fromheart Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 So my Mom is in her 70's, fit and able and totally independent. Unfortunately she has bad neighbors, though nothing criminal has happened as such, she has been made to feel unsafe in her back yard. The police have been notified, bu there not that helpful, only if something bad actually does happen will they respond. I'm exploring legal action, starting documentation etc. Thing is, on the long run these type of things rarely get better. I've told my Mom plainly, the only really effective long term solution is to move. She doesn't want to though, and wont be chased away. Good on her for standing up for herself. But she's going to get older. The neighbors could get worse. Bottom line, I want to see her in a better area and she wont move. Any advice and experience appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Artdeco Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 What happened? Did she have an argument with her neighbors? If, like you say, she’s an independent woman, I don’t think you’ll be able to change her mind, despite her age. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 Leave her be & buy her a security system -- motion sensor lights, a burglar alarm & maybe one of those cameras where you can see who is at the door from your phone. It's her life. She's been there a long time. Change is scary. As long as she has all her faculties, she's an adult who is allowed to make her own decisions even if you disagree with them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 Moving is tiresome, time-consuming, costly, and just flat out a pain. Give your mom some credit for knowing her own mind and don’t add to her frustrations by coercing her into moving, or judging her about not moving. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fromheart Posted September 13, 2018 Author Share Posted September 13, 2018 (edited) Moving is tiresome, time-consuming, costly, and just flat out a pain. Give your mom some credit for knowing her own mind and don’t add to her frustrations by coercing her into moving, or judging her about not moving. Very true, she really does react if I suggest moving. Its a lot of worry and anger that I am going through, takes a lot of restraint to not just lay into the neighbor. Im not going to do that, but that does go through my head. I work overseas sometimes, may have to consider cancelling that. But yeah, as all 3 of you are saying it is her life and her decision. Edited September 13, 2018 by fromheart Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 There are bad neighbors everywhere. Even if she moves, whats to say the next home won't have a hooligan next door. I flipped a lot of houses in my life and there was always at least one bad neighbor. Unless your going to move her to a 100 acre lot on the side of a mountain, she is going to have neighbors. I like "d0nnivain's" suggestion regarding the security system, camera(s), etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Whodatdog Posted September 14, 2018 Share Posted September 14, 2018 Maybe a privacy fence around the back yard? Would be cheaper than moving. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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