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Old 14th December 2012, 12:25 AM   #76
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So how's your Christmas job that you said you'd be working at now going? Did that happen? If so, what is the work? What is your workday like, and how are you doing at dealing with your responsibilities there? If it didn't happen - why?


It didn''t work out at the first X mas job; I am good with kids, but not in the way they needed me to be. They needed you to make funny noises and speak in a very high pitched voice, the way you do with a baby (but to older kids)
I just did not fit in well there. I can see why I didn't. It is nothing that will hinder my prospects at other work.
Oh well; at least I made a few hundred out of it before I got laid off.

I am having trials at the moment; I had a trial at subway on Monday, and she is going to call me next week to tell me if and when she needs me back. I was SO tried and I do not think it went well. Besides, she just put two new people on the day before me and is not desperate for another staff member.

Today I had a trial at a sandwhich shop. Only it was too busy, and she asked me to please come back on Tuesday instead; I think I have a real chance there.
Lastly, there is another Subway that is about to hire too, so I am about to take my resume in today actually.
I am printing a bunch of resumes, and will hand them out to cafes that need staff this weekend.

They only want people if you are super, super fast, do not talk much and are sort of boring, and are good with customers.
I am good with customers, don't talk to staff excessively, but am not super fast on my first trial a lot of the time. That is why I do not get the jobs. I am not that bad, but they want the very best. You know, they have a pile of resumes if your not super fast the first trial..

They can get another worker to come in and work for free for a day, if you rnot lightening fast. And often, they do....
They also lie! They are like " it is only your first day, we do not expect you do be able to do everything to the same speed and standard as current staff''.....
But then people come along that CAN do everything as fast, and only need one quick glance at the new screen, and they can do everything up to speed right away.

I am average at looking at material and learning it, according to my teachers of the past... I cannot just look at a new cash register, and be able to process orders just as fast as all the other staff, on my first shift.

Sometimes I am desperately depressed and feel hatefull at the people who serve me; because I am DESPERATE for a job, yet they get one and I do not. I KNOW I cam do their job well, if only the managers would give me a changce, just a few shifts to get as fast as all the other staff.

Being unemployed sometimes upsets me a great deal... It is a helpless feeling to just want a job more than anything, and have people tell you "sorry, we arent going to employ you"



As you can see, not EVERYONE on welfare WANTS to be! I want a job more than anything and HATE being dependant on the government....
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Old 14th December 2012, 1:20 AM   #77
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It didn''t work out at the first X mas job; I am good with kids, but not in the way they needed me to be. They needed you to make funny noises and speak in a very high pitched voice, the way you do with a baby (but to older kids)
?? What exactly was this job?
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Old 15th December 2012, 1:19 AM   #78
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Leigh, I hope you will look at your post above. You have so many excuses and super-complex explanations about why you aren't actually doing anything in your life TODAY. I suggest that you really need to learn how to get something going in your current life BEFORE you start going to school. You need to learn how to follow through. You need to learn how to navigate in situations that are stressful or that are not "perfect" for you without bailing. You'll need these skills in order to succeed at school. A person CAN NOT succeed in school without them. They are normally acquired in high school. You should learn them RIGHT NOW while you don't have anything else to do.
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Have you thought about widening your field of view as far as part-time jobs go? You seem very keen on food service, and it's great that you have an idea of what you want, but if it's not yielding very good results for you maybe have a look at what else is available. Clothing stores and supermarkets are always hiring, big department stores are very keen for extra people around Christmas. And how about something more directly related to the degree you're aiming for, so if you'd like to be a teacher, try out at a daycare centre or something. "Social sciences" covers all sorts of things from archaeology to international relations. What field are you interested in?

Also, you should know that people absolutely cannot ask their employees to work for free, even and especially if they've been called in just to help the new girl. Don't let bosses do that to you or your coworkers. And they really don't expect you to be the quickest in your first days, but the quicker you learn, the better.
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Old 17th December 2012, 2:54 AM   #80
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Leigh, I hope you will look at your post above. You have so many excuses and super-complex explanations about why you aren't actually doing anything in your life TODAY. I suggest that you really need to learn how to get something going in your current life BEFORE you start going to school. You need to learn how to follow through. You need to learn how to navigate in situations that are stressful or that are not "perfect" for you without bailing. You'll need these skills in order to succeed at school. A person CAN NOT succeed in school without them. They are normally acquired in high school. You should learn them RIGHT NOW while you don't have anything else to do.

Yes, I have not been good at overcoming bad situations, which will be a daily occurance when I study full time (do I go for a short run when I am deathly tired, or hug my boyfriend, or do I need to do some extra reading instead?)

