Gloria25 Posted December 23, 2014 Share Posted December 23, 2014 This is kind of a spin off from my recent response to another thread... I have a sibling who is "friending" some females with "questionable" selfies/pics on their Facebook - even though he's in a RL. I wonder why he is doing this. I like the chick he is in a RL with and from the outside, they do not appear to be having problems and are making plans together. If I was his gf (no, I'm not dating a sibling), I'd take an issue with him friending these chicks with skanky pics/selfies. I want to have a talk with him about this, but not sure if that's my place. I mean, I'm not dating him and I've learned a while back to stay out of other people (including sibling's) relationships. Why do some men do this? Should I say something to him? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 23, 2014 Share Posted December 23, 2014 If he isn't friends with these people IRL I don't see the point other than for his possible prurient interests. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 23, 2014 Share Posted December 23, 2014 You mean you're sibling is just like every other guy on the planet and isn't different or special because he's related?...get out of town! Guys like vagina hanging around...they're either nice to look out or a good back up plan when things go south with the girlfriend (women call these men "friends") It's really up to her (his GF) to set those boundaries, it is their relationship...however you know the true character of your sibling by his behavior and actions, condemning him from doing so or telling him it's inappropriate will just have him take it underground with these women in some other way/shape or form...you can't change the man. It doesn't necessarily mean he's going to sleep with these women, these women could have friendzoned him or just adding him to the collection of male interest that gives them validation that they are attractive...but still, I think he will either fight you on this and probably say it's none of your business unless you've got a good rapport with him. Through relentless female pressure however, I'm sure you can set him "straight". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gloria25 Posted December 23, 2014 Author Share Posted December 23, 2014 If he isn't friends with these people IRL I don't see the point other than for his possible prurient interests. Agreed, but these chicks have some eh "pictures" that pique interest... I've actually clicked on some of these pages to see guy's responses and some guys put like responses of images of someone/something "making it rain" with dollar bills to these chicks. So, I'm assuming guys do it cuz it's like free "visuals" of skanky chicks? Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted December 24, 2014 Share Posted December 24, 2014 This is kind of a spin off from my recent response to another thread... I have a sibling who is "friending" some females with "questionable" selfies/pics on their Facebook - even though he's in a RL. I wonder why he is doing this. I like the chick he is in a RL with and from the outside, they do not appear to be having problems and are making plans together. If I was his gf (no, I'm not dating a sibling), I'd take an issue with him friending these chicks with skanky pics/selfies. I want to have a talk with him about this, but not sure if that's my place. I mean, I'm not dating him and I've learned a while back to stay out of other people (including sibling's) relationships. Why do some men do this? Should I say something to him? - Believe me, I have issue with social media period, and don't understand why people in "relationships", go to these sites to "friend" people - The same reason why some women do it also...boredom / unhappiness / attention seeking???? I am not on any social media, and I can't imagine being with someone that spends all their time on such sites and checking their phones every second 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 So, I'm assuming guys do it cuz it's like free "visuals" of skanky chicks? Pretty much. Back when I used to log into facebook more than twice a year and I was single I'd add most women that popped up who had nice hair. Why not? I get some women not liking if their b/f did something like that but others don't care and as long as they're not engaging/flirting with them I don't think there's a ton of potential for cheating or anything. It's basically the same thing most guys do when they're out alone. They look. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 I'm assuming guys do it cuz it's like free "visuals" of skanky chicks? But there's Tumblr for that... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 But there's Tumblr for that... lol. Well said devil dog. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 You mean you're sibling is just like every other guy on the planet and isn't different or special because he's related?...get out of town! Guys like vagina hanging around...they're either nice to look out or a good back up plan when things go south with the girlfriend (women call these men "friends") Truer words... Link to post Share on other sites
SomeDude16 Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 I friend/follow women I don't know all the time. Besides being nice to look at it is a great conversation starter. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 . So, I'm assuming guys do it cuz it's like free "visuals" of skanky chicks? Yes. That's all it is. Just looking. Doesn't mean he's looking to cheat on his gf. