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Old 19th February 2018, 1:36 PM   #31
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My mother and I had a terrible relationship with because of the sexual, physical, emotional and psychological abuse she inflicted on me. She discovered radical feminism and felt that it justified the way she treated me because it was about time men and boys had the boot on their neck. I became the punching bag for all her rage and she never showed any remorse. Despite that I forgave her because it isn't good walking around with that hatred and I was becoming no better than her by hating women.

My father I sort of get along with but he stood by and did nothing while it happened. When my mom would make me live on the street because she couldn't stand to even look at a male he refused to take me in because he didn't want to make her angry. That is how afraid he was of her.

I have no brothers or sisters.
Do you forgive your father? I'm asking because I know how hard it is to forgive a parent who enabled another parent's abuse.

You're very right about not holding on to hatred. I became a happier woman when I let go of grudges. Clutching anger and resentment only weighs us down. We are all just fallible human beings trying to get through life.

At this point, I feel sorry for my mother and I wish her a peaceful retirement. I'm still polite and loving to her because she raised me to the best of her ability and there were still happy moments in spite of the abuse.
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Old 19th February 2018, 8:06 PM   #32
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Do you forgive your father? I'm asking because I know how hard it is to forgive a parent who enabled another parent's abuse.

You're very right about not holding on to hatred. I became a happier woman when I let go of grudges. Clutching anger and resentment only weighs us down. We are all just fallible human beings trying to get through life.

At this point, I feel sorry for my mother and I wish her a peaceful retirement. I'm still polite and loving to her because she raised me to the best of her ability and there were still happy moments in spite of the abuse.
I forgave pretty much everybody who wronged me for my sake as well as their's. With everything I have going for me in life right now why hang on to old grudges?
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Old 21st February 2018, 11:55 PM   #33
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I have good relationships with my parents and sister, but I'm not super close to them. I'm just a bit too different.
Are you the black sheep of the family? Because I know I definitely am. Not the least bit ashamed of it. People mostly seem to be attracted to my energy rather than repelled by it, though.
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Old 22nd February 2018, 10:30 PM   #34
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Dad - Highly intelligent but emotionally retarded. An abusive bully who approved of only one of the kids in our family, the one that wasn't his.
Mum - A narcissist, self absorbed, a compulsive liar, insensitive and ignorant. Had numerous affairs and brought her long-term lovers child into the family
Sister #1 - Emotionally damaged but kind, intelligent, and one of my best friends
Sister #2 - A pretentious, money-obsessed narcissist who I have no time for.
Sister #3 - A sociopath. Mummy and Daddy's Golden Child. Never given any boundaries, a cruel and relentless bully, toxic enough to poison the whole family. Now deceased
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Old 23rd February 2018, 5:23 AM   #35
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Dad - Highly intelligent but emotionally retarded. An abusive bully who approved of only one of the kids in our family, the one that wasn't his.
Mum - A narcissist, self absorbed, a compulsive liar, insensitive and ignorant. Had numerous affairs and brought her long-term lovers child into the family
Sister #1 - Emotionally damaged but kind, intelligent, and one of my best friends
Sister #2 - A pretentious, money-obsessed narcissist who I have no time for.
Sister #3 - A sociopath. Mummy and Daddy's Golden Child. Never given any boundaries, a cruel and relentless bully, toxic enough to poison the whole family. Now deceased

Be honest...is Sister 3 the youngest? Only reason why I ask is because the youngest tends to get spoiled the most....I know because I was one of those children...
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Old 23rd February 2018, 5:56 AM   #36
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Dad - Control freak, obsessive, wearisome, will always blame me
Mom - Addictive personality, overly protective, anxious, strict, would blame and even yell at me when I'm sad and vulnerable
Brother - Low self-esteem, loudmouthed, emotional, pessimistic

Even though they also have good qualities and I love them, it's no secret that they make my life harder sometimes. That could be because I'm still living with them.. Sometimes I feel like I can't get anything I want without fighting for it.
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Old 23rd February 2018, 8:57 AM   #37
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i love my family ...all of them.....all i crave for them ...is to be happy....and i will be happy....my happiness my sadness ...my smiles and my tears...is wrapped up in my family..even the ones i dont see anymore or talk to ...i love them too and want happiness for them..even if happiness means no contact with me.......i would prefer they have happiness...and ill love from a distance with prayers and vibe them good thoughts....


i love this thread its nice to see recognition of family and the love to be had....with flaws and all..theres no subtracting family from love....only addition.......deb
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Old 23rd February 2018, 2:28 PM   #38
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I copied and pasted from K.K. 's thread, post a random fact about you in 2017.