I often get angry and freak out over tiny issues (such as loosing my expensive running pants on a boat this weekend... when I had no other pants to wear)

For a greatful person (I think about less fortunate people daily, and know I am very lucky), I sure do kick up a fuss and winge and wine to Andrew about issues that I should just shrugg off. For instance, he forgot the portable toilet on his boat we went away on, this weekend. I was livid that I had to poop over the side of the boat, and not go at all during the day,m as there were other boats around!

I am currently working on not stressing and treating people better who I love the most; my mother and ANdrew have suffered a lot, with my fits and tantrums when I do not get my way.

I am generally very positive and too greatfull at mty predicament in life to feel sadness often, and for too long, but vocally I complain when things go wrong (albiet I get over it just as quickly as I snap)

So yes, I will need to deal with life better, in order to start and finish the degree.
In the worst case scenario, i will drop back to part time study, if I truly do not have the tools to cope/handle what Uni has to offer me.
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Old 17th December 2012, 3:08 AM   #81
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Have you thought about widening your field of view as far as part-time jobs go? You seem very keen on food service, and it's great that you have an idea of what you want, but if it's not yielding very good results for you maybe have a look at what else is available. Clothing stores and supermarkets are always hiring, big department stores are very keen for extra people around Christmas. And how about something more directly related to the degree you're aiming for, so if you'd like to be a teacher, try out at a daycare centre or something. "Social sciences" covers all sorts of things from archaeology to international relations. What field are you interested in?

Also, you should know that people absolutely cannot ask their employees to work for free, even and especially if they've been called in just to help the new girl. Don't let bosses do that to you or your coworkers. And they really don't expect you to be the quickest in your first days, but the quicker you learn, the better.




I think I would do better in interviews and trials for big department stores. Where as tomorrow, I have a trial in a sandwhich shop (the best one around here and therefore VERY popular!)

The trial is all about making sandwiches FAST; and being told ONCE where everything is, and to find everything without asking more then ONCE after first being shown.
I really want this to be my break here! My mother, god bless her, knows how passionate I have been about travelling. My entire life I travelled about, and am obsessed with it.

Mum sees how hard I look for work, and is thrilled I finally have pinpointed the degree direction (general area) I 100% want to commit to.
Mum sais that, while she has a good job, she is going to shout me or at least go 50/50 with ANdrew with one overseas trip throughout my Uni life.
While it is incredibly nice and generous of mum to ensure I have another overseas trip before I am 30, I would MUCH MUCH rather pay for the majority of it!

Mum literally FORCES it on me! Her generosity, that is; she tells me that " she WILL force me to accept money for an overseas holiday, because she knows how happy it would make me, and if I work hard at Uni and TRY to find work, she is GOING to make it happen for me"

I, on the other hand, am the one who tells her to NOT send me money, and to NOT insist she pays for a freakin holiday for me!



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I am going to just walk into the trial tomorrow, and feel confident that I can get the job if I work really hard.
I know I can get this job. They said "f your eager, you can come in in your own time so we can train you, and then we will see what we have available"
So, I have been told there is work available, if I can simply do everything fast enough.

I am confident. It is my time. I want to work SO badly! I just want a job already!

Wish me luck everyone.


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And in regards to my degree, I am flexible and open to any good opportinity that comes my way! I could be anything from a social worker, to an HR management worker if I do that major and masters....

I would do well as a social worker; I feel very strongly about mental illness, and just the general cycle of poverty. That said, I would not want to be a social worker my entire life! Too much poverty and hardship around me every day I suspect... Therefore I can always go back and get my masters, if I do not initially....

Social sciences opens up social work as an option, which I feel strongly incilned to, but who knows what will come my way; it is my job to take any opportunity that sounds good.

I am not in a predicament to be fussy, as I am already bi passing the super hard degrees, such as hard science degrees with math in them, because IU DO NOT WANT the best job I can get! I just want a job ai work very hard for, without distressing me too much in the process!( aka, doing hard science and math)
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Old 17th December 2012, 9:43 PM   #82
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Take it from someone who spent a lot of time over-thinking and analyzing what I wanted to do career wise, what degree I wanted to study, etc. : stop planning and thinking, and start doing. There is no thinking and planning that could ever, ever substitute for real concrete action. That's the only way you're going to get anywhere. Quiet your brain and take an actual, real step and just do something. You're just getting yourself in a fantasy spiral until you break out of that line of thinking. Give your brain a rest. It's good to be self aware but you aren't, not really - you're extremely fixated and obsessed and that disguises itself as being self aware. Seriously, give your brain a rest.
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Old 19th December 2012, 5:44 AM   #83
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Rach,

I am not having any expectations as to what my career may be. I do know that I picked social sciences because it opens me up to social work, and doing a one year masters then offers me a lot of different prospects (if or when social work does not work out)

A social worker is only one option I have; I have nto set plans, and only want to make the most of the opportinuties that I have.

