiving, there hasn't been much times where she showed an interest in me. Do you think I feel this type of depression because I have feelings for her?? If she was a friend in which I did not have feelings for, do you think I'd still feel like this? Any advice to give a depressed guy as well has any way to butter up our friend relationship?? Link to post Share on other sites
VASH THE STAMPEDE Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 I been trough that before ,it is your emotional attachment to her that makes you feel queasy. You have developed a crush, you near the beginning of you stage. If you don't control it you'll start developing a slight hate to hide your true feelings. Also; Its hard to tell because I did not personally know the girl until I started talking to her.I saw her ,develop a crush ,then started being her friend.In the end I didn't really express my feelings and started disliking her and we were no longer friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkey00 Posted October 16, 2003 Author Share Posted October 16, 2003 ok thanks for the heads up Vash I really appreciate it. I'm going to do something about this so I won't end up hating her and cure my depression. Link to post Share on other sites
VASH THE STAMPEDE Posted October 16, 2003 Share Posted October 16, 2003 No problem Link to post Share on other sites
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