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RedRose3373

Hi

I have been dating my new man for almost 1 1/2 months now. THings were going GREAT & things were perfect. We both said that we found the one! Things couldn't get any better then they were for the first month. Well we went down the shore & spent the night together for the first time.

 

First he said he woke up with a bug & he was 2 hours late picking me up. Then he asked if we could order in & just hang out in the room. When we got down there, we did go looking for a restaurant. THe first one we came to, he didn't want to go in cause it was a japanese restaurant & he didn't want to sit at a table with people. So we found another place. AFter dinner we went looking for an ice cream place, he said if there is a line of people he doesn't want to stop. It was just really strange.

 

Then, i knew he had chronic back pain & he was in major pain threw the night. We didn't even fool around all night. He has been sick like 2 or 3 times since i met him a little over a month ago. THen he is a sponsor for his cousin & he told me over the weekend that he is going to cancel on him cause he might be sick! That too just seemed strange. So Sunday came & he dropped me off & went home & slept for a few hours.

 

So last night i asked him if he was ok cause he just wasn't himself. He said he just felt like cutting himself off from the rest of the world this weekend. He said he has a lot going on now, his health is not good. He said that he wanted to take things slow cause going from having no one to having someone takes getting used to & adjusting.

 

Could he be a hypocondriac & afraid of people?

 

This might be a problem, but i'm not sure, i'll have to be very cautious now. I know its not me cause he's always telling me how wonderful i am & how i am the best thing that ever happened to him ever! He always told me how beautiful i was & he can't find a thing wrong with me, etc. E

 

My mom thinks that there may be a problem, & thats why he's 41 & still single.

 

Any advice ?

Any one notice any weird actions here?

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Actually, this sounds alot like a problem a friend of mine had, but much less severe.

 

Have you ever heard of agoraphobia? As per the dictionary: Fear of open spaces or of being in crowded, public places like markets. Fear of leaving a safe place.

 

If this sounds like what he's doing, avoiding crowded or open public spaces, this might be it. You might want to ask him and/or consult with an specialist.

 

-E

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RedRose3373

If it happens again i will have to ask him about it.

What if he does have that? What do i do??

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You encourage him to go to theraphy. You will not know for sure unless it's diagnosed by a professional. It can and will get better in time :)

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Sure sounds like somethings up. I would definitely say that is probably why he is in his 40's and never been married. Sounds like you need to investigate. It could be something that would hinder your relationship.

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RedRose3373

Hi

 

Ok now that i had a day to think everything over & get my friends opinions & u guys too, i think i might have jumped to conclusions over the weeekend. I think my man was just in so much pain that he just didn't want to be bothered with crowds of people on sunday. I mean i thought about the full month that we first met, & he never once acted strangely around people. I just think he was in pain this weeekend.

 

My best friend said that when she has menstral cramps, she doesn't even want to look at her own husband. Which i agree. When i have cramps i don't want to be around anyone either. So i'm letting this go.

 

Also my man does have chronic back pain that i'm sure hurts him everyday which doesn't mean he's a hypocrondriac. I think I jumped too fast this time.

 

I guess him not acting himself & the relationship still being new, just made me scared.

 

Thanks for all your advice guys! I'm just a little paranoid! hahah He just seems too good to be true that i am looking for negative things!

 

I will still keep my eyes open though

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