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Old 19th September 2018, 9:59 PM   #16
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No way....once a cheater always a cheater. Serious character flaw I have no tolerance for
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Old 20th September 2018, 7:07 AM   #17
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Eventually the question comes up "So have you ever cheated?"

I never ask that, I'm not that insecure. If they are untrustworthy I'll see it for myself in other ways.


I'll just ask them if they've ever drove over the speed limit. If they say yes, I dump them for being a criminal. If they say no I dump them for lying. See, problem solved. (Just kidding )
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Old 20th September 2018, 8:49 AM   #18
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I wouldn't.


To be frank I could never trust them. I'm not saying "once a cheater, always a cheater", but to me, it just wouldn't be worth the risk. There are lots of other fish in the sea, and being on one's own isn't all that bad either.
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Old 20th September 2018, 8:53 AM   #19
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Probably not.

Yeah, I'm with d0nnivain on this one, that type of characteristic isn't something I would want in a spouse.
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Old 20th September 2018, 9:07 AM   #20
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Depends entirely on the reason for their cheating and the extent of it.

If they made a point of having someone on the side as a FWB or were out all the time sleeping with others behind their partner's back, I definitely wouldn't date them. Even if we did keep it as an open relationship, I couldn't trust them not to lie to me.

If they were in a bad relationship that was dead but not explicitly broken up, and they did it out of frustration, then I wouldn't hold it against them in the same way. Because the context of the cheating is a broken relationship, it's most likely that the only time they would cheat on me is if our own relationship is broken.
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Old 21st September 2018, 8:43 PM   #21
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I think I would want to know more about why they cheated and how often they cheated. If someone has a habit of cheating, then no way!
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Old 21st September 2018, 8:51 PM   #22
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I realize people sometimes do change but for me no way. I would want somebody who can show through action that they be loyal.
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Old 24th September 2018, 11:44 AM   #23
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"Cheating" pretty much always include a large amount of lying, so while the circumstances may have mitigating factors - I wouldn't take the cheaters word for what those "reasons" were for cheating. Nor would I blindly accept their description of the affair if it sounded "minimal" in any way.

It is very common for cheaters to rewrite the relationship history once their affairs begin.
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Old 28th September 2018, 10:13 PM   #24
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If they are untrustworthy I'll see it for myself in other ways.
Absolutely. Its about the person, not their past.

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Old 29th September 2018, 2:09 AM   #25
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. Sure, some people might change over the course of a lifetime, but who needs the headache and who's got the time?

A person with a strong moral compass knows that there is no, "We had a few drinks and one thing led to another."

A person with a strong moral compass knows that there is no, "I wasn't emotionally in the right place."

A person with a strong moral compass knows that there is no, "I was lonely."

If someone doesn't feel that his or her needs are being met in a relationship, they should get out.

Those who remain in relationships and choose to cheat are the type that want to eat their cake and **** the baker, too.
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Old 29th September 2018, 2:11 AM   #26
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I think I would want to know more about why they cheated and how often they cheated. If someone has a habit of cheating, then no way!

A cheater is usually a chronic liar and manipulator, not someone you can trust. So where would you go to get the information you're after?
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Old 29th September 2018, 10:25 AM   #27
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Yes I would.
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