one non blonde Posted March 22, 2002 Share Posted March 22, 2002 i've been reading this book and i've learned about the differences between being dependent, independent and interdependent. well it seems i am none of the above, it seems that i am very rebellious and defiant. it seems that i just dont like doing things for others when they ask a favor of me unless i am in the mood too, if not then i rebell in some stupid little way. so how am i ever going to have a 'normal' adult relationship like this? i feel hopeless and defeated already and i just don't know what to do now. at one time i was independent , then i got dependent but it seems i've never as far back as i can ever ever remember been interdependent with a guy, any guy, always the rebellious defiant brat even all grown up. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted March 22, 2002 Share Posted March 22, 2002 i'm curious - could you enlighten me about what interdependent means? is it like co-dependency? i've been reading this book and i've learned about the differences between being dependent, independent and interdependent. well it seems i am none of the above, it seems that i am very rebellious and defiant. it seems that i just dont like doing things for others when they ask a favor of me unless i am in the mood too, if not then i rebell in some stupid little way. so how am i ever going to have a 'normal' adult relationship like this? i feel hopeless and defeated already and i just don't know what to do now. at one time i was independent , then i got dependent but it seems i've never as far back as i can ever ever remember been interdependent with a guy, any guy, always the rebellious defiant brat even all grown up. Link to post Share on other sites
one non blonde Posted March 22, 2002 Share Posted March 22, 2002 interdependent means to work with your partner not against, and not to be a burden on them but to help enhance the relationship, most people confuse independence with interdependence, the easiet way i know of to put it i hope that helped. i'm curious - could you enlighten me about what interdependent means? is it like co-dependency? Link to post Share on other sites
one non blonde Posted March 23, 2002 Share Posted March 23, 2002 doesn't anyone know what i'm talking about here? i've been reading this book and i've learned about the differences between being dependent, independent and interdependent. well it seems i am none of the above, it seems that i am very rebellious and defiant. it seems that i just dont like doing things for others when they ask a favor of me unless i am in the mood too, if not then i rebell in some stupid little way. so how am i ever going to have a 'normal' adult relationship like this? i feel hopeless and defeated already and i just don't know what to do now. at one time i was independent , then i got dependent but it seems i've never as far back as i can ever ever remember been interdependent with a guy, any guy, always the rebellious defiant brat even all grown up. Link to post Share on other sites
one non blonde Posted March 23, 2002 Share Posted March 23, 2002 doesn't anyone know what i'm talking about here? Link to post Share on other sites
roger Posted March 25, 2002 Share Posted March 25, 2002 Well I'll give it a go. You feel that you are unable to get into a relationship with a guy because of your character. Relationships can only really work if the two people are able to communicate and compliment each other's character. If you feel you have a rebellious nature and that will prevent intimatacy with a guy. Well, maybe if you are able to find a guy who is passive and has patience, then maybe this will be complimentary to your character. If you find a guy who is rebellious or volatile, then you'll lock horns over everything! How does this sound? Link to post Share on other sites
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