He Said, She Said!!

[morganmedina]

Me and my friend were talking and then started arguing about something i dont remember.

She then said "your boyfriend is a piece of ****."

I said "whys that."

She said "cause a couple months ago when i was partying at his house (he lives with 3 other guys) he told me to stay and was asking what i thought of him"

 

I asked my boyfriend about this and he said that it was retarded and that it wasnt true. (he hates this girl to death) He didnt even get mad like he normally does when he gets caught. (maybe cause i asked him calmly)

 

He said "she is a slut and you know you cant trust her."

 

I was 5 months pregnant at the time she told me. I was 1 month pregnant when she said this was happening.

 

My boyfriend always said how much of a slut she was cause she was constantly hooking up with his roomates.

 

anyways...

 

She still says that it happened.

He said that it never did.

 

my conclusion to this:

me and the girl are not friends anymore. she is slutty and was bad to be friends with anyways. me and the guy are still together and the baby is 2 months old now.

 

so...

Why didnt she tell me when it happened?

Is she making it up cause she hates me dating him?

Is he lying and it really did happen?

[quankanne]

I'd put my money on what your man is telling you – guys have a weird, but strong, sense of brotherhood, and believe me, he's not going to hit up on some chick he doesn't even respect unless he's a total sleezeball. Him not liking her only multiplies that determination to not have anything to do with her.

 

as for your former friend ... maybe she was insecure and/or jealous when she told you that. I mean think about it: Here you are, with a guy who cares about you, expecting his baby and probably are happy despite whatever challenges are thrown your way as expectant parents. If she's miserable about her own life, then yeah ... she's going to do her best to make everyone around her miserable even when it means lying and stirring up shxt.

[Ronni_W]

I think you would be wise to give the benefit of the doubt to your partner, the father of your child.

 

It's possible that your ex-friend TOTALLY misinterpreted whatever your mate had asked her. And it's possible that he doesn't know what conversation she's even talking about because trying to get with her was the VERY LAST thing on his mind whenever he said what she misinterpreted.

 

For example. I could see him asking something like, "What do you think of me?" BUT ONLY to get a handle on what your friends think of him, in general. NOT at all cos he was interested in any part of her.

 

Know what I mean? Mostly we want our partner's friends to like us, and my guess/benefit of the doubt would be that *IF* he asked her anything like that, it was to find out if she found him "suitable" or "good enough" for you.

 

I think she totally misinterpreted whatever the heck he may have asked, if he asked anything at all. I think you would be wise to decide to believe the same.

[morganmedina]

Yea thats why in the end I chose his word over hers and hoped that it was the right one. but he is kinda shady.

when i was pregnant i was living in a different town and we wouldnt see each other as much and when we did we wouldnt have sex alot. i was on his email (cause he asked me to do something) and i seen that he registered to a sex finding mate kind of site. his profile had on there NEED SEX FAST!! like seriously im prego and moody and dont want to give it up and you have to go do that.

 

so from our past (he cheated but not sex) i could see him trying to get sex cause well HE LIKES SEX.

[txsilkysmoothe]

Only the two of them will ever know what happened.

 

Actually, I believe your g/f. I think she didn't tell you because she didn't want to hurt you. Since she rejected his advances and nothing happened she didn't see any point in telling you - especially true if she knew you were pregnant.

 

While a man might think a woman is a slut, it won't stop him from having sex with her. In fact, this knowledge might increase the likelihood of him propositioning her. He's drunk, knows she is easy and thinks "why not? My girlfriend isn't around."

 

Has he always hated her or did it start after this party?

 

You will most likely never know. You are with him and should try to make the relationship work. Just keep the possibility that he is capable of cheating in the back of your mind and watch for anything that doesn't add up.

[morganmedina]

he has always hated her. and he wasnt drunk. i dont know this girl is a really bad person. i was her friend just cause she was funny and hated everything else she did. so i dont know.

[StarrySkyBlue]

I'd trust your boyfriend, but what he did about looking for sex on the internet wasn't cool. However, for now I think it's best to just forget about the whole thing and let it go.

[morganmedina]

I'd trust your boyfriend, but what he did about looking for sex on the internet wasn't cool. However, for now I think it's best to just forget about the whole thing and let it go.

 

thats what my sister said. and he was looking for porn not necessarily to get actual sex in person. but i could be wrong. he was sorry for this and he did feel bad and actually started crying about looking for it. cause i almost broke it off cause he couldnt understand my situation of being pregnant.