Hmmmm... a random fact about me. Well, I was conceived through my mothers apartment being broken into and her being raped. She was stricken with polio when she was I think three years of age and sent to live in a crippled childrens home until the age of 18 years of age and then told she could leave to live as an adult. She succombed too her poor health at 29 years of age and passed away. Her sister then adopted me, at 3 years of age. I believe growing up with this information has made me more compassionate towards those with disabilities. It's sort of a privilege to be able to help someone that is need of assistance.

So I was taken in by my aunt. She told me one day, I asked, what I should call her and she said, anything I wanted, so I called her mom. She had four children and her youngest , a girl, was three months older than me, so we were like twins, very close. She was always protective of me, like my personal body guard throughout our school years.

There were times, that I felt an outsider, not being the biological child, but for the most part, I know that i was a very lucky individual, considering my situation. I didn't become an orphan.

My mom didn't legally adopt me, until I was 17 years old. So I lived under the radar fourteen years, without the schools or any legal system questioning this.Then again that was 1967 through 1981.

I did have a good relationship with my Mom/Aunt, and the youngest of her children, we were definitely close throughout our school years. We live in different states now, however, we talk daily.
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Old 23rd February 2018, 7:59 PM   #39
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Be honest...is Sister 3 the youngest? Only reason why I ask is because the youngest tends to get spoiled the most....I know because I was one of those children...
No, I'm the youngest
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Old 24th February 2018, 4:14 PM   #40
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[QUOTE=Eternal Sunshine;7540315]I am blessed with the most loving and supportive family I could imagine.
Even though I live in another state now, we have a family group online chat and we talk all the time.

My mum is the kindest person I have ever met. She is my best friend and has stood by me no matter what.

My dad is more reserved but we are still close. He is just not as good in expressing emotions. I tend to seek practical advice from him (i.e. mortgage, boss problems..).

My brother and I are also very close. We share similar sense of humor and similar interests.

I had a picture perfect childhood. The only downside is that they have all set a bar very high in terms of empathy and integrity. Once I was out in the adult world, I got a very rude awakening when I saw that most people are not even close to that.[
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Old 9th March 2018, 12:59 AM   #41
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Mine are all dead. For perspective, I am 32. Enjoy your families while you can.
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Old 13th March 2018, 12:44 PM   #42
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Dad - amazing person, gentle and kind with everyone. Very submissive, does everything my mom wants.

Mom - manipulative, guilt-tripping person. Throws a tantrum if something does not follow what she wants.

Grandpa - once a very authoritarian man, regreted the way he acted his entire life and now he's the sweetest thing.

Grandma - typical housewife from the 50's, submissive and very kind with everybody.

I have no siblings and the rest of my family can suck it.

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Old 14th March 2018, 6:46 PM   #43
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Dad - amazing person, gentle and kind with everyone. Very submissive, does everything my mom wants.

Mom - manipulative, guilt-tripping person. Throws a tantrum if something does not follow what she wants.

Grandpa - once a very authoritarian man, regreted the way he acted his entire life and now he's the sweetest thing.

Grandma - typical housewife from the 50's, submissive and very kind with everybody.

I have no siblings and the rest of my family can suck it.


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Old 14th March 2018, 7:33 PM   #44
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Honestly? My family was pretty disfunctional when we were young, and it affected our adult relationships.

Mom - Mentally ill much of her life. I am very thankful that I was able to make amends and come to terms with "she doesn't want to be this way" and that fact that her early childhood abuse damaged her in ways that she was not able to recover from. All and all, we had a decent relationship, it was hard to get along with her, especially when I was young, but eventually I learned how to interact with her.

Dad
- I love and admire this man more than I could ever express. We have a good relationship, one full of love and respect. I don't talk to him every day, or week, or even month - but we are still quite close. For many years it was me and him as he raised me as largely a single father.

Sister - We do not have a good relationship. She is 9 years older than me (bio half sister) and honestly struggles with some of the same mental health issues my mother had. I find her difficult to get along with. She hasn't spoken to me since our mothers death - when I said I had made peace with her (mother) and didn't identify with the anger my sister still has for her. Our relationship has always included years of estrangement. (she has gone years not talking to our dad, didn't talk to our mom for almost 10 etc)

Brother - Good but not close relationship. He (10 years older, bio half) moved out when I was 8 years old, and we just didn't grow up very close. We love each other, and get along, but do not see each other more than once a year.

Step Mother- We get along well, another relationship with love and respect, if not super close.

Thats it for my immediate family. I never had any grandparents, or uncles or aunts involved in my life (either dead, far away, or apathetic). My family was never a "big close family".

My dad tends to be a bit of as loner, and I definitly follow his foot steps.

My step mother is the one that gets people together for family gatherings, her large family comes out, and my brother and his family do - occasionally my sister does if we can convince her to make the effort.
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