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Old 3rd February 2018, 1:21 PM   #16
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One thing I worry about is retalition.

What if they find out it was me who called?

The woman I lived next door to, before I moved to this apartment was fined 3 times because of my complaints. She was such a bully. She would frequently park in my parking spot, throw trash down from the second floor to the porch littering all over everything. After I asked her nicely to stop parking in my space all she did was yell in my face. Every interaction I had with the woman, she literally just yelled profanity at me.

When she began to get fined she quickly started her retalitations, when she figured out it was me. She quickly began her retaliations. I was miserable in that apartment over complaints. I called my landlord and the police. They trashed my car, spit on my daughter from above when she was on the porch, and egged our porch from above. It was literally something every day.

If I report this woman in our new apartment, I fear that I will have retaliation. The police won't do anything about that either because I won't have any proof.

It is so tiring and I am not sure I want that to happen again. I know they say it is anonomys but the landlord, the police, and everyone else said that about the other woman. And then, I was forced to move.

So I am just at a loss here about what to do. I don't want to be made to be miserable for making this choice.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 1:29 PM   #17
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You're a grown woman...he's a small child

Think of your possible pain compared to his actual pain then do the right thing.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 1:37 PM   #18
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You're a grown woman...he's a small child

Think of your possible pain compared to his actual pain then do the right thing.
Thanks.
I didn't really need to be condescended.

I am here asking a serious question about a serious problem.

It is not wrong of me to worry about what will happen when the bullying and abuse shifts from this child to me and my own children. I have my own family to think about as well.
I did not come here to ask advice just to be condescended. I understand the right thing to do is to call, but it is not so simple and clear cut.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 1:52 PM   #19
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I guess call and ask If you can report anonymously. Otherwise I wouldn't.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 1:53 PM   #20
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I remember sitting in my apartment on the last day, while everything was packed up. The house was quiet because everything had been unhooked and my daughter and I sat on the edge of the bed listening to this woman go on her rampages on her son.

My daughter quietly thanked me for being her mom, and I pulled her closer to give her a hug. We talked about how glad we were to be moving away from such a person. My daughter stated clearly "Mom, she's just a big bully." We talked about how we felt sorry for that kid, even though he was just as bad about bullying as his mother.

I spoke to my daughter about how to deal with bully's like that, and I said even adults can be bullys. It is not just at your school. I looked at her and said, do you see her coming over here and treating me like that? When have you ever seen this woman come over to my face and tell me something? She hides behind her actions, because she is a coward.

I said to her: You see this woman yelling at everyone about everything all the time, even her own son. Who is just a little kid. But you have never seen her come here and yell at me to my face right? And my daughter looked at me and said "Mom, it's because she sees that you are stronger than her."

That is something I can be proud of for sure. I know my daughter is one of the most caring and intelligent creatures around (brag moment)

But it doesn't necessarily mean that I would like to experience it all over again. It is a miserable situation to be in.
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You sound like you're in the hood. I know how it is, you can get in a lot of trouble when you involve police and stuff like that.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 2:01 PM   #22
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You sound like you're in the hood. I know how it is, you can get in a lot of trouble when you involve police and stuff like that.


Quite contrary, there is a loud mouth ******* in every apartment I just get stuck next to them.

I guess my other apartment was kind of older, but this one is quite pleasant except for her.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 2:01 PM   #23
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Thanks.
I didn't really need to be condescended.

I am here asking a serious question about a serious problem.

It is not wrong of me to worry about what will happen when the bullying and abuse shifts from this child to me and my own children. I have my own family to think about as well.
I did not come here to ask advice just to be condescended. I understand the right thing to do is to call, but it is not so simple and clear cut.
I'm not trying to be condescending. If you know what the right thing to do is then why aren't you doing it? Because it's hard?

I'm just simply saying that what you "may" go through is minor compared to what this small six year old boy is experiencing.

Why did you ask what to do if you knew you weren't going to do anything?
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Old 3rd February 2018, 2:05 PM   #24
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I'm not trying to be condescending. If you know what the right thing to do is then why aren't you doing it? Because it's hard?

I'm just simply saying that what you "may" go through is minor compared to what this small six year old boy is experiencing.

