danistly887 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I am a guy and have been saving myself for marriage. It's just something I believe in and something I want to do. My worry is that I find a great girl and we are perfect for one another, and we marry and then I cannot perform or I am too small for her. Especially if she herself is not a virgin. My penis is around 5 1/2 inches. The girth is about 4 3/4 inches, just under 5 inches. Is this fine? Is this average? In the Wikipedia article http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis_size it states that my measurements are around average, which surprised me. I have always had anxiety that I am too small, again, especially if my future mate has been with someone bigger. I know some of these replies will be crazy, but I am hoping to get some real feedback, suggestions, advice etc. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
flashbug Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 i'll bet every man at some point in his life, possibly even after losing his virginity, is intimidated by this idea. i've been there too. and i'm also around the average value. what i can tell you from my experience is that it's actually up to you. if you believe you are big enough, you will be, and if you don't, you will not. so now you have statistical figures on one hand and impressions made on you through the years by porn, pop culture, and other men's bragging on the other hand. which one will you choose to believe? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Back when I was a virgin I always thought I was small, since my main comparisons were the male porn stars I saw. Up against John Holmes and Ron Jeremy I was a little lacking. Turned out in reality I was high side of average. TBH, it didn't really matter. Penis size was only one of many tools in my 'toolbox'. IMO, you're average and any woman, save for the most superficial of biatches, will find your equipment more than adequate. Just don't forget all the other tools. BTW, unless you're really religious, don't bother with the saving part. I did the same thing and finally gave up in my mid 30's. Overrated. Link to post Share on other sites
creighton0123 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Yes, your penis size is average. That doesn't mean you have to be. When the time comes, show the ladies what a freak you are under the sheets. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 The only thing you have to worry about is not worrying about this dopey fixation. You are not inordinately small so make it the non-issue it is. Your woman will be interested mostly in you for who you are and not how you rate in such a superficial measurement department. Perhaps you watch porn like many young and inexperienced men do. Be aware that the men in porn represent the exceptions to the rule and producers look for men with big schlongs because it just looks more sensational in action on screen. That all has nothing to do with your personal real reality and if your concerns are at all derived from the apparent "bigness" of other men where porn is usually the place to see the most erect men, get all of that out of your head. You want to meet with and connect with a someone nice obviously,so start by giving her the benefit of the doubt that she's not at all just weighting to be critical of the lack of giant lumber down there. I'm not all that big either but I never got any complaints--and much to the contrary. It's how you use it that matters. Link to post Share on other sites
Author danistly887 Posted July 8, 2011 Author Share Posted July 8, 2011 I've measured again, and erect it's really around 5 1/2 in length and just barley over 4 1/2 in girth/circumference (the width straight across the widest part is a little over 1 1/2 inches. I just get so freaked out I won't be able to please my future wife, especially if she has been with someone else. There is a girl that I really like but I don't know how to proceed. I kinda feel like just pulling it out and getting it erect and saying "this is all I got, i'm sorry, hopefully it will work for you." I mean I can get a pretty strong erection but i'm unsure about my size and I don't really have a good way to tell if I can last a long time, as when most guys masturbate it is in a quick fashion. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Wow, you posted the exact same thread in two locations; and both are in the wrong forum. Congratulations! Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Wow, you posted the exact same thread in two locations; and both are in the wrong forum. Congratulations! Hey! So long as he places his man gift in the right place its okay Link to post Share on other sites
Stung Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 There is a girl that I really like but I don't know how to proceed. I kinda feel like just pulling it out and getting it erect and saying "this is all I got, i'm sorry, hopefully it will work for you." Well, I would strongly advise against taking that course of action . You're average. Everything's okay. Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 It's not what you've got, it's what you do with it. That really is so true. Thanks to media and porn, we're all led to believe that a woman will only get pleasure from a guy packing a baseball bat in his pants, but the truth is all most women get from that is severe pain and problems sitting down. Porn is fake - plenty of viagra and lots of retakes. Plus, peer pressure can really be a problem here, but those that usually have a laugh about penis size are the ones who generally are most concerned about it too. I very much doubt you have anything to worry about - apart from the obvious nerves of losing it for the first time... One thing to remember is that many women don't experience orgasm through intercourse alone, they generally like or want a bit more stimulation prior, during and after. So don't just rely on the tool when you've got the toolbox ready to go. A mate came out with a great chat up line once - used to be quite happy with his average sized penis and didn't hide the fact from potential girl friends. His line, after explaining his size, was simply "it may be average but what I can do with it isn't". It generally caused much laughter but quite often it worked. Think that's how he met his wife too... Link to post Share on other sites
Teknoe Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Wow, you posted the exact same thread in two locations; and both are in the wrong forum. Congratulations! Ah, you're on plentyoffish too, eh? Link to post Share on other sites
Forever Learning Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 (edited) i do think you will be just fine with your future spouse. there's alot more to sex besides just penis size. it is also willingness to please your lover, getting over shyness and asking your lover what they like, your lover getting over their shyness and telling you what they like, the both of you discovering together what you both like and what is fun. the biggest problem for you is worrying about this unknown sexual stuff, and lacking self confidence. that is understandable, because confidence grows as you gain experience. you don't have experience yet, so you don't have confidence yet. catch 22 right? that's life though. since you are saving yourself for marriage, you cant do to much to gain experience right now. someone said that waiting for marriage to have sex is highly over-rated. i think Carhill said that. I fully agree with that. hopefully you will allow yourself to have some sort of sexual activity (handjobs, etc) to help ease some of your nerves about the whole thing. there is alot more to sex than penis size. that will become more and more apparent to you once you start having sex. and like anything, practice makes perfect (or better at least). what a fun thing to practice at. keep an open mind about all the different things you can do that are sexual to make someone else feel good. don't rush things in bed. touch her all over and ask her what feels good. if you are a considerate, caring lover, she will be crazy about you and always want more of what you've got to give. the whole toolbox thing is great advice. that means don't be afraid to use your hands, give and receive oral, and even bring sex toys into the pictures someday. its all good and it will make you darn near irreplaceable to her in the long run. there are alot of larger sized guys who WONT do these things, and therefore they get boring in bed after a while. keep that in mind. good luck! Edited July 8, 2011 by Forever Learning Link to post Share on other sites
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