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Hie everyone.....

 

I am having trouble overcoming porn addiction.I started watching porn donkey years ago and I remember doing some "brief repentance" here and there but I would fall back into it.....Now I want to stop it for good but I am battling that.....whenever I am lonely and sometimes depressed I turn to that...it sort of relieves me but I feel empty afterwards....I hate it!

 

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The Introvert

You are right man....I can stop watching it but I have difficulties finding a gf...em bankrupt.

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First of all I would advise against stopping with masturbation. It makes quitting porn 1000x harder. Getting a girlfriend is a good idea as it can get you disinterested in porn for a long time.

 

My best approach was small steps at a time. Stop watching for 24 hours then if you make that do another day. Keep doing this as long as you can and see when it start to become really hard. I find that I have a really difficult time after two-three weeks but if I pass that hi can abstain for months.

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First of all I would advise against stopping with masturbation. It makes quitting porn 1000x harder.

 

I completely disagree. Be a man. Stand tall and refuse to be a slave to every temptation that comes along. Stop acting like an animal that has no ability control itself.

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We all like our porn from time to time:eek:

 

However, if it's becoming an issue, throw out your computer. I'm serious... Toss your computer into the dumpster...

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I completely disagree. Be a man. Stand tall and refuse to be a slave to every temptation that comes along. Stop acting like an animal that has no ability control itself.

 

I think celibacy is unnecessary, unhealthy and generally a terrible idea unless the person in question has a desire to live that lifestyle (which he has not indicated whatsoever). Its like telling someone else to go fast for the sake of not giving in to food. Without a proper motivation its pointless and generally only making you resent yourself for doing something you actually do not stand for.

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One time I took my disk collection of porn out into the back yard, put them in a trash bag and hammered them into little pieces. It felt good.

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One time I took my disk collection of porn out into the back yard, put them in a trash bag and hammered them into little pieces. It felt good.

 

Because you realized there was so much porn online and why waste time with disks?

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First of all I would advise against stopping with masturbation. It makes quitting porn 1000x harder. Getting a girlfriend is a good idea as it can get you disinterested in porn for a long time.

 

My best approach was small steps at a time. Stop watching for 24 hours then if you make that do another day. Keep doing this as long as you can and see when it start to become really hard. I find that I have a really difficult time after two-three weeks but if I pass that hi can abstain for months.

 

I agree with everything you wrote except the part in bold.

I don't think that getting a gf in order to overcome a porn addiction is fair to that girl. Because he is a porn addict and he will falter and he most likely will have issues where he may not be able to be intimate with this girl because he is so fixated on porn and what porn did for him.

 

All this will do is drag someone into his mess. That's not fair.

 

Even if he really cared about this possible gf, that's not fair to her.

 

He should be healthy and addiction free before attempting to have a relationship.

 

He is an addict so he will have set backs in his process - and he'll drag her down if she starts to wonder why she's not enough and what is it about her that's not good enough that it leads to him going to porn instead of her.

 

He has nothing worthwhile to offer a possible partner until he can fix his own issues.

 

OP I commend you for realizing that you have a problem and wanting to work on it. It must be a very difficult thing to do. I hope you can achieve your goals and find happiness :)

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Definitely get rid of the addiction before considering a girlfriend.

 

If you ''get'' a girlfriend just to stop being addicted to porn and masturbation, you will either become addicted to her (trade one addiction with the other) or have a lowzy sex life and the girl will suffer from your addiction (because you will not want sex with her cause of the porn and masturbation)

 

True story, happened to me and my bf.

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Hie everyone.....

 

I am having trouble overcoming porn addiction.I started watching porn donkey years ago and I remember doing some "brief repentance" here and there but I would fall back into it.....Now I want to stop it for good but I am battling that.....whenever I am lonely and sometimes depressed I turn to that...it sort of relieves me but I feel empty afterwards....I hate it!

 

Any thoughts?

 

First, isolate the problem. For what reason(s) do you wish to stop porn?