Why did you ask what to do if you knew you weren't going to do anything?
If you think having your car beat with a baseball bat is minor than i would suggest you go check to see how much that costs.

If you like waking up to your porch being egged every morning, or being worried about letting your child out to play, or having to teach her defense techniques, than please by all means. Tell me more how much easier it is.

I merely asked them to move their car out of my parking space once, and woke up the next morning to my car being trashed.

I called the police, I took pictures, I made the reports. Nothing. there was no proof because her and her son did it in the middle of the night.

So yea, it's soo much easier to take the brunt of abuse.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 2:07 PM   #25
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I asked for advice.

I asked for guidance.

I asked to talk about it.

That is why forums exist.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 2:14 PM   #26
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If you think having your car beat with a baseball bat is minor than i would suggest you go check to see how much that costs.

If you like waking up to your porch being egged every morning, or being worried about letting your child out to play, or having to teach her defense techniques, than please by all means. Tell me more how much easier it is.

I merely asked them to move their car out of my parking space once, and woke up the next morning to my car being trashed.

I called the police, I took pictures, I made the reports. Nothing. there was no proof because her and her son did it in the middle of the night.

So yea, it's soo much easier to take the brunt of abuse.
There's a big difference between a car and a child getting beaten too.

I think you have already made up you mind to not help this young boy. Which is fine. But letting strangers know there's a child being beaten and that you aren't going to do anything about it is unfair to the people you've just told who are helpless in the situation but mostly it's unfair to that child who we can't help.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 2:20 PM   #27
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There's a big difference between a car and a child getting beaten too.

I think you have already made up you mind to not help this young boy. Which is fine. But letting strangers know there's a child being beaten and that you aren't going to do anything about it is unfair to the people you've just told who are helpless in the situation but mostly it's unfair to that child who we can't help.
I never said I wasn't going to call.
keep your assumptions to yourself please.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 2:23 PM   #28
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I never said I wasn't going to call.
keep your assumptions to yourself please.
Great! Call then and let us know how it goes so that we know the child is safe please
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Old 4th February 2018, 2:28 AM   #29
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I am not sure if this area of the forum is for families, or not.

Before I begin, I am not in danger.

I am inquiring for the little child that lives in the apartment next door.

I swear every time I move, I get stuck living next to someone who has a loud ass mouth, always angry, yells at their kids, and beats them.

I moved away from an apartment recently for the same reasons. A child who was very little was being beat, literally beaten. I am not talking about a spanking. I am talking I could hear this woman storm through the house on a regular basis berrating her child to the point of tears (the ugly face tears) for hours upon hours. This kid was no older than 8 years old. I could hear her slapping, hitting, etc.

I moved from that apartment, into what I thought would be a better apartment. This time, it is a grandmother and her daughter. Sometimes the boy is there, he can be no older than 6 years old.

I hear her throwing things that hit the wall, I hear her dragging him around, I hear slapping, constant crying through my bedroom wall.

I know this childs name because she screams at him so often.

This woman is not only just angry, she is angry at everything. She has yelled at several other people on the property for parking and whatever else. There was a threat written on the ground in sidewalk chalk because she thought that someone had stolen one of her chairs that had been lost in her move.
I was even walking out to my car once, and she was talking badly and venting about something I had done. I hadn't even spoken two words to the lady. I addressed her "greeting" when she moved into the building.

As I am sitting here now, I have heard this child cry his poor self to sleep.

It is very saddening.

I do not know what to do. Or when it is appropiate to call child services on someone.

Does anyone have any advice?
Call 911 and tell them what you've posted here.

You will be saving that child's life!
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If it's loud enough that you can record the yelling and all on your cell phone, this may be evidence, that can help the police to take the incidents seriously.


I understand you have to live near these people, but, possibly consider that this woman doesn't give a damn about you regardless. It's evident in your post. It's cruel of her to treat her own children this way and then she takes it a step further serving it up to her neighbors.

You'll know when you've had enough and hopefully when the time is right, maybe you'll be ready to stand up for your rights as a paying tenant. If nothing else, I'd call my landlord and ask if they can come have a listen when it's happening. Let them make the call.
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