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 This is kind of a spin off from my recent response to another thread... I have a sibling who is "friending" some females with "questionable" selfies/pics on their Facebook - even though he's in a RL. I wonder why he is doing this. I like the chick he is in a RL with and from the outside, they do not appear to be having problems and are making plans together. If I was his gf (no, I'm not dating a sibling), I'd take an issue with him friending these chicks with skanky pics/selfies. I want to have a talk with him about this, but not sure if that's my place. I mean, I'm not dating him and I've learned a while back to stay out of other people (including sibling's) relationships. Why do some men do this? Should I say something to him? If his own gf isn't bothered then yes it does seem very out of place for you to say something to him about it. To be honest, I don't pay attention to anyone's FB that much so am even confused as to how people know who someone is friending unless they go out of their way to see. I mean I know sometimes it might show up that such and such just friended so and so but I don't really see it very often so haven't a clue who is friending who. Assuming his FB is public for all to see, hence you seeing this, then his gf can see it too and if she feels fine, then you should leave them to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 Facebook is for losers period. All I keep hearing from it is drama after drama, and people spending unproductive endless hours they aren't going to get back on there Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I don't put much thought into who I friend on facebook. I think you'd be out of line talking to him about it. I've friended lots of hotties but it never goes anywhere because of anything Facebook related - its not a pickup website anyways, and if you do use it as a pickup website well good luck!.... Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Idunno, I have a rather massive collection on my PC and my phone of pics of hot guys, couples and the occasional female. I like eye candy, don't most people. I think 'friending' eye candy is a little disrespectful to an SO, though. But maybe it's just because personally I'm stealthy. If I were on social media and saw a hot guy, I wouldn't add him as a friend. I'd just steal his pics and stash them for my secret use, creepy pervert that I am. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gloria25 Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 Idunno, I have a rather massive collection on my PC and my phone of pics of hot guys, couples and the occasional female. I like eye candy, don't most people. I think 'friending' eye candy is a little disrespectful to an SO, though. But maybe it's just because personally I'm stealthy. If I were on social media and saw a hot guy, I wouldn't add him as a friend. I'd just steal his pics and stash them for my secret use, creepy pervert that I am. Nah, no thanks.... I just don't see guys as "eye candy" like they see females that way. Over the years, I just discard racy pics I've gotten from guys I was seeing. Sometimes immediately after a break up, sometimes when I'm just cleaning up the computer for back-up and/or to make more room. For a while I've had one from two guys and don't know why I held on to them for so long. Part of me pretty much forgot I had them. I like a few months ago finally got to deleting them cuz I was cleaning up my Mac cuz I was lending it to my siblings - don't want them running across two different, completely naked guys. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Personally I think it's no different for many guys than to watch porn (which I have no issue with). The only thing I'd start to dislike would be him actively chatting with each of those girls. Frankly, I think the boyfriends of said 'skanky girls posting cloth-less pictures of themselves' have a lot more reason to be concerned. On the other hand, chances are it was those pictures which attracted them in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gloria25 Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 Personally I think it's no different for many guys than to watch porn (which I have no issue with). The only thing I'd start to dislike would be him actively chatting with each of those girls. Frankly, I think the boyfriends of said 'skanky girls posting cloth-less pictures of themselves' have a lot more reason to be concerned. On the other hand, chances are it was those pictures which attracted them in the first place. Oh no, sadly there are guys who do not have issues with their "girl" doing this. Some actually perceive it as some way of showing of their "trophy" (oh gosh, did I use that term - trophy?). In other words, I guess a lot of men see who they date as part of their "accomplishments"? So, some males (not men) get off on showing off someone they're seeing and/or interested in - as if she's a piece of meat. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Nah, no thanks.... I just don't see guys as "eye candy" like they see females that way. Over the years, I just discard racy pics I've gotten from guys I was seeing. Sometimes immediately after a break up, sometimes when I'm just cleaning up the computer for back-up and/or to make more room. For a while I've had one from two guys and don't know why I held on to them for so long. Part of me pretty much forgot I had them. I like a few months ago finally got to deleting them cuz I was cleaning up my Mac cuz I was lending it to my siblings - don't want them running across two different, completely naked guys. Oh really, or they were just occasionally looked at for ....... Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 I personally have never met a woman who calls other women 'females' or who cares all that much who her brother clicks on or comments to in Facebook. The only people I read calling women 'females' are those MRA guys and similar... Hmmm Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 I personally have never met a woman who calls other women 'females' or who cares all that much who her brother clicks on or comments to in Facebook. The only people I read calling women 'females' are those MRA guys and similar... Hmmm So a woman is not a female then...am I missing something here? Link to post Share on other sites
SolG Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Wouldn't worry about it. It's just eye candy. No harm in looking. And yes, it is his GF's place to set boundaries in their relationship. Not yours. And for something completely different... you can bet your bottom dollar that at least a few of these candy profiles are actually a front by guys like Ken the retired overweight truck driver who gets his kicks by getting likes and comments on the lewd pics he uploads while wearing lacy knickers :-D Link to post Share on other sites
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