Lily blue Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Hi I think I posted a wrong section....so I am not young just turn 46 but very fit and young looking...that is my real picture of me below my user name just took last month....I m Korean American. Anyhow, I as married very long time to my first love but divorced for three years now and in the beginning we are young so, we had sex often than after the baby, Sex slowed way down. Not because of me but my ex husband...only ones a week and than twice a month and than once a month I want sex at least twice a week.... My Ex husband was cheater and addicted to porn because I find it and he lies and hides from me and I caught him masturbating many times and caught him having an affair so we got divorced. But few times he my Ex said I reward you sex or he say when you deserve it..... I cook and cleaned work, faithful and I do anything or not afraid to try new things so what is that mean? Anyway, now I have boyfriend who is very fit and he has big penis too which hurts a little but feels good too. we both work out and lift weights...he has good energy but work long hours every day at his office and lots of meetings and I know he is tired. Begging of our relationship, we had sex twice a week but after 4 months later, once a week. But he works out at the gym 4 times a week in the evening ... I try to seduce him but don't work on him....he just say he is tired or not in the mood because of stress.... I ask him is me boring? He say no....he say we have very intense sex and he never had such intense sex before... He did told me he had more sex with his Ex wife and Ex girl friend but never this intense ...he say I wear him out.... I don't get it....when his penis erect, it stays hard long time even after we finished...no he is not taking any melds nor do porn and he say he do not masturbate in the relationship...when he is single he did because he had no choice and he is not a type just hook up for sex. I know this...he is super clean person and organize personality and germafobic and he say he never give woman oral sex because fraid of germs nor French kiss nor shakes hand with anyone. and never have sex with woman without relationship because he say you never know she is clean and how many guys she been with....and very picky about woman..he is not like my Ex...very honest and straight forward. He don't do porns...he is disgust by it and I trust him on this.... Anyway, one time on the weekend, I really wanted sex so I try to be cute and start kissing him and touching his chest and all he remove my hand say, we just did Friday and that didn't last long ...is not enough? That turns me off fast...I didn't say nothing.... Weeks later I thought I seduce him again....it happen again and he say, you are out of commission. What is that mean? Why both times man I fall in love uses sex as reward? Is that mean they really not enjoying it but doing it to shut me off? When we do, he moans, he calls my name and he kisses me all over and he look in to my eyes .... What's really behind this? What is really mean? I do anything for him, again I cook and clean, never talk back or yell...give them massages when they are tired, write love note or encourage note in his brifcase everyday, I don't drink, smoke or cuss and do all the woman's duty and I always looking nice and clean and when he comes home dinner ready and give him a hug with smile at the door everyday I get up 5:30 every morning make him breakfast and pack his snack and faithful, devoted to man I love. Yes I do things most woman wouldn't do only makes do..... I did that for my Ex husband and my current boyfriend.....if I leave him...I think I m done with man....too much work and lonely. I m not ugly...I weigh 115 pounds 5"6 and very fit ...because I work out, my body is fit and firm and perky. I get hit my younger and older man all the time in public, at work, at the gym and when I go for a walk, cars hunk and stop asking do I need a ride..... I don't think I m boring in bed....I enjoy giving good oral sex, any position he want or suggest I never say no or give funny face....I make eye contact and make noise, I don't fake...so I m so confused and hurt....now I don't enjoy sex but act like I do now and I can't reach orgasm because of it....but I can't talk to him either.... Please tell me what and why this is happening or hat reason? Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Sounds like, to me, an underlying problem exists, As a man, if he doesn't want to have sex, something has him in a twist, He could be stressed from work, upset at you for something you did (not ok btw), He could be attracted to someone else, but I don't want you to think that way. I suggest you spice your love life up, maybe offer a getaway? Light up some candles, and answer the door in some kind of lingerie? Maybe try to talk to him, although men aren't known for being great at talking, Perhaps suggest some erotic foreplay, but beware of his balking. Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 (edited) Content regarding sex and sexual relations is discussed in our sex forum which a duplicate of this thread already exists in so I'll close this up. Relevant thread: Question for the guys about sex thing Edited December 7, 2015 by William Added link to existing discussion Link to post Share on other sites
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