HansonGirl Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Whenever I meet someone who I am attracted to, I tend to get away too preoccupied. Even when I realize this person is not right for me, that I know it, I still find myself preoccupied by thinking about the person and analyzing stuff. I almost feel like part of me just is bored and it gives me something to think about, until my next crush. A lot of times i downright don't even like the guy any more but I find myself really "involved" I feel like this means there is something lacking in my own life, like I am bored with my own life. I feel like if i got a hobby (a REAL hobby, not including, obsessing over a guy) or an interest to preoccupy myself, I can easily avoid this. A lot of times my intentions are good - but then i'll log on facebook and 2 hours will slip through my fingers because i was looking at guys i like. part of me just wants to defriend the guys, to prevent myself from having access to it...and i have done that in the past. But when i have to deal with the person everyday i think if he noticed he and our mutual friends might think that's weird that i defriended him and nobody else. Then even if i had a shot in hell, that will ruin it. Anyways, i think my preoccupations are just a SIGN of the real problem. The real problem i feel is that I am bored with my life and I have no passion in my life. I also feel like in a way it's a form of escapism. If i don't have a crush, then i will often escape by watching television. It's a way to escape from the reality for a while. What can I do? I even try to get hobbies and then they don't last because I get bored. I just don't know what to do. I feel like I don't want to waste a minute on a stupid crush, overanalyzing things, speculating, making assumptions. Even when i KNOW I am not going to end up with this person, I get so caught up in it! I know it's messed up and I'd like to stop! Link to post Share on other sites
ird Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I'm exactly like you and wish I knew how to stop. I also use 'escapism' to stop obsessing about things. I do wish I could find some hobbies. Going to the gym doesn't even work. Link to post Share on other sites
casey.lives Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 when you like someone it's natural to think of them all the time. u are in the norm. i think what you can do is.. get a concrete statement like: he never loved me .. he just used me. that statement will pull you back in and cut the deeper desire of reconstructing a reality with him. thinking back is helpful but don't concoct fictional possibilities.. that's not helpful. so.. get a statement and when you feel like u went to far... remind yourself: he never loved me, he used me Link to post Share on other sites
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