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Medium.Lumo

It's been a month and a half since my ex and I broke up. Since then I have been rejected by another girl who I asked for a long distance relationship.

 

To top it all off, it's my birthday coming up and I know I won't get laid. I know that sounds shallow but when my ex and I were together I thought it would be pretty cool, make my birthday awesome.

 

Now I know I'll still have fun. My buddies and I have organized a guy day of paint balling and desert football on the Saturday of my birthday weekend, then my girl and guy friends are coming out on Saturday night to a club for birthday drinks. Then on the Sunday I'm going to my folks for breakfast and going to the zoo with a close friend and her daughter. And I strongly suspect a surprise party on Friday night.

 

But I know I won't get laid for a long time and it is bugging me. I know people often bring up drunk girls or "specialists", but my ethical code prevents me from pursuing either of those options.

 

Drunk girls - I can't take advantage of them like that.

 

"Specialists" as Ryan R calls them... even there are legal ones not too far away, I believe it's a destructive and completely unethical ecosystem of disease and despair. I'd be helping to maintain a system that ruins women's lives and perhaps my own.

 

Unfortunately this city is not an easy place to meet women. They are quite high maintenance and don't settle for average guys.

 

 

Edit... rereading this post makes me sound like an ass but I guess I'm just hoping for advice or sympathy.

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Camaro Guy

I honestly don't know what to tell you, man. You're in a better position than I am. I'm going to be 24 in a couple of months and I haven't had any type of meaningful interaction with a girl past being friends. You can't really control these things, I will probably end up being a virgin for a very long time if not for life. I'm sorry things had to end badly for you but just know that if it happened once, it can happen again.

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I'm sorry, but I don't think you warrant sympathy.

 

Yes, you sound like an ass - I'm sorry, but the pervasive whining will get you no where and will DEFINITELY turn off any potential prospects.

 

No girl is going to want someone who sounds so entitled. So you don't get laid on your birthday... Boo-Hoo.

 

Enjoy the day for what it is and for those in your life who are trying to show you a good time. Many people don't even have that much.

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Medium.Lumo

Thanks man.

 

I was in the same position as you in February. A lot can happen in a short space of time. You'll find someone probably sooner than you think.

 

I'm just in a negative space after being rejected.

 

And where I live girls are super picky.

 

I honestly don't know what to tell you, man. You're in a better position than I am. I'm going to be 24 in a couple of months and I haven't had any type of meaningful interaction with a girl past being friends. You can't really control these things, I will probably end up being a virgin for a very long time if not for life. I'm sorry things had to end badly for you but just know that if it happened once, it can happen again.
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Medium.Lumo

Wow. What a reply.

 

Thanks for your honesty. I know I'm being shallow but I just miss my ex so much and I know if we were still together I'd get some on my birthday :(

 

I'm sorry, but I don't think you warrant sympathy.

 

Yes, you sound like an ass - I'm sorry, but the pervasive whining will get you no where and will DEFINITELY turn off any potential prospects.

 

No girl is going to want someone who sounds so entitled. So you don't get laid on your birthday... Boo-Hoo.

 

Enjoy the day for what it is and for those in your life who are trying to show you a good time. Many people don't even have that much.

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Unfortunately this city is not an easy place to meet women. They are quite high maintenance and don't settle for average guys.

 

Move somewhere else where the overall dynamics, both in general and with women, are more compatible and feel more synergistic.

 

Death is cruel. Life is a gift. Women are who they are.

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man_in_the_box

Didn't get laid on my birthday either - so what. If you think passive agressive whining warants sympathy your're wrong.

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Medium.Lumo

Camaro guy: Las Vegas

 

Carhill: I wish I could. I hate the girl issues here, it's easy to make friends but not to have sex (with decent girls anyway)... but almost all of my friends and family are here, and my job is here... its difficult to uproot. If I could I'd go to California. It is so sweet there. And there are more (and hotter) girls there.

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I'm moving my business and real estate holdings out of California. 55 years here is enough. Enjoy your trip. Hope what you find here is more your style. Yep, as I saw at the beach last weekend, lots of hot bodies and a ton of money being thrown around. Cali is good for that, no doubt.

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Medium.Lumo
Didn't get laid on my birthday either - so what. If you think passive agressive whining warants sympathy your're wrong.

 

Ok... so you're bitter and taking it out on me. You'd think since we're in the same situation you'd be a bit more understanding. Oh well. Good luck and thanks for your input anyway.

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Medium.Lumo
I'm moving my business and real estate holdings out of California. 55 years here is enough. Enjoy your trip. Hope what you find here is more your style. Yep, as I saw at the beach last weekend, lots of hot bodies and a ton of money being thrown around. Cali is good for that, no doubt.

 

Sorry to hear that man. Unfortunately it's just a dream of mine to move to Cali so not going to happen any time soon but can I ask ... what don't you like about? Why move?

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Camaro guy: Las Vegas

 

Carhill: I wish I could. I hate the girl issues here, it's easy to make friends but not to have sex (with decent girls anyway)... but almost all of my friends and family are here, and my job is here... its difficult to uproot. If I could I'd go to California. It is so sweet there. And there are more (and hotter) girls there.

 

Decent girls don't want casual sex if that's what your after? or you want a gf situation I don't know..if your only after super hot women then you may limit yourself considerably..try an average girl you might be surprised..

