avvril3000 Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 In general, i know every couple will differ, but how much does porn comes to play in your long term relationships (or marriage), whether it be you or him or her, it be together, or in secret, or alone but known... just curious how muchpeople actually use porn in long term relationships and what is kinda normal usage and what is excessive? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 It varies from couple to couple. There is no universal answer. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 1, 2017 Share Posted May 1, 2017 I'm sure it's all over the place depending on what the ethics are, whether someone finds it offensive because of the exploitation factor and find it demeaning to women. I can tell you it's normal for both partners to masturbate, but porn is going to depend on each person. Too much porn is when it is interfering with the sex life between the partners or when one partner finds it a dealbreaker and the other finds porn more important than their partner. The main point I would make is that if I was going to have a family, I wouldn't pick a man with a porn habit because I wouldn't want that around my kids and I wouldn't want that being modeled for them or for them to think women are disposable like that. My dad had porn and it really did a number on me. And kids always find it. Yes, you'll say , well, they'll see it on the internet anyway, and that is true -- but it's one thing them sneaking it and knowing it's not acceptable and another thing them finding it in their own house with a role model using it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted May 1, 2017 Share Posted May 1, 2017 In general, i know every couple will differ, but how much does porn comes to play in your long term relationships (or marriage), whether it be you or him or her, it be together, or in secret, or alone but known... just curious how muchpeople actually use porn in long term relationships and what is kinda normal usage and what is excessive? It's problem when it interferes with one or more aspects of a person's life -- relationships, work, social, etc. It becomes an addiction when it affects the life of the person or their partner in a significant way just like drugs, alcohol, other addictions. When pornography usurps the physical and/or emotional quality of a couple's life and the other partner is feeling "replaced" by it . . . 2 Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted May 1, 2017 Share Posted May 1, 2017 It's problem when it interferes with one or more aspects of a person's life -- relationships, work, social, etc. It becomes an addiction when it affects the life of the person or their partner in a significant way just like drugs, alcohol, other addictions. When pornography usurps the physical and/or emotional quality of a couple's life and the other partner is feeling "replaced" by it . . . this pretty much. it's all in how you use it. it CAN be a problem if it gets to the point of doing the things above, but otherwise it can be just like a snack. some couples enjoy watching porn together to get into the mood. some watch it together because they think it's funny. (Porn does vary a lot, comedy porn exists, it's not all the horrible stuff). some people are turned on by watching their partner masturbate to porn. some people think porn is totally creepy and don't want to be involved with it at all. and some people need porn for masturbation because they cannot get aroused without hearing someone else being aroused, because their sexuality is tied up in giving other people pleasure so if no other person is present it just doesn't work. unfortunately there's so much shame and stigma involved in porn-watching that it's really hard to get good figures on how much people look at it on average. Link to post Share on other sites
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