minimimi Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 Right, I'm an 18 year old girl and i've been with current boyfriend for about 7 weeks, but we were seeing eachother for a few months before. Since we've been together he has completely stopped taking an interest in everything. He never asks me to do anything, and when i ask him he's always busy, or agrees then cancels last minute. As a rule doesnt reply to my texts and ignores me when he sees me in person. At first i thought maybe i was just expecting too much too early in the relationship, but nothing's changed, and it's got worse if anything. It's been making me really miserable because outside of college we socialise in a group of 6, which by complete fluke has become 3 couples. However the three boys are all going off to uni in september, whereas the girls have another year of college. I've known for a while that it isn't going to last, and have questioned why i'm still in the relationship. and because we've finished college for the summer now there's no pressure from the other two couples. I'm sure that my boyfriend isn't bothered about the relationship, but i'm just not quite sure how to end it. After sending him a text and getting no reply on Saturday i decided to have a few drinks, and ended up bumping into my ex. We gradually got more and more drunk and ended up kissing. We then sat outside my house for about an hour talking about us. And he said that he still thinks about me, and i said the same, and i said that i thought if i hadn't have ended it last year we'd still be together. My ex also has a girlfriend who he says he hasnt seen in weeks, but i dont know what to think.He asked me to go round his today to watch films, i was talking to him and he didnt mention today at all, so i've assumed that it's not on anymore. But he was saying that it was a good night, and it was just like old times, and i woke up yesterday morning feeling so happy. And i dont feel guilty at all about cheating because if i'm honest i dont feel like i'm in a relationship. But equally, when i break up with my boyfriend, do i tell him? I'm just so confused. Help? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 Given your dynamics, it sounds to me like you'd be better off dating and not having a BF. Shelve exclusivity for now. Fewer expectations and worries. Go out with who you want and have intimacy with who you want. It's perfectly normal at 18. If your current BF is distant, break up with him. If your ex has a girlfriend, tell him you'll consider dating him when he's single and available. Then, look around. Lots of single and available guys everywhere Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 Hello Minimimi! I responded in the other forum you posted in - very much on the same lines as Carhill, here! We may be 'oldies' but we think along the same lines! Link to post Share on other sites
asireen Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 Did your current bf get sex from you? If yes, you are a statistic and he is looking for his next conquest. If no, he is not interested in you because he is not getting what he wants. A majority of guys, at any age, want sex on a regular basis. If they dont get it, it is good bye ... Link to post Share on other sites
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