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im 45 tomorrow....and im single......the single part doesnt matter what matters is i get a chance to celebrate another birthday.......as a female friend of mine (in hospital in the dying room) was given two weeks to live and goes out in ultimate pain while i get to have another year come to pass.....for that reason.....i am not celebrating my birthday as such...... no presents no cake no party....just reflection and i wont be announcing it.....it will go past quietly like many of my birthdays have..........i think making a birthday, a time to get laid sort of belittles the beauty of what it means to have life and how special that life is....be grateful lumo for what you have.....not what you havent....at least and mostly more than anything..... you have life.....to live, for many more years....deb

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Decent girls don't want casual sex if that's what your after? or you want a gf situation I don't know..if your only after super hot women then you may limit yourself considerably..try an average girl you might be surprised..

 

Decent girls don't want casual sex? Where did you hear that? I knew a lot of "decent girls" in college and they wanted casual sex.

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Medium.Lumo
Decent girls don't want casual sex if that's what your after? or you want a gf situation I don't know..if your only after super hot women then you may limit yourself considerably..try an average girl you might be surprised..

 

I don't want casual. Actually what I really want is a relationship. The girl that rejected me recently is from New Zealand. I wanted an LDR. I know that wouldn't have got me laid but I value the relationship more than the sex.

 

But it would still be cool to get laid :( which I would be if I was still with my ex. I'm really tempted to try to reconcile.

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I don't want casual. Actually what I really want is a relationship. The girl that rejected me recently is from New Zealand. I wanted an LDR. I know that wouldn't have got me laid but I value the relationship more than the sex.

 

But it would still be cool to get laid :( which I would be if I was still with my ex. I'm really tempted to try to reconcile.

Are you insane? just wondering...is getting laid really worth dealing with a abusive manipulative women? if this is the ex you once spoke of on here...

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Ok... so you're bitter and taking it out on me. You'd think since we're in the same situation you'd be a bit more understanding. Oh well. Good luck and thanks for your input anyway.

 

To be fair your thread title took it out on women in general. It sounds like you have a freaking awesome birthday coming up and clearly lots of people who care for you. Besides that you don't even seem to be in a forever alone situation at all since your BU is about 1.5 month ago. Do you have any clue how much things you have going for you?

 

And were not at all in the same situation.

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TigerLilly78

I didn't even get a birthday card this year or for the last oh 8..yeah its been fun..

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Medium.Lumo

I'm sorry Deb. You're so right. I even knew that I was being a spoiled brat when I typed the OP but thanks for your post. Brilliant.

 

Happy birthday for tomorrow.

 

im 45 tomorrow....and im single......the single part doesnt matter what matters is i get a chance to celebrate another birthday.......as a female friend of mine (in hospital in the dying room) was given two weeks to live and goes out in ultimate pain while i get to have another year come to pass.....for that reason.....i am not celebrating my birthday as such...... no presents no cake no party....just reflection and i wont be announcing it.....it will go past quietly like many of my birthdays have..........i think making a birthday, a time to get laid sort of belittles the beauty of what it means to have life and how special that life is....be grateful lumo for what you have.....not what you havent....at least and mostly more than anything..... you have life.....to live, for many more years....deb
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Err if you want to reconcile with your ex just for birthday sex... that's bad. :sick:

 

Perhaps you're meeting the wrong girls in the wrong places. Try not looking. And somehow your posts are starting to make me feel like you want a gf just for sex.

 

Anyway, your birthday weekend sounds fun so just go enjoy it!!!!!!! You're surrounded by loads of people who still cares enough of your birthday to celebrate with you. Be thankful for that.

 

Happy early birthday! :bunny:

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Medium.Lumo

That's not the case I promise you.

 

I am thinking about her a lot after getting rejected. Yes she treated me badly at times but she was at least a girl who was willing to be in a relationship with me.

 

I have tons of "girl" friends but no girlfriend... It just makes me sad.

 

Thanks for the wishes :)

 

Err if you want to reconcile with your ex just for birthday sex... that's bad. :sick:

 

Perhaps you're meeting the wrong girls in the wrong places. Try not looking. And somehow your posts are starting to make me feel like you want a gf just for sex.

 

Anyway, your birthday weekend sounds fun so just go enjoy it!!!!!!! You're surrounded by loads of people who still cares enough of your birthday to celebrate with you. Be thankful for that.

 

Happy early birthday! :bunny:

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Medium.Lumo
I didn't even get a birthday card this year or for the last oh 8..yeah its been fun..

 

What?????? Why????????

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You're right. I do have good friends and family. But that's all I have.

 

We might not be in identical situations but we both don't have girlfriends.

 

To be fair your thread title took it out on women in general. It sounds like you have a freaking awesome birthday coming up and clearly lots of people who care for you. Besides that you don't even seem to be in a forever alone situation at all since your BU is about 1.5 month ago. Do you have any clue how much things you have going for you?

 

And were not at all in the same situation.

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I'm sorry Deb. You're so right. I even knew that I was being a spoiled brat when I typed the OP but thanks for your post. Brilliant.

 

Happy birthday for tomorrow.

 

i wish you a happy birthday for your special day lumo with many more to come...we all get bratty sometimes.....that makes us human.........hugs....deb

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