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I have a friend who lives far away (ok, an ex I'm still interested in). We both had a quarrel a couple of days ago via email. I apologized for getting upset and suggested that you talk in order to clear things. I still like him, but I've also come to realize that I do not like the situation I'm in. I've been accepting things from the beginning that I actually do not find acceptable and this turns me into a nervous passive-aggressive wreck who stresses him and doesn't make this friendship a pleasure to be in. I don't think I should stay in a situation that I don't find acceptable and stress other people. I gave this "friendship" a try, but I feel that the conditions are unfair and not favorable for me.

 

I sent him an email two days ago suggesting a talk, but he hasn't answered yet, he probably will say that he is busy. So, my question is: how long would it be acceptable to wait for someone who is busy to call you back?

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Just see whether or not he responds within an 'x' amount of days. Say 7 days. If he does not respond: his loss, and not yours. You cannot make amends for ever and still remain in a messed up situation. Sometimes the time is there to say you simply must move on.

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Just see whether or not he responds within an 'x' amount of days. Say 7 days. If he does not respond: his loss' date=' and not yours. You cannot make amends for ever and still remain in a messed up situation. Sometimes the time is there to say you simply must move on.[/quote']

I find 7 days too long. I don't want to drag this on for another day, week, month or year. I just don't want to be too unfair though with my expectations.

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I'm confused as to why this is a big deal to you if you've already determined the relationship is not a good one you want.

 

Is it just a "am I crazy, or what?" question, or are you looking for ammo to justify your complaints against him, or what?

 

I can't imagine there are any rules for this sort of thing. I mean, it depends on what's going on in life, right? Yet you seem to want some kind of rule to live by, which can really quash a relationship if it doesn't adhere to some kind of legalistic template. It sounds like you're too self-aware to be into such games, though, so I may just be projecting and will shut up now!:o

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Is it just a "am I crazy, or what?" question, or are you looking for ammo to justify your complaints against him, or what?

I do want to talk with him and I prefer that you at least can agree to disagree. I just wonder if it's realistic and unfair to expect someone to get back to you within a couple of days or am I too demanding? It seems he doesn't find it reasonable when I get impatient. I feel brainwashed and don't know anymore what is normal and what is not.

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