dmmm Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 Hi Probably a stupid idea but I’m becoming more and more convinced that this is a good idea to sole my problem: I’m 28 and never had a gf, a virgin.. I have a severe lack of confidence. I’m very cagy with women. Don’t have a clue how to talk to them or be around them or touch them in a flirty way. Had a date the other day and my nervousness about touching was very apparent. So I was thinking of hiring an escort and just asking her if I can sit with her and basically hug, flirtly touch etc whilst talking to her as well. Just the talking part as well would be beneficial to me to make me comfortable talking to women. I was also thinking I could get her to teach/show me on how to turn a woman sexually (just foreplay). This would be embarrassing for me but if I got over the embarrassment and learnt these skills I think it would give me a great confidence in normal life. Obviously the crux of this is finding someone who genuinely will teach me! What do you guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 I think it's a great idea. Go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
irin Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 or you can spend that money on activities that can get you close to the ladies. go join a club, or a night class. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dmmm Posted June 18, 2012 Author Share Posted June 18, 2012 lol Ross, not sure if you are being sarcastic there or not? Irin, tbh as I've spent the last 10 years of my life doing nothing I have saved a fair amount of cash that I could do both (that's if I had the guts etc to join the activities). Not that I’m loaded but I do have some savings squirrelled away. Just thinking spending 10-20 hours with this "training" would somehow make up for 10 years of no female contact, or at least give me some basic skills to start from. Eithr than or finding a dating coach but not sure they have them in the UK Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 lol Ross, not sure if you are being sarcastic there or not? Irin, tbh as I've spent the last 10 years of my life doing nothing I have saved a fair amount of cash that I could do both (that's if I had the guts etc to join the activities). Not that I’m loaded but I do have some savings squirrelled away. Just thinking spending 10-20 hours with this "training" would somehow make up for 10 years of no female contact, or at least give me some basic skills to start from. Eithr than or finding a dating coach but not sure they have them in the UK They do have dating coaches in the UK. There is even a girl who came 3rd on Britain's Top Model who is a dating coach. Check meetup, there are a few dating seminars advertised on there. Probably cheaper than asking an escort. Link to post Share on other sites
irin Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 lol Ross, not sure if you are being sarcastic there or not? Irin, tbh as I've spent the last 10 years of my life doing nothing I have saved a fair amount of cash that I could do both (that's if I had the guts etc to join the activities). Not that I’m loaded but I do have some savings squirrelled away. Just thinking spending 10-20 hours with this "training" would somehow make up for 10 years of no female contact, or at least give me some basic skills to start from. Eithr than or finding a dating coach but not sure they have them in the UK trust me, either pick up hobby like sports, tennis is great, not football and rugby women don't really do them much. night classes, alot of universities offer them, i went to one it was full of people of all ages, or dance. something that get you in the room with women, and there will be activities, to take part in so you dont have to sit there and have full length conversation with them, start slowly with hi and bye. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 lol Ross, not sure if you are being sarcastic there or not? Irin, tbh as I've spent the last 10 years of my life doing nothing I have saved a fair amount of cash that I could do both (that's if I had the guts etc to join the activities). Not that I’m loaded but I do have some savings squirrelled away. Just thinking spending 10-20 hours with this "training" would somehow make up for 10 years of no female contact, or at least give me some basic skills to start from. Eithr than or finding a dating coach but not sure they have them in the UK I'm being serious. If you went to see an escort who gave the GFE (girlfriend experience), I think that could be really beneficial. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Hookers know best about what turns a man on. If you want safe, effective advice regarding women, find a licensed sex therapist. He or she will then refer you to a licensed sexual surrogate who does that sort of thing. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Getting a hooker to teach you about how to interact with normal women wouldn't be recommended. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Getting a hooker to teach you about how to interact with normal women wouldn't be recommended. It's similar to watching porn to learn how to have sex. Link to post Share on other sites
xisnotx Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Why not just make a couple strictly platonic female friends? You don't need to be taught how to have sex (turn a girl on, that is). That just comes to you naturally in the moment. Heck, when I was younger I was so pissed off at girls that I'd go up to ones that seemed nice and say "Listen, you girls are confusing...I need some girl advice. Would you mind if I asked you a couple questions? Because my friends don't seem to know what they are talking about either.." And never did I get a negative response...most girls (the nice ones at least) seem to love giving guys girl advice. I remember once a girl walked me through one of my first phone calls to a girl I liked (Got the date too lol)... Link to post Share on other sites
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