I will take whatever opportunities arise, even ones I never expected myself to consider.

I think it is all about being open to trying new things. All I want is to get a degree that will result in a job. That is all. The more passionate about my work, the better of course.

I am pretty positive, and can see myself enjoying a lot of things, even if it is not my dream job, I will still feel proud and try to be good at my job, and enjoy it on SOME level.
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Leigh a lot of applications for next year have already closed. Have you signed up to anything?
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I think she said she has signed up for a course starting next year?
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I think she said she has signed up for a course starting next year?
Oh she has? I must have missed it in the thread. Do you know which one?
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Old 19th December 2012, 11:52 AM   #87
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In regards to my life plan, I am due to start next year, early Feb.
My best female friend is doing it, and she assures me that I can handle it; it is not a life consuming degree, but often leads to jobs; with a masters, there are many well paid jobs to be had, too
So I'm assuming she was talking about her degree. No idea which one.
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t's under control guys, I just had to pay a late fee of 150 dollars.

I am doing a social sciences degree, even though I could have gotten into a much harder course ( I was about 3 points away from being able to study law, not that I would wan to!)

I originally aimed to get into a dietetics or nutrition degree, and wanted to open up my own practice.
However, in my mid 20's it is no longer what I want: I simply want a professional job that pays the bills, and allows for overseas travel if I save a lot.

So yeah. Social work is one direction I could go in, although there is not set plan. I will just take any good sounding opportunity that comes my way.
I just want to get my degree, in a field that will get me work.
I just want my degree, a professional job I like, and to pay the bills and save hard in order to travel.
I know I will be happier doing this, than if I went for the hardest degree I could possibly get into.
..I just like the idea of studying for a job I enjoy somewhat, and to learn languages in my spare time and read a lot; THAT is how I most enjoy learning.
While I enjoy studying, I do not like learning that way, to the extent that I want to study a very difficult degree when I am very happy at the idea of being a social worker, or doing a masters in HR management or something similar.

Some people like learning in the form of studying very hard academically and getting a very good job; where as I like the idea of learning about countries, cultures, people, and launguages, rather than doing a science based degree and learning a lot through THAT medium.
A lot of people probably think I should go for a harder degree, since I can get into them, and pass them if I go through hell ( since I am only a slightly above average student , who only got good grades cos I studied very hard)
But, ya know, not everyone has to aim as high as they can career wise, and derive much pleasure from learning, but in ways that are not related to a super hard degree or career.
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Final grades came out today at my university....my class lost at least one because she flunked out. We have lost a few over the years. My social work class will be smaller when we graduate in May. Not everyone finds social work easy.
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Final grades came out today at my university....my class lost at least one because she flunked out. We have lost a few over the years. My social work class will be smaller when we graduate in May. Not everyone finds social work easy.

Of course no job is easy to find. The best you can do, is pick a degree where you talk to both a career expert/guide, and proffessionals in the industry, as well as doing your online research of first hand accounts of what it is like to get a job in the field.....
Through talking to several people, the right people, you can pretty much determine if there are many jobs out there in the industry, if your likely to get a job in that field, in addition to other things about the job.

For instance, you know IT and engineering are well paid jobs. You also know that there are many useless degrees if you do not think it through, and figure out what work you can get through your degree.
You can find out a little bit about: weather there are many jobs out there in the field, and the likelyhood of you even getting a job within the first year of graduating.
From what I know in regards to social work, if you are passionate about helping those people, and have an appealing persinality, are prepared to work hard, and are just positive and eager to start work, you will likely find a job as a social worker.

I am not going to major in anything that has a LOW likelyhood of me getting a job out of. That is for sure.
What I have going for me is: a warm and caring personality that gets along with most people, hard working, will apply all day every day for the job and come across as personable, friendly..
Best of all, I think I have enough of a "spark" about me, that WILL ultimately make at least SOME people want to give me a chance at a job in the industry.

The problem with getting work now, is that I am going for the lowest jobs on the job chain; fast food, food serving at cheap establishments, and the like.
I am NOT always super fast at serving and doing all those things, on my trial (first shift). I am, however, good at doing it all after a few shifts, but either want teenagers that they can pay less OR extremely experienced adults in their mid 20's.

I will get over 200 a week on student allowance, and plan to live on about 60 dollars a week (although I have not worked it out exactly yet).

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