crzmoma Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Hello Everyone: I perform the IT here at a family owned very successful business. I receive the router logs consistently throughout the day and about two weeks ago I noticed that the President of the company (which is the owners son-in-law) has been booking dates with escorts. I, personally, am a very happily married woman and would want to know if my husband (especially if he is running the company my mother built) was cheating. What would you do if you came across this information? Honestly, I believe that he is pretty stupid for viewing these sites at work. Additionally, he can be a real Jacka$$ at times - throws tissy fits, yells at you, and is very insulting. I am not worried about losing my job - I can always get another one, I am worried about his family and this is not my company. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Send him a copy of the router logs so he knows that his secret is not a secret - and that there is evidence of what he is doing that could get him fired and worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Wow - he's running his M/FIL's company and have the balls to book escorts?? I bet his in-laws won't be too happy.. wait, THEY won't be HAPPY AT ALL!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 I say mind your own business... that's personal stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 I say mind your own business... that's personal stuff. i'm with Lizzie on this one. stay out of it. it's a safe bet it won't be pretty if you bring the info to light. besides - it's possible they already know and chose not to act on it. Link to post Share on other sites
SoHotZanzibar Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Nobody's business. Unless you are prepared to call infractions on everyone, I wouldn't single him out unless it may effect your employment. Link to post Share on other sites
Herzen Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Unless it's in your job description I wouldn't "out" the boss. First, other employees would look with concern at your disclosures of non-work related confidential matters. You're in IT, and there's an expectation that you not breach confidentialities. Second, you're an IT professional, not Dr. Phil. Don't insert yourself into family drama especially as an employee of a family-owned business. Third, you'll be viewed as a home wrecking busy body, not as anyone's savior. Don't do it: otherwise your job is over. Link to post Share on other sites
Poboy Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 as a responsible employee , you should report this. otherwise whats the purpose of them hiring you and monitoring the functionings of the business. you are there to monitor whats going on and report irregularities. as a business guy , i would like to know what my employees are surfing and doing online. not only is the marriage at stake , it can be a risk to business if he messes things up in someway. how you report this is something you have to figure out . directly with the father in law or indirectly with him as norjane suggested. maybe he will get it and not do so again. but you do need to act on this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crzmoma Posted August 31, 2007 Author Share Posted August 31, 2007 Thank you for your feedback, some responses were a little harsh. Forums are for getting advice, which is what I came here for. Of course I do not plan on telling anyone, just curious what others would do in this situation. I thought of telling him so that the new IT person (which we are hiring soon) would not see this action and take it further. I expected many individuals to have a very strong opinion about this. As I said before this is not my company, I would simply lose my job - not my business nor my life. The IT portion is a very small fragment of my job and yes I was told to monitor all activity by the same individual we are discussing in this thread. Izzy; I am not sure whom is the unprofessional individual here - you or I. I do not recall seeing any personal info posted in my original thread that would get anyone into trouble. All - Thanks again, I have not been able to speak with anyone regarding this in person as that would definitely cause problems. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 All you can do is report this to your immediate boss and let him/her handle it. You don't want to be the 'one' to spill it as when that happens it's the messenger that gets shot! You are in a tough spot though and I don't envy you. Link to post Share on other sites
uniqueone Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 I would ask the owner (email him if you have to) what he would like you to do if you encounter people visiting sites that are inappropriate/sex related. When you get an answer. Ask if it applies to ALL levels of the company. If he says yes, then tell him that you have logs of some which you weren't sure how to handle because they pertain to top level people. This puts it in HIS court as to what to do. You have just asked company policy and he told you. You then complied with company policy. Link to post Share on other sites
justice Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 Agrees with Herzen. This could also affect future employment, for reference reasons as well. You could do what the other poster said too, and ask your supervisor. Either way, I wouldn't be bringing attention to myself at all. Are you happy in your job? Is the offender your immediate boss? There are alot of factors to be considered here. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 Izzy, post N/A. No personal info was posted. And this forum is for the kind of problems that crzmoma has. Personally, I can go either way on this, but my instinct says to not say anything. I would agree with herzen. Because if you reveal the screts, you will find yourself defending you rationale, and if it comes out that you think this guy is a jerk, then this will be your reason for revealing his indiscretions. This could ruin more than your job. The only negative is that if it comes out and the FIL found out that you knew, then what would his reaction be? But I think the best grounds you have is that you are required to keep company secrets, and unless you have been given permission to reveal abuses of the system, then I would lean towards not doing so. Yet what WWIU has some merit as well. Inquire if part of your description does include abuses of the system. IF it does, then simply report it to the person that would need to know. Expect that if this blows up and ou are the instigator, you will also be the scapegoat for someone. Remember, even though this is the SIL, his wife is the daughter. And you do NOT want to embarass the owner's family...even if she is the victim, it will look bad for the family. So, if this can come out quietly, then that is better. Link to post Share on other sites
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