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Old 12th March 2019, 7:10 AM   #16
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SIL needs to check herself! She has someone (you) who is willing to completely take over to keep her mother safe, and she's so worried about maintaining control that she's putting her own mother in harm's way.
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Old 12th March 2019, 9:06 AM   #17
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At the family's insistence, I backed off. Now I have more extended family calling me & asking me what's going on. I found out those extended family members have reached out to SIL & BIL to find out what is going on. SIL & BIL say they have it under control & BIL is going over there to check on MIL. BIL told me he's too busy & will go next week, some time after the 18th. Meanwhile SIL told me not to listen to the extended family because they are all histrionic liars, prone to exaggeration.

Last night I made DH look at mom's FB page because the nonsense posted on there -- the same music video posted every day since January 25 -- finally made DH concerned.

Then I called MIL on DH's phone & put the phone on speaker. During the conversation MIL explained to DH that she has this new "job" where she uploads videos to the computer to do on line marketing for some band. She insisted that she is putting up new content daily & that she controls who has access to the website she created for the band.

DH was almost in tears when he got off the phone because he didn't even recognize his own mother given the gibberish that was coming out of her mouth. She hurried him off the phone because she had to go talk to the band manager about getting paid. She was upset that the manager was controlling her.

DH was so upset he called his father for help. God Bless my FIL. He point blank said D0nnivain has been bringing all of this to your attention for years, it's about time you listen to her. Why are you calling me? Do what she says & get your ass on a plane to go get your mother to a doctor. FIL did agree to call BIL on the ground & encourage BIL to get over to MILs house today.

I ended up walking away because DH still thinks his brother can fix all of this. BIL hasn't done anything & it's all getting worse.

The sad part is that the extended family who calls won't take action either because they don't want MIL or SIL to get mad at them. Ugh.

Thanks for letting me vent.
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Old 13th March 2019, 4:15 AM   #18
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Old 13th March 2019, 5:58 PM   #19
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BIL finally went over there. I spoke to MIL's PCP. Things are looking better.
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