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Getting a girlfriend would not help your porn addiction. You'd eventually just inflict your problem onto her. There are probably therapists that specialize in this. Id seek that out. If you truly want help.

 

 

Agreed. Putting oneself into a therapeutic situation to deal with this addiction is the first port of call in my opinion.

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Thought I'd bump this because this is becoming a problem for myself also and probably most guys aswell, how can you make it stop? It's not as easy as some think it is.

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Because you realized there was so much porn online and why waste time with disks?

 

No, because it's actual action, and cathartic.

 

Thanks for the support, always appreciated.

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I fully admit that porn was a problem in my former marriage. I can see how it substituted my desire for my ex wife. Some guys might not have issues with this, and their wives might even be okay with it, but I think it caused problems in mine.

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skydiveaddict
I fully admit that porn was a problem in my former marriage. I can see how it substituted my desire for my ex wife.

 

Porn is dangerous ****. It poisons the soul, destroys relationships and whole families. Never let it into your life.

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I'm just curious to know what most of you would consider a "porn addiction" because I see this topic a lot on this forum.

 

It seems to me, to be more about peoples relation with masturbating, as a bad thing, like there is some sort of guilt attached with doing it.

 

Masturbation is normal, and healthy. Some people do it more often, some people do it once in a while. There are so many women who post in here, who get upset about their man watching porn, and thinks it replaces them. It DOESNT. Masturbation should'nt stop after you get married, the whole "well, that's what your'e for" thing..... If you walk in on your husband or wife masturbating,. and feel left out - then ask to join in maybe, if you can learn to be comfortable. But at the very least, dont take it personally and feel disgusted, or insulted. It aint always about you! Sometimes people like to enjoy....themselves alone too.

 

Anyway's back to porn...

So you watch porn, big deal. You know why they make porn in the first place right? God forbid those films actually fulfill the purpose for which they were intended!

 

Here is the thing.... watching it is ok, as long as it doesn't change who you are, or interfere with your life. If you are missing work, or time with your kids, or friends events, to watch porn? Ya, thats' not good. If you change your schedule around to fit it in during you work day, or any other important event - prob not good. If it's something to do when you get home after a long day? knock yourself out.

 

Single people, married people. Doesnt matter.

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I completely disagree. Be a man. Stand tall and refuse to be a slave to every temptation that comes along. Stop acting like an animal that has no ability control itself.

 

I'm shocked that so many people clicked 'like' on such an illogical response.

 

First off, "be a man"? Seriously?! What do you even mean by that?

Be a man... and stop something natural to all human beings (masturbating)?

 

Secondly. We ARE friggin' animals! Yep, sorry to break it to you, but you're an animal just as much as any masturbating man. :)

Masturbation is perfectly natural to us. Maybe you should stop shaming people for doing something that's healthy?

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Porn and masturbation are two different things. Yes, I am aware there is a relationship, but these are two distinct things.

 

The OP is troubled by his (her?) frequent urges to view donkey porn. I would recommend taking steps to stop viewing such porn entirely. Any other private behaviors that are NOT causing distress and regret need not be stopped.

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Porn and masturbation are two different things. Yes, I am aware there is a relationship, but these are two distinct things.

 

The OP is troubled by his (her?) frequent urges to view donkey porn. I would recommend taking steps to stop viewing such porn entirely. Any other private behaviors that are NOT causing distress and regret need not be stopped.

 

:laugh:

 

Erm... I think you may have misread.

 

He / she didn't say they watched donkey porn! But that they started watching porn "donkeys years ago" (which means "a very long time ago") - Donkey's years

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I fully admit that porn was a problem in my former marriage. I can see how it substituted my desire for my ex wife. Some guys might not have issues with this, and their wives might even be okay with it, but I think it caused problems in mine.

 

Curious about the evolution of this M30USA... Did something happen to initially cause you to turn to porn rather than your wife (like, some lull in your sexual activity)? Did you find the women more attractive than your wife and thus were more turned on to them? Was it that she would not do the kind of sex with you that you wanted to do, so you found that expression in porn? Interested in more explanation for how this happened for you.

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