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Old 20th February 2018, 12:54 PM   #31
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Personally, I would stay out of it. Things like this are one of the main reasons I refused to engage in work gossip with other employees.

Just because it looks like an affair, doesn't mean it is one. Unless you have actually seen, or heard, them having sex, there is no way of knowing if they are doing it. Two other employees saying that they had sex means nothing. I had people swear to my ex that I was screwing other men, and it wasn't happening. It made my life miserable when they convinced him of the lie though. It is what put us on the road to divorce, actually.

Even if they are having an affair, it is also possible that his spouse knows, and doesn't care. Some people have more open relationships, or don't really care who their spouse is sleeping with, so long as it doesn't affect them.

If you think him having an affair makes your job uncomfortable, how do you think things will be when he is mad about someone in the office outing him? Things could be a lot worse than they are.
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Old 20th February 2018, 2:48 PM   #32
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Originally Posted by WhatWait View Post
I did something like this with no regrets. I went above and beyond in terms of making it anonymous though.

A lot of people told me not to, and I have to say, my instinct would be to tell anyone else not to. But I did, survived, and have 100% confidence that I did the right thing.

It was a very personal decision. There was no real justification, and nothing in it for me, except the sense that I did what I needed to do.
You did what you needed to do ?
Can you please tell us how you ďneededĒ to do this ?
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Old 20th February 2018, 7:31 PM   #33
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Originally Posted by Oliviasmith24 View Post
Iíve heard from two other employees that they have sex when everyone else leaves for the day
Why not wait until you have your own first-hand evidence and proof? And then, why not discus what you actually know, with the person with whom you work, first; to at least get a '360-degree' perspective?

I get that it's a very touchy subject, because people have our own personal/karmic experiences and attachments, but that doesn't mean that ours are shared by the other person. It could be very different for them.

As others have suggested, your own best course of action may well be to first check your own motivations, and your expectations from whatever you decide to do - based on the evidence that you accumulate from your personal experience (not based only on the words/testimony of others.)
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