yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 Due to popular demands from such as Jenny, etc. I have been asked to provide the source of my original curiosity. I had an EX girlfriend who was obsessed with huge cocks. The likes of which I could not provide. Being very much averagely hung 6-7", it made me feel very much inadequate. In-directly I choose to find out as much as I could about the issue, and see if my feelings of inadequacy are grounded anywhere. What do you suggest I should do about this? Am I missing something? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 The hunt for information on this taboo topic provided literally volumes of information which I had alot of difficulty reading. Call it a morbid obsession. Call it what you will. Typically, I tend to be the type of person to research a topic quite extensively, and find out as much as possible, regardless of content type. Beit completely bizarre, I have done just this on this topic - I have discovered things which are disturbing. I get the feeling around here that people dont like my posts - I will remind you right now, that much of the information found in my posts comes from my research. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 Call it a morbid obsession. That's just it, Yogi. It seems to have gone way beyond just 'interest'. One woman - who, you admitted, did tell you she thought your was a good size - seemed to like large penises. One single woman who may or may not have issues of her own. You ended up with a major need to research the issue - why? To prove her wrong? To deal with the inadequacy that this left you feeling? This could even be a control issue! However it may be, you have posted tons of posts on this topic. Nobody else is that obsessed. Behind any obsession is something. Problem is here, Yogi, you, a man, are obsessed with penises. Now, if I were obsessed with penises, it may still cross over into the unhealthy range but that you are is a red flag. Why get help? To get to the bottom of this and get over the obsession. It's not going to do you any good, you see. It will colour your relationships in a negative way. It's self-defeating. I get the feeling around here that people dont like my posts You're not posting helpful information, really. You are trying to deal with whatever this woman's remarks did to you - either by becoming cynical or being bitter or whatever but none of it is healthy - and especially that you obsess about sex. If you want to research something obsessively, research how to be a good partner. Learn about successful relationships. Study up on how to be a loving, strong, independent man. NOT about relative size, position, and function of body parts!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
bark Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 yogi, please move away from your keyboard and get counseling. LS has become a platform for your obsessions. You're wasting our time and harming yourself. Please, my friend, quit this site and seek professional help. We cannot help you, here. In fact, I believe that LS is hazardous to your health. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 Thank you Moimeme. I have an obsessive personality. Most of the time it is useful. For example, I taught myself how to program computers, trade stocks (which is now a career for me), chess, I taught myself about chemistry once upon a time. I totally realize that it is a completely useless obsession in the sense that it may only make me feel more inadequate in the future. I think at this time, my best solution is probably to avoid LS. I seem to channel alot of this repression into the site. Im not sure this is good for me, or LS. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 Well, maybe LS can help you switch to a newer, healthier obsession? What's your usual time frame for your obsessions? My ex had them; they'd last roughly six months each. Clearly your stock obsession is still there but do you think this one will wear out soon? You could get obsessed with gourmet cooking - that'd make you a winner in a lot of ladies' books, for instance Link to post Share on other sites
Skittles Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 I had an EX girlfriend who was obsessed with huge cocks. The likes of which I could not provide. Being very much averagely hung 6-7", it made me feel very much inadequate. In-directly I choose to find out as much as I could about the issue, and see if my feelings of inadequacy are grounded anywhere. What do you suggest I should do about this? Am I missing something? Yogi is this thread question for real? My brothers' friend used to collect back issues of this mag called F---M, and these topics would be found, almost word for word in the Q&A section in the back, which obviously I read myself out of curiosity. Hope you find peace or whatever it is you need. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 Yogi is this thread question for real? Yes its a real thread. You could get obsessed with gourmet cooking I swear to god, and im not trying to "big myself up" hehe made a joke. I already had/have that obsession. How long do these last? To be honest, I am getting bored with the obsession. Big cocks are interesting for a while, but then it gets boring.. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 I swear to god, and im not trying to "big myself up" hehe made a joke. I already had/have that obsession. Excellent Don't suppose you're planning to travel West, huh? To be honest, I am getting bored with the obsession. Big cocks are interesting for a while, but then it gets boring.. Also excellent! Maybe all your rants here have helped to purge it! I sure hope so because I think you've got a lot going for you and if you can shake this off, you'll be a right good guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 by the way, when I was doing research, it was THIS POST which got me hooked on the site http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t19848/10-1 Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 Yogi Look up 'selective perception' and 'confirmation bias'. You want to do research? These are very interesting concepts. The best researcher needs to be aware of his own biases when doing the research. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 so you think that since I have some deep underlying fear of inadequacy it has slanted my perspective, and thus the reality is much worse than I percieve? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 I see what I want to see, because I have limited my perspective to solving a particular problem. heheh.. so true This tendency to give more attention and weight to data that support our beliefs than we do to contrary data is especially pernicious when our beliefs are little more than prejudices. If our beliefs are firmly established upon solid evidence and valid confirmatory experiments, the tendency to give more attention and weight to data that fit with our beliefs should not lead us astray as a rule. Of course, if we become blinded to evidence truly refuting a favored hypothesis, we have crossed the line from reasonableness to closed-mindedness. Very deep.. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 Fascinating stuff, eh, Yogi? Gives one a whole new perspective on oneself - and on others! Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 moimeme so you think that since I have some deep underlying fear of inadequacy it has slanted my perspective, and thus the reality is much worse than I percieve? Or better? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 Could be, Yogi. Only you can dig out the real reasons - or maybe you'd need a counsellor to help you do it. Certainly it's plausible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 The logic of my question is as follows. If I have slanted my research so that I am not inadequate (at 6"-7") The flip side, is that my research could be correct, in which case every man less than 8" and very thick doesnt have much chance of satisfying 80% of women. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 Honey. Trust me, it's A. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 whatcha mean A?? can u elaborate? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 You posed two options. 'A' is: If I have slanted my research so that I am not inadequate (at 6"-7") B is: The flip side, is that my research could be correct, in which case every man less than 8" and very thick doesnt have much chance of satisfying 80% of women. B is also bullsh*t. Therefore 'A' is correct. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 ok so what you are saying, is that I dont have to worry about being inadeqate because I am not. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Share Posted December 26, 2003 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author yogi-mon Posted December 26, 2003 Author Share Posted December 26, 2003 Ok, well I will allow an oppertunity for people who disagree with Moimeme to speak up. Otherwise. I will call this issue "Done" Link to post Share on